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    cld200      

    I found cute invitations that say 'he asked she said yes' and then 'please join us as ....and ... become husband and wife....  They are really cute!  Are these OK since they do not identify my parents or the grooms parents-even though they are paying for most of the wedding??

     
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    TrishaDean    July 24, 2004   San Francisco Bay Area

    You should check with your parents - actually both sets of parents if both are contributing. I wanted to do something similar (with divorced and remarried parents it was just too many names on the invite!) but I spoke with my mom and dad and they were both very upset that they would not be listed on the invites. They were contributing, they were so proud of me and my FI (at the time) and wanted to be recognized as contributing as well. Since it is your day you can do whatever you wish on the invites, I would just ask their opinions to make sure they feel good about it as well.

     
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    MrsJellybean227    January 1, 2011   TN

    Tradition states that you are supposed to include parents names if they're paying. You should talk to your families and see how they feel about it. My mom wouldn't like it at all if I didn't put their names on the invite, she's just a very traditional woman.

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    You should include them on the invitation since they are the ones paying..

     
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    TobeMrsG    August 15, 2010   New York

    Maybe you can use the "cute wording" for save the dates and the more formal wording with your parents names for the actual invitation?

    How formal/where is the wedding? Place and time could traditionally call for more formal wording.

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    I agree, you have to ask your parents in this case.  Sometimes they are expecting certain things, even if they don't voice them... Can't hurt to ask.. you could spare some hurt feelings later by doing it..

     
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    libra5979    04/18/10   Arizona

    I re-worked the wording on our invites to include my parent's names since they are paying for our wedding. I wanted to make sure they were "recognized" for their generous contributions! Maybe you can re-work the wording? 

     
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    cpgirl2000    April 25, 2010  

    A friend of mine recently ordered her invites.  Her and her FI and footing the bill for the wedding so they opted not to include either parents name on the invite.  Apparently her mom was so upset that she wasn't on the invite that she wouldn't speak to her for a week and was being drama for her.  So, to avoid any issues run it by both of your parents so they are aware of it.  Both my parents and my FI's parents are paying so it was a definite we wanted them on our invites.  So, far we've been pretty drama free :) 

     
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    jordynrose    October 16, 2010   Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

    I would ok it with your respective parents before ordering, but I think it is cute wording.

     
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    Miss Sayrah    May 30, 2010   Charlotte, NC

    Our invitations read

    Sarah Middle Last

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    Clint Middle Last

    along with their parents

    blah blah blah

    My parents' contribution will be paying for the bulk of the wedding but I just liked this wording better. My mom loved it too but (thankfully) they aren't the type of parents that want or need to be recognized    on an invitation because they are paying. I would just run it by your parents and your fiance's parents and  tell them that you both really love the wording and would like to use it. If there are objections, maybe try just saying "with their parents" or "along with their parents" if you don't want to include a bunch of Mr. and Mrs. on the invites.

     

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