(Closed) wording on invitations-and who is paying???

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
11 posts
  • Wedding: July 2004

You should check with your parents – actually both sets of parents if both are contributing. I wanted to do something similar (with divorced and remarried parents it was just too many names on the invite!) but I spoke with my mom and dad and they were both very upset that they would not be listed on the invites. They were contributing, they were so proud of me and my Fiance (at the time) and wanted to be recognized as contributing as well. Since it is your day you can do whatever you wish on the invites, I would just ask their opinions to make sure they feel good about it as well.

Post # 4
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Tradition states that you are supposed to include parents names if they’re paying. You should talk to your families and see how they feel about it. My mom wouldn’t like it at all if I didn’t put their names on the invite, she’s just a very traditional woman.

Post # 5
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You should include them on the invitation since they are the ones paying..

Post # 6
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe you can use the “cute wording” for save the dates and the more formal wording with your parents names for the actual invitation?

How formal/where is the wedding? Place and time could traditionally call for more formal wording.

Post # 7
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree, you have to ask your parents in this case.  Sometimes they are expecting certain things, even if they don’t voice them… Can’t hurt to ask.. you could spare some hurt feelings later by doing it..

Post # 8
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I re-worked the wording on our invites to include my parent’s names since they are paying for our wedding. I wanted to make sure they were “recognized” for their generous contributions! Maybe you can re-work the wording? 

Post # 9
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

A friend of mine recently ordered her invites.  Her and her Fiance and footing the bill for the wedding so they opted not to include either parents name on the invite.  Apparently her mom was so upset that she wasn’t on the invite that she wouldn’t speak to her for a week and was being drama for her.  So, to avoid any issues run it by both of your parents so they are aware of it.  Both my parents and my FI’s parents are paying so it was a definite we wanted them on our invites.  So, far we’ve been pretty drama free 🙂 

Post # 10
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would ok it with your respective parents before ordering, but I think it is cute wording.

Post # 11
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our invitations read

Sarah Middle Last


Clint Middle Last

along with their parents

blah blah blah

My parents’ contribution will be paying for the bulk of the wedding but I just liked this wording better. My mom loved it too but (thankfully) they aren’t the type of parents that want or need to be recognized    on an invitation because they are paying. I would just run it by your parents and your fiance’s parents and  tell them that you both really love the wording and would like to use it. If there are objections, maybe try just saying “with their parents” or “along with their parents” if you don’t want to include a bunch of Mr. and Mrs. on the invites.

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