Post # 1
I originally had our invitations as:
Mr. and Mrs. (bride’s Dad) and (bride’s Mom) (Last name)
Mr. and Mrs. (groom’s Dad) and (groom’s Mom) (Last name)
request the honor…etc etc
Someone asked me whether or not that was the “correct” way to phrase it. I personally don’t like listing the Dad’s name but not the Mom’s name like this:
Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones
I like that I incorporated the Mom’s name in mine (Mr. and Mrs. Bob and Jane Jones). But is that correct? Does it make sense that I phrase it that way?
Post # 3
I don’t like doing Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones either. And, my parents have different last names (though they are married). We didn’t use titles at all on ours, just the parents’ names “Jane Smith and Bob Jones” and “John and Mary Johnson”. This is less formal, but it worked the best for us.
Post # 4
Thankfully, etiquette on these sorts of things is slowly eroding a bit so that you can do whatever you want and nobody will think ill of you. You can do what @Beckster329: did and keep them informal; you can do exactly what you are planning on doing; you can do it the super old-school Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones way, or you can leave their names off completely and stick with “together with their parents”! You have plenty of options, and none of them are wrong. So go with whatever makes your little heart smile 🙂
Post # 5
I’d just ask your parents what they’re most comfortable with! Also….the way you have it looks a little funny. Could you do Mr. and Mrs. Jane and Bob Jones? Otherwise you see Mrs. Bob….hehe.
Post # 6
The old-school rule is that the man’s first and last name aren’t supposed to be divided.
I have to say, I feel like that rule has outlived its time. Just this morning I was addressing an invitation to my cousin, who is a physician, and her husband, who is not. The traditional way of writing it out would have had “Mr. & Dr. J*** F******” on the envelope – and I just don’t like how that makes the “Dr.” that belongs to her appear in front of his name. He’s not Dr. J*** F*****!
I bent the rule a bit and wrote “Dr. (her name) and Mr. J*** F******.” She earned that MD, I want her to get full credit for it!
Post # 7
Technically, the man is never separated from his name.
So it would be Jane and bob Jones.
Post # 8
Yeah, I guess the way I have it might be a little long. Maybe I will do it less formal (John and Jane Jones). I’ll see what my parents think!
Post # 9
Ask your parents how they prefer to see their names written. That is the correct way to write them.
My parents preferred to have no titles (and, fortunately, so did Future In-Laws, so we didn’t have to work that out, since we wanted to list both parents). Since Fiance & I are having a less formal wedding it all came together for us really well.
If you have your heart set on a formal wedding, then you should probably use titles, and you should ask your parents what titles they prefer be used on the invitations.
My parents suprised me a bit, they wanted the outer envelope addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Dad LastName, een with the informal names on the actual invitation!