Post # 1
So how are you bees wording thank yous to those who gave cash/check?
It seems so much easier with an acutal gift item to say, “Thank you so much for new sheets, we’re looking forward to using them!”
With cash are you saying, “Thank so much for the cash/check!” It feels weird to me to say that.
Would this be appropriate? :
Thank you so much for your generous gift, we’re looking forward to completing some house projects and your gift will definitely come in handy!
We had a couple of people RSVP no, but included a check. Is it okay to go ahead and send them a TY or should I wait until after the wedding?
Post # 3
I don’t necessarily think you always have to follow the “rule” of stating what it is being used for or when you are using it. As such, for us, we are just writing “Thank you so much for joining us on our special day and for your generous gift! It means so much to both of us that you were able to attend” (or some derivative of this depending on the person and the relationship we have with them.)
Post # 4
@starfish0116: That is exactly the wording I used. We went to Walt Disney World for our honeymoon so I elaborated on the various dinners or special things that we did using their “generous gift.”
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Send your thank yous now- you will be glad you did! (Makes the job easier after the wedding.)
Since we had an idea of what the money would be used towards, we usually wrote something like this:
“We can not thank you enough for the generous check you sent. This will go a long way towards our new life and home together. We will be buying new furniture for the living room, and we’ll be using your gift towards that.”
Post # 6
I used the same wording as you used in your OP. I varied what the money would be used for based on who gave it- for instance, most of my family/family friends, I mentioned that we were using it for household items (specific, or just that we were applying it towards equipment for our new apartment). Some of my friends, I mentioned that we were using it for certain things on our honeymoon.
ETA: Yes, I would send the thank yous now 🙂
Post # 7
There is a great book it’s called the art of the hand written note. It should help.
Post # 8
the last wedding i gave cash for i got a thank you mentioning that the couple was working hard toward their dream of homeownership and my gift was going toaward that. i thought that was nice
Post # 9
Several of our guests gave us cash or checks. I already own a house and DH is in the process of selling his, so we are not saving for a home… There ARE plenty of issues/projects in our house though.
We wrote something along the lines of:
Dear Auntie Jane and Uncle Steve,
Thank you so much for your very generous gift. We have decided to save up for a new washer and dryer and your gift will help us reach our goal. Thank you for making the start of our married life a little easier!
It was so nice to see you both at the wedding. Thank you for sharing the day with us and showing your love and support for us and our marriage. We’re looking forward to seeing you again at Thanksgiving!
UmbrellaMoon & DH
There were, of course, differences among the letters, but we didn’t refer to the $$ amount, and whether someone gave $25 or $25,000 we thanked them for the generous gift. – Because every gift was generous, nobody was obligated to give us a single cent.
Post # 10
The two checks we just got are from people who declined. It feels strange listing exactly what we plan to do with the money. I figured I’d just thank them for the generous gift and that we’re looking forward to home renovations with it.