Post # 1
I am trying to figure out the wording of mine and my FI’s invitations to our wedding, but have come to a bit of a dilemma. Traditionally, the parents of the bride’s names would go at the top of the invitation (or whoever paid for the wedding) as the person giving the invite to their daughters wedding.
My parents are divorced, and my father and step-mother are helping with wedding expenses. My real mother however, is not really contributing financially to the wedding at all, and I don’t speak to her very often. How should I word the invite? With my father and step-mothers names, with “together with their parents” and just have my FI and my name listed, or have all three parents listed?
Post # 3
It really depends on what works for you and your family. Talk to you dad. Does he feel that he and his wife are the “hosts” and should be the ones issuing the invitation? Would your mom feel hurt if she was left off? How do you feel about it? What feels right to you?
Technically, the hosts issue the invitation. But that rule isn’t always followed strictly because sometimes family members feel strongly about being included (or not having non-contributing members included).
Do you have any idea how your family feels about it?
Post # 4
I had a sort of similar dilemma- we wordered ours…”together with their families”
Post # 5
On the wedding invitations, we’re putting ‘together with our parents’. But on the programs, I’m putting,
‘Parents of Bride
Mrs & Mr Jone (Starting with my biological mom, since she raised me with my stepdad)
Mr & Mrs Doe ‘(And then having my biological dad named with my step mom)
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
As a PP said, I think probably best to discuss with your dad. I included both my mom, and my father & step-mother, but I am close with my mom, and she contributed as well.
It’s a toughie! I hate that there are so many politics involved with wedding planning 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with answer, maybe speak with your dad first but it may help avoid drama if you just put “together with their families”