Post # 1
fizicsGuy goes by the nickname of his middle name (I don’t think there’s anyone who calls him by his first name). I think the proper way to write this is:
Charles Edward ("Ed") Cheese
but that seems really weird to me for the invitation (yes, we’re waaaay late on these).
He says he wants either:
Charles Edward Cheese?
I’m a bit worried about the last one b/c I think most people don’t realize that he goes by his middle name so it might be confusing…what do you all think? I should add that we’re having a pretty formal wedding so I’m hesitant to just write his nickname. We’re not putting his parents middle names b/c he thinks they wouldn’t like it. We’re putting my Dad’s b/c a lot of people call him by first and middle name (John Bob) so it’s a little weird not to have it.
Post # 3
I would suggest Charles "Edward" Cheese or just Charles Edward Cheese. I think people will figure it out. Good luck! (and my invites for 7/26 just went out on Thursday, so you’re not too late!)
Post # 4
I think go with "Charles Edward Cheese" – Mr. "doe" has the same situation and I think that is what we will do … just because invitations seem like that place to be formal. Plus, I think it is what his parents would prefer.
Even if most people don’t know his "real" name, I don’t think they’ll be confused…in fact, they will probably get a kick out of seeing it (especially, if there is a good reason it is rarely used!).
Post # 5
Thanks gals…I should also mention that his first name is that of his Dad, and his middle name is that of his Mom’s brother (who passed away as a child). His parents have always called him by his middle name though.
Also, we’re having a folder style invitation and with inserts. The cover of the folder has our names:
He really wanted it to be his nickname on that. So maybe this will help people figure it out??
Post # 6
I think that sounds about right, especially if you have the insert with what people call you. My brother goes by a nickname from his middle name (George Andrew Jones – goes by Andy) and I think people would figure it out. I wouldn’t include the "Ed" or "Edward" in quotes, I’d just use the full given name.
Post # 7
I would go with the formal version and his whole name but put his NICKNAME and what people call him on the return envelopes for the rsvp and on the reception card..
Such as on return address:
Mr. and Mrs. Ed Cheese
1234 baker street,
Atlanta, Georgia 1234
and on the reception card/insert:
Ed and Sue’s Reception immediately following
7:00 pm Ritz Carlton Grand Ballroom (not sure if this is formal but you get the message)
and on Save the Dates you can do the same!
Celebrate with Ed and Sue!
they’re getting married!
I just think there are a myriad of ways to get across he doesn’t go by Charles, he goes by Ed, however I don’t think the place to express that is on the formal invitation.
Post # 8
I’m sure Charles Edward will work. People will definitely figure it out, especially if you give them the "clues" you’ve been talking about.
Have you considered maybe C. Edward? I think that’s fairly common in cases like these.
Post # 9
I started with C. Edward Cheese, but he hates it.
I think we’ll do Charles Edward Cheese
and leave "Mary and Ed" on the front of the invite. Hopefully people will figure it out…we also have ‘Mary and Ed’ on the banner across our website which is http://www.MaryandEd.com
Post # 10
I think people will figure it out also! My fiancee also goes by his middle name, but the invitation itself is the only place we’ll be using his full name. In all other situations–save the dates, rsvp card, and also our wedding website we use his middle name. He’s also a II, but his dad has passed, so there really isn’t any more confusion.
Post # 11
This is kinda funny b/c my guy goes by a morphed up name of his father’s name (his dad is named Ed btw!) and it’s not anything close to his long name which ends in a IV. Lol!
We find it kinda funny, b/c we would do the formal invite with his long name on it and his nickname on the other enclosures and on the std card. My sister said "If you put his given name on the invite, people will think you met somebody else and ditched him! They’ll think you were a baaaad bride!" (funny or what?)
Post # 12
I say Charles Edward Cheese, after all it is his given name. And since you have Mary & Ed on the front, I think there will be NO problems with people figuring it out!
Post # 13
I agree with Charles Edward Cheese…..my mum, my uncle, my grandfather, my nana & my great uncle all use/d their middle names in day-to-day life, but for formal events use First Middle (regular name) Last.
Gosh, now that I wrote that out it looks funny, none of them are ever called their first names day-to-day, but for something formal like an invite, I would use their First and Middle with their surname.
Post # 14
I have a similar problem. My fiance goes by a name which isn’t his name at all though! In high school, he was nicknamed for an old television character that he resembled at the time, and the name stuck. The only person who still consistently calls him by his birth name is his mother. Even his dad, aunt, uncle, grandmother, etc. generally call him by his nickname. Most of his coworkers don’t even know it’s not his real name. His ID tag, work email, etc. is all in his non-legal name.
My solution? I included his nickname on the Save the Date, but will only have his legal name on the more formal invitation. I figure this gives my relatives a head’s up that they should call him by the name in quotation marks, while still satisfying the need for formality and etiquette on the invitation. On the save the date, it read:
Save the date for the wedding of
& Nathan "Nickname" Hislastname
The invitation will have all the fancy stuff about my parents inviting the guest, etc. and then:
Nathaniel Daniel Hislastname
Our other dilemma is based on the fact that he actually has 2 middle names! I haven’t finished designing the invitiation, so we’ll have to see if all of his names will fit aesthetically.