(Closed) Words of Wisdom/Vent and help please

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

wow…it sounds like you’re living with my mom (minus the rolling around pantsless). can someone say CONTROL FREAK/HATEFUL BITCH? i think you need to find a temporary repreive from her. family can put THE MOST stress on a relationship. trust me – my mom has ended SEVERAL of my relationships bc she’s just straight NUTS. is there any way that you and FI can stay at an extended stay hotel? usually they are like 800/month and you don’t pay utilities, etc. what does your FI say about her calling you names?? mine would flip shit x 10 if his mom ever said that to me (not that she would bc she is THE BEST lady ever…just sayin). if he’s not stepping in and putting that foot down, i’d say it’s time to have a long talk with him. and by long talk with him i mean he better be having an even LONGER talk with her FFS! i would insist that if she isn’t taking her recovery seriously, then you and your FI cannot be expected to tend to her….seriously. either that or just roll a marijuana cig and stick it in one of her (many) packs. it may chill her ass out!

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am very sorry! That must be a very difficult situation. I don’t know how much advice I can give other than maybe never dicuss the wedding in her presence. I also wouldn’t spend much time in common areas. Hopefully the two of you have plans to move out as soon as you’re married? You guys need to get away for couple time. I know that is easier said then done but even just going camping or something might help. (you could always borrow camping gear.)

Hugs * I wish i could help. I will pray for you. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me 🙂

Post # 7
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sbharkness83: I understand. I wouldn’t want to look back and resent her either. As someone who has done hospice her whole life can I ask what her life expectancy is?

I wish I could solve this problem for you. I too wish you didn’t have to deal with this at such an important time. My prayer for you guys is that having to go through this struggle early in your marriage that it strengthens your bond. Stay strong for each other. This must be a stressful time for your FH too.

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