Post # 1
So, I am so flattered and excited that some co-workers are going to throw me a bridal shower (for work people). I work at a school and someone always throws a bridal shower for the woman getting married. Now my question…am I obligated to invite them to my wedding? I would love too, except my guest list is already at 200+ and if I start inviting work people i would have to add on at least 14-20 more people. What do you bees think??
Post # 3
Not obligated. If one of my coworker is getting married, I wouldn’t mind throwing her a shower to wish her happiness, but I wouldn’t expect to be invited. They are doing it for your happiness and are not expecting anything in return. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 4
I know ettiqute dicates they be invited, but ask the other women at your school if they invited EVERYONE from work, and take your cues there :o) Hope that helps!
Post # 5
A work shower is the one time where they can host an event for you but you are under no obligation whatsoever to invite them to your wedding. If you socialize with every single person there frequently after work, on weekends, etc, then that would be a different story.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I ditto the sentiments on here – they want to throw it for you – you (or your MOH/family) are not inviting them to something. I think this is one case where you are not obligated to invite them to the wedding (at least, I hope so, because many of the families that I work with will be throwing me a shower, and I can definitely not invite all or even most of them. I just consider a nice gesture and I think that they will understand).
Post # 7
I think its just a nice way to acknowledge your wedding and partake even though they all understand that they cannot be a part of it. No need to invite them
Post # 8
I agree with the other bees – my coworkesr threw a shower for me, but I didn’t invite them to the wedding and I haven’t seen any evidence of hurt feelings. They were all excited to see the album when we got it and to hear about the day…they were excited for me but I don’t think they ever expected to be invited to the wedding.
Post # 9
I had a work shower and while I like my co workers a lot… totally not inviting them to my wedding.
It’s pretty normal to have a shower for the women here and not be expected to have an invite to their wedding.
Don’t worry about it… I am sure they understand and are just happy for you!
Post # 10
i think its nice of them to throw you a shower but dont think that its necessary for you to invite all of them…i dont think they will expect the invite whether or not they threw the shower! do whta you feel is right but definitely recognize that you mayb be more concerned with it than they are. they prob just want to be nice and have the shower for you…without expecting an invite 🙂