Work: Feeling really embarrassed

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Seriously. Be proud of yourself. You got more hours out of this and your manager obviously had a lot of respect for you. This experience will help you learn for the future when there’s a role that you really, really want. Please don’t be embarrassed, nobody will think you haven’t don’t well. 

Post # 3
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3412 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t see why you would be embarrased. They like you enough to offer you increased hours, and you did not want the FT position anyway.

Just chalk it up to someone being the better candidate on the day.

 

Post # 4
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I can totally identify with what you are going through, since something very similar happened to me. There was a job I was applying for that I should have been a shoe-in for. I was a great candidate on paper, had loads of similar experience, a personal connection with the organisation, and had even been personally recommended by someone high up in their network. However when the interview came around, I just…bombed, and I am usually a very strong candidate.

I learned three things from that experience. First, that no matter how well-qualified you are, you can always choke in an interview if you put too much pressure on yourself. I thought I was well-prepared, but I could have done more trial interviews and I really should have started prep earlier. I got overconfident and then when things started to go downhill, I panicked.

Secondly, these things happen and I can promise that other people will barely remember your interview in a couple of months, even though it might still sting for you. You just have to get back on that horse and try to learn from it. Somewhere down the line there is going to be a job you are going to get because things didn’t go well this time and you learned from the experience.

Thirdly, sometimes it’s not you, it’s just that someone else really nailed it and formed an instant connection with the interview panel. Interviews can be a gamble between you and several other candidates, and it just comes down to which personalities mesh better and who can give the answers they are looking for. Some days you are that candidate, and some days it is someone else. That doesn’t mean that they don’t like you and don’t think you could do an excellent job, it just means that the dice favored someone else on this occasion. If you keep trying, you will come out on top eventually.

Post # 5
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636 posts
Busy bee

At least you tried!  A lot of people wouldn’t have even gone for it! Shake it off and try to learn from it so you can kill it next time.

Post # 6
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t feel embarrassed, choking on an interview happens to the best of us and isn’t reflective of the job you have been doing. It’s a good learning experience to have when the stakes are not high, so you’ll be ready the next time when you really do need to nail that interview. 

Post # 8
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

dannielle89:  Don’t worry! We’ve all bombed an interview. Fun story: my brilliant, very successful fiance once had an interview where he wasn’t prepared for the question, “Why do you want to work here?” LOL. He didn’t get the job. It happens to the best. All you can do is learn from it and move on.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

dannielle89:  Ugh, you poor thing! I 100% agree with PPs in that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Congrats on being brave enough to go for it, and on getting the extra hours that you were after. That said, I totally understand why you don’t feel so great right now.

I honestly think it is harder to be interviewed by people you are familiar with for a job and work environment that you also know inside and out – it’s just not the normal situation you face in an interview and must significantly change the dynamic. It sounds like you have a great history with job applications and presenting yourself well, so I hope you have faith in that and realise that this is just an unusual experience!

Go and do something nice for yourself – you deserve it. It probably still feels crappy right now, but after a few days I’m sure you’ll be feeling much better. Until then, take care! Sending you my best wishes 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

dannielle89:  For my last job, I had to interview three times to get the role I was already doing as a temp worker. I really don’t interview well! It can be embarrassing but you just have to unfortunately move on. These things happen, you just have to laugh it off and own it as best you can, and work on improving for the future.

Post # 11
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

aw I can totally relate to how you feel! it’s normal to feel a bit embarassed but you really shouldn’t. In the end you got what you wanted right ? ( more hours ) 

I think everyone has this ONE ( or many..haha) terrible interviews that they can remember. It’s normal, and I too find that it’S way harder to interview with people you know than with people you don’t.  Kinda like it would be more stresful for me to perform on a stage in front of 20 of my closest friend and family than it would be in front of 1000 strangers. 

I think the fact that your manager met with you and was great about explaining everything ( and that he felt bad about it all weekend, and that he consulted HR about it etc) shows that he really values you as an employee. He didn’t have to do that, or give you more hours. I think that at the end of the day, it’s better this way, especially if you’re studying, you don’T want a full time job anyway! Perhaps next time there’s an opening you’ll be closer to finishing your studies and now you can be better prepared for the interview with the feedback you got from your boss. 

The best advice I got for interviews is to never assume the pannel “knows what you’re saying’. Even if you feel like you’re describing something that’s obvious to you, sometimes you need to explain it in more details to a panel that is unfamiliar with your previous experiences. 

Keep your head up- they gave you more hours and want you to stay there, otherwise it would have been easy to just blame it on budget and say they didn’t need your services anymore. Best of luck!

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