(Closed) Work name drama

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are your licenses and everything in your maiden name?  If so, it would be a lot easier to keep your maiden name for work and use your other name for social events, etc.  I don’t really have any other ideas about it though.

Post # 4
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

My in laws went through this, and my step MIL kept her maiden (actually, name of her first husband) name. She said it was too much of a PITA to change it for work. If this were me personally, I’d keep my maiden for work, as well.

Post # 6
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Any update on what happened? What did you decide?

Post # 7
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m in the military and we are ALL known by last names.  I am an officer with 15 years in.  From the beginning I said I wouldn’t be changing my name until I retire (5 more years).   FH was fine with that.  Until a boss (male officer at work) said it was BS and it wouldn’t matter that everyone would know.  Now suddenly its an issue. 

I have no issue with his name and our kids/socially etc would use his, but why should I sacrifice 15 years of hard work to earn a NAME for myself (they say that for a reason) only to change it professionally?

I think he suddenly feels its a rejection.  He’s in the military too.  No one is asking him to change HIS name.  I told him I’d keep an open mind, but that the only other workable solution is for me to use both.  I don’t want to do that, but hey, if it makes him happy I will.  Bottom line is my name would still be on my uniform every day.

So Doc- I say keep working with him, but hold your name too.

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