Post # 1
I got married 3 months ago and my initial plan was to change my name to MyFirst MyMiddle MyLast HisLast and at work go by MyFirst MyLast HisLast. I am a physician, so licensing is complicated. I have 3 partners at work and they asked me to not change my name until the new year because it made things easier. I said fine, and have since heard of several physicians who kept their maiden name at work and married name everywhere else. Now I don’t know what to do. My plan is to stick with my maiden name for now, because I am still weighing the convenience of having one name on everything vs. the huge pain to change it, but I don’t know for sure. One of my partners (while we are all equal, he kind of runs things) said I need to have it decided by our monthly meeting which is tomorrow. I don’t think I should be making a big decision on a deadline like this, so does anyone have any good ways of dealing with this?
Post # 3
Are your licenses and everything in your maiden name? If so, it would be a lot easier to keep your maiden name for work and use your other name for social events, etc. I don’t really have any other ideas about it though.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
My in laws went through this, and my step MIL kept her maiden (actually, name of her first husband) name. She said it was too much of a PITA to change it for work. If this were me personally, I’d keep my maiden for work, as well.
Post # 5
I appreciate the ideas. Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with people at work rushing my decision?
Post # 6
Any update on what happened? What did you decide?
Post # 7
I’m in the military and we are ALL known by last names. I am an officer with 15 years in. From the beginning I said I wouldn’t be changing my name until I retire (5 more years). FH was fine with that. Until a boss (male officer at work) said it was BS and it wouldn’t matter that everyone would know. Now suddenly its an issue.
I have no issue with his name and our kids/socially etc would use his, but why should I sacrifice 15 years of hard work to earn a NAME for myself (they say that for a reason) only to change it professionally?
I think he suddenly feels its a rejection. He’s in the military too. No one is asking him to change HIS name. I told him I’d keep an open mind, but that the only other workable solution is for me to use both. I don’t want to do that, but hey, if it makes him happy I will. Bottom line is my name would still be on my uniform every day.
So Doc- I say keep working with him, but hold your name too.