Work plans after baby??? Will you be a SAHM or Working Mama or both???

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
8387 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@SouthernSunshine:  I’m not having kids, but that story about the little boy thinking you’re his mom is adorable. 

Post # 4
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am not pregnant, but my fiance and I have agreed that I will stay home if we have children. It would be sad to lose the extra salary, but I just don’t want to “do it all.” It sounds way too stressful to me. And being able to take a nap in the middle of the day? Yes please! We are not planning to have kids though.


Post # 5
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am working mom. We just really can’t afford for me not to work. Well we could but things would be very, very tight. 

My son will be 2, and we didn’t miss a thing.  We saw his first steps, his first time walking.  His first word was dadda. The first time he said momma he was in my arms. 

My son gets all excited when he sees me walk through the door to pick him up from daycare. 


Post # 6
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Being that I am blessed to live in Canada, for the first year I stayed at home with my DD, then went back to work.

I now work full time…I will say that having that first year was SO awesome. I had to go back to work though.

If I were you, and had the option, I would go back to work part time and see how you feel from there. You may find it easier than you think to go back full time, eventually.

Post # 7
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Interesting topic and I am curious to see some responses and stories. We are about to start TTC so I have been thinking through things a lot. Unfortunately my DH and I each make half of our total salary and we can’t afford to lose a full half of our income for me to be a SAHM. His mother is retired, mine is an airline pilot so she’s gone for 4 days, home for 3, etc so we have child care part time. Although I never planned to be a SAHM or wanted to when I was younger, I have a hard time once in awhile. with the fact that I don’t have the choice. I also don’t want to miss all of the things that come with working full time but it is what it is. Thankfully our child will be with family some of the time and daycare others.

Post # 8
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I will be returning to work after LO is born.  We rely on my health insurance which is a big reason. I can’t imagine being a SAHM, but now that I’m pregnant, of course I’d love to!  I know in the long run for my happiness and our family’s happiness it will be best if I go back to work. I definitely think it will be tough at first though.  I’m hoping to be able to do some telecommuting or an alternative schedule to make things easier though.


Post # 9
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I will be working for sure.

Post # 10
3009 posts
Sugar bee

I have a great job and just got a promotion and raise last month. I couldn’t walk away from the living I am making right now. Also, I think I would go crazy being home all day- I’ve been working for almost 15 years!

We do talk about me working part time so maybe that’s an option. I’ll see when the time gets closer.

Post # 11
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

this is baby #2 for us. I will not be going back to work. DS is 7 and with this little one, those cost of child care for 2 plus the cost of gas to get to and froom work, it didnt make sense for me to keep working.

I am excited to stay home with my kids!

Post # 12
3534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are not TTC yet, but we have talked about this.  I’ve always wanted to have my own store and sell crafty, handmade things that I make.  I thought about doing Etsy or something, but with working full time, I’m usually too tired to go home and start crafting. 

FI has some pretty big opportunities coming up next year, and if things go well, he will make enough money for us to live off of. 

Once we TTC, we will discuss me staying home with the LO and opening an Etsy shop to work from home too.

Post # 13
1395 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

For us, it would be so expensive to finance daycare for the twins (£85/day/kid–works out to roughly £3400/month) that me staying at home is by far the most cost-effective option. Happily, DH makes enough and I really like the idea of being a SAHM, especially in those first few years that are so precious. My current job is more just a fun time-filler anyway (planning to do the doctorate and proper career once they’re in school), so it’s not like I’ll miss out on career progression. We purposely financed our life on just DH’s salary (we’ve just been chunking most of mine straight into savings) because we knew we were going to TTC and didn’t want to over-commit ourselves financially if I decided I wanted to stay home. Now that we’re having twins, I’m so glad we did! Otherwise, we’d be screwed. 

Post # 14
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

According to our most current plans, no. I want to be a SAHM.


Post # 15
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The plan is for me to be a SAHM until our children are all in school. We are lucky to be in a financial situation where that’s possible. DH and I both agree that is what would be best for our family.

Post # 16
2189 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I stayed home for 2 years with my son. I will be going to college until I have the baby, then taking one term (3 months) off to be with baby. Then back to school. I plan on spacing out my classes though so I only have one a day, so that’s only about 3 hours away a day.

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