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I was in almost the exact same situation when I got married. Working full time in a job that requires a ton of travel, going to graduate school with 2 courses and planning the wedding. My courses ended just one week after the wedding, so all the papers/work was due just a week after the wedding. I am not going to lie it was stressful, but I found three things to be extremely helpful:
Good Luck!
I totally agree with you!! I'm working full time, going to school full time (undergrad) and planning our wedding as well! I'm also taking 2 summer classes which are half the amount of time but the same amount of work - it about killed me last summer but I'm so close to being done I just want it to be over!!
1 thing that has worked for me to keep my sanity is to devote one night a week to just us - no school, work or wedding allowed. It really gets you grounded after a crazy week and gives you something to look forward to
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yes! i work 9-5, i'm taking master classes on friday's from 6-10 and saturdays 9-1 and i'm having my wedding in only 11 days!
i've got to finish a 20 pages' essay for tomorrow, but fortunately my wedding to-do list it's almost completed!
just try to relax, take a nap, drink some hot tea, tell your FI to massage you and don't do anything wedding related for minimum a day per week!
Yes! And basically it is absolute chaos. I work at 3 different offices because one of my jobs is to earn hours to get my therapist license. Days started at 8:00am and didn't end until 10:00pm plus a 30 minute drive home. I actually just finished my main classes last week and now only have an internship class left 1 day a week as opposed to 3 or 4 days. Which is a huge relief. Part of why we've had a long engagement is because of all the school stuff and I wanted to finish my degree and have a couple month cushion before the wedding. I'm not sure we got as much done as I orginally planned but now we are really trying to get stuff done.
Basically what I did was breathe and learn that I had to let go of certain thing and remind myself of that. (still reminding myself now...) Try to find people that can help and you trust. And as other posters mentioned...make sure to take some quality time for just you and your FI.
Yes! I work from about 8 am to 7 pm and about 5 hours on weekends. My FI works 80-100 hours a week and so most of the house duties (cleaning, grocery, bill paying) fall on me. And wedding planning. And we just started looking for houses! It has been a struggle keeping it together. I figure people have done it before successfully...why can't I? Though a few mental health relaxation days would help....
The big help is the gym. I need to blow off steam at least 4 days a week to keep my sanity.
I did the same thing in Feb w/ only a 6 mo engagement, though I *knew* a year in advance, I didn't do hard core planning until it was official.
I work OT most weeks & am taking 2 masters classes (no summer breaks!) & moved in w/ him during the engagement, too, and had to figure out leasing my house! I'm also working on a professional certification that takes FOREVER.
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oh, and my recommendation, though it sucks, is to use work vacation to catch up on school at the end of the semester...hopefully wedding planning is your "fun time" like it was mine, so I didn't mind the hard work as much, but I can't say my grades haven't suffered some
Well, i work full time as an engineer and I actually put off grad school for this reason. However, i just took the GMAT so i've been studying like crazy and working on all my applications which is super time consuming, too! I just keep my head down...and probably do more wedding stuff at work than i should, eek. I miss my free weekends! Take some time for yourself. I got so fed up last week I punted EVERYTHING. i know that isn't always feasible with homework, but i wasn't so burnt out the next day.
I'm doing the same thing--working, taking classes and planning the wedding. It has been driving me crazy, honestly! I feel like I'm doing a bad job at everything because I'm always being pulled in so many directions.
Honestly, I'm not sure I've been dealing with the stress all that well. I have been trying to delegate as much of the wedding planning to other people (my mom, my fiance) as possible and letting some little things go. I am lucky, though, because I only have classes for another 3 days and then I'm taking the summer off from school. Then it will just be work and wedding planning!!
Good luck to all you ladies. I know how you feel!!
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Eating healthy goes a LONG way. If i go on the crap food train, i feel more drained. so even though the healthy frozen foods are pricier, i look at it like an investment. And ditto with Erin on the gym....i GOTTA go or i feel like a big bum and i get more anxious and stressed than if i don't go.
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gracez---
I feel your pain. I work two part time jobs (researcher in my program and Behavioral Consultant for kids who are developmentally delayed), attend my PhD program full time and try to squeeze in some wedding planning too.
I don't have any great words of wisdom but I think you're right on track, things will work out, you just have to get through the tough stuff.
One stress reliever for me is working out. My other stress reliever is silly but since I'm in a high stress program, I love watching trashy reality TV shows (think Rock of Love). Both really help me unwind.
Good luck with eveyrthing, I'm sure it will all work out. Just know you're not alone in this and I'm sending postive vibes your way.
Oh graduate school... I should be studying now... my relief is definitley weddingbee! It gets my mind off the job and school to-do lists and lets me focus on a much funner to-do list (wedding planning!)
I also try to give myself "me" time. My health is far more important than anything else, so I try to work-out to relieve stress and stay healthy as well.
i feel your pain! i'm wrapping up undergrad (i graduate in may), job searching, working already, and trying to plan a wedding...all in 5 months! are we crazy for trying to do this? but as stressful as it gets...it is pretty fun!
UGH! I understand...
Up until this week, I've been balancing law school, legislative internship, and a tiny job (just 4 hours a week). All I've wanted to do is relax, hang out with my FI and plan the wedding though. Fortunately, the internship is over after today and the part-time job ended last week. Finals are looming!!!!
You know though, this is temporary! We will all make it through! Good luck especially to everyone working full-time though. You can do it!
delegate, delegate, delegate! (or so I try to tell myself)
I can relate...full-time grad student, clinical rotation, work, and wedding planning. I've starting increasing my workouts (which weren't very frequent) since the wedding is very close, but I'm mad at myself for not exercising more in the past few months. I feel like I'm not going to have that awesome swimsuit body for the honeymoon like I had hoped :(
My stress relief is bubble baths :)
So glad to see this post, I'm right there with you all! In grad school full time getting my doctorate, have a 20 hr/week internship (basically job with much less moola) and wedding planning! Sometimes I can't sleep at night because my head is spinning in so many different directions. It's ok though, it's fun! Weddingbee is definitely a huge distraction from doing work but it is a form of stress relief for me! @shopaholic...I've been bad with the gym too... ugh!!
I'm with all of you! I'm a full time student (just started the first year of my doctoral program), 3 days a week I extern at a children's psychatric hospital and two days a week I work at a methadone maintenance treatment center. On top of that I also see 2 adult clients twice a week after classes for therapy (school requirement). My days typically go from 7:30am-9:00pm! Plus I also have to balance responsbilities within my church and of course, wedding planning! The key for me is making sure I take some time out of my day for ME whether it's catching up on a favorite tv show, going to the gym, hoping on weddingbee, making sure to see FI, anything really! It's what keeps me sane :)
Good luck to all those studying for finals!!
Ugh, I wish I couldn't relate but I so can! I am a medical student and also work part-time (which is ridiculous). I am going absolutely INSANE and don't have time for any of the stress reliever things! I try to delegate things but my FH just isn't into it and we're down to the details which would take more energy for me to get him to do than for me to just do them - we've cut out most detail things but it's down to things even like coordinating time to pick up our marriage license!
So I have no advice. I currently feel like I might implode at any minute! It doesn't help that I don't really get time off for the wedding...we're getting married during the month I have off to study for the boards and so no honeymoon, just a teeny minimoon so I have time to get back and study! And then take the exam and then 2 days later start my first clinical rotation!
School is just non-stop and right now I wish we had already eloped :(
I'm not working full time but I do have a 16-hour-a-week internship. I'm also defending my quals next week and proposing my dissertation in two weeks. Oh, and getting married in six. I'm so exhausted and sick of caring.
*raises hand*
Full time employee here, going to grad school time and a half, planning a wedding, writing for weddingbee and buying a house. My house is supposed to be closing on finals week, and like you I have two big projects and two presentations to hand in (due in the next 2 weeks).
Just take everything one step at a time. make reasonable daily to do lists and accomplish the stuff on that list. And don't forget to take a few minutes each day to RELAX. It's valuable time, and you need it for your sanity.
I understand completely! I am working full time, going to school full time and am a single mother of an 8 year old. I do go to school online though through St Petersburg College, so that helps. But i am also planning my wedding. That part will be done soon. 9 more days to go! BUT I have to take for finals the day before! 
Just like all the other posts just breath, take your time and it will all work out.
So glad to see this post! I am working full-time, working on an advanced graduate degree, and wedding planning! Though it's difficult, I find forcing myself to eat healthy, workout, and get a proper amount of sleep has really helped. I have also found it so important to make time for friends and fun, otherwise, you will make yourself crazy! Good luck ladies!
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Ugh, I totally feel you. Finishing my last semester of law school, working part time, planning my wedding, blogging, and as soon as I hand in my last papers, my bar review class starts! I'm taking the bar one month before my wedding! Sometimes it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But I love wedding planning, so in a weird way it's a stress reliever!
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Wow Ladies!
Thanks for all the responses! I think it really does help to see that there are plenty of other crazy brides stuffing WAY too many responsibilites on their plates!
It got me to thinking though - about just how lucky we all are:
1)We've found the men of our dreams 
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2)We are strong, educated women!
3)We have jobs!!!!
Good luck to everyone getting through these last few weeks of finals and paper writing!
Holy smoke, ladies - this is the post I needed to read today! Got lots of helpful advice, and it was encouraging to know I'm not alone.
I'm finishing up writing my masters thesis this month, and will hopefully defend it in August (the wedding is in September!!!) Thanks gracez for the initial post!
I wish I'd found this post last weekend! I work fulltime w/OT and am taking two grad classes this semester. The wedding planning definitely adds some stress to my life, but it is also such a great outlet for my creativity. Everything else is just crazy right now. I have a test today, a presentation & paper due tomorrow, a paper due next week, & a final. It's great working out these time management skills!!
I was doing the same thing untill last weekend. working full time, taking two classes and planing a long distace weddin.... But I had my finals last week and I'm taking rest of the year off school so I can focus.
I wasn't able to concentrate on anything eariler. I would think about wedding planing while studying, and think about school while planing for the wedding.
It's way too stressful so I wont be taking anymore classes untill next year.. I'm getting married in August and would have a few months to spend with my new hubby before I have to go back to school. (We've been in long distance for 4 years and have never lived in the same city ever!!!)
I'm not working full time but I am going to school full time and I have an internship that I have to finish in the summer. Commuting takes up almost 6 hours a day which seems like a full time job. I with everyone else I can't wait for finals to get here so I can give all my attention to the wedding and the internship.
Weddingbee is also my way of distressing or procrastination what ever you want to call it.
Good luck ladies with all you planning and school!!
I just finished finals and have a week of crunch time till the wedding. I've decided that finals were easier!
ugh yes. I work full time (plus some nights and weekends), going to graduate school (so I'm taking two courses a quarter) and planning the wedding. I just have to breathe and realize that I have the capability to get everything done that is necessary. There may not be a lot of extras at the wedding but I doubt people will notice!! Hang in there... we can all do this!
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Anybody else working full time, taking grad classes AND planning your wedding?
I recently got a promotion at work (something I had secretly been praying for), but the job has been very time consuming! I love it, but I kinda miss all the down time I used to have. Plus, I am enrolled in 2 graduate courses. AAGHH! I have two 20 - 30 page papers due in just 2 weeks! And, of course - there's the wedding planning. The wedding is what I really wish I could devote all of my time to :)..., but I can't.
Anyway, I know I'll get through it. I just need to get through the next couple of weeks and then no more school! Until then, please pray for me!
Anyone else going crazy juggling all of these responsibilites? Any ideas for stress relievers?