- Miss Giraffe
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I work for a company at the head office, and I have to go a few times a week to help out at a smaller office. At this smaller office the boss, Joe has always made me extremely uncomfortable. We had a girl there, a young single mother Abby, and the way he flirted and leered and her made me absolutely ill and I found it completely inappropriate. One day she quit, seemingly randomly. When summer started he was able to hire 2 students, and he chose lily and sarah, also a young single mother. One day when I was working there sarah started getting text messages from him (he didn’t know I was with her), and when he found I knew he insisted I not tell ANYONE and that she shouldnt either, and it made me uncomfortable. Later on in a social situation, I warned Sarah that this is not normal behaviour, and told her the way he acted around Abby. The next time I was at the office sarah and lily rushed over to tell me that him and abby were actually dating, and that he was furious I would try and spread rumours about him so I’d better learn to shut my mouth. I also found out that the real reason that Abby left was that he was worried he’d be fired for their relationship.
Since knowing about the situation, they have both told me stories all summer of his actions. He says horrible disgusting things about abby to them constantly, about what a whore she is, how stupid and irresponsible is etc. He has even driven one of them (during work hours) to show her her house. He regularly texts both of them asking them to spy on her for him. He often takes them into his office during work hours to complain about what a (insert awful comment here) that she is. He also takes turns favoring one of them, and he will completely stop talking to the other one, won’t look at her even or anything while taking the other for long coffee breaks during the work hours, telling her how valuable she is to him. He also offered them both jobs to stay on and work for him during the school year. After the last attempt to get Lily to spy on Abby, she refused. He then stopped talking to her completely and has been going around the office talking about how lazy and useless etc she is, and has now decided not to keep her on to work (but never told her). And he has also started regularly asking Sarah to go for supper with him.
Lily just decided it was the last straw, and today was her last day, and tomorrow she has a meeting with the human resources staff to discuss the situation. I am so upset with Joe I can barely even look at him. On a side note he is AWFUL at his job, and even before I knew about this I could not understand how he could possibly be in this position. He has pitted the girls against each other now to the point where they aren’t even speaking. I feel completely ill that he is using his position of power to manipulate young girls, and I have heard both of them cry over him several times, but they have been too afraid of him making their life hell to do anything about it.
Lily swore me to secrecy about talking to hr about him, but I’m guessing that they will confront him and he will know someone talked. I guess I’m asking what the best thing to do in this situation is for me? I feel caught between the 2 girls, and very afraid of his reaction and how he will try and punish me (in the past he made up lies about me and went to the most senior person possible with them. Luckily I was able to disprove them). He is petty and manipulative, and in my opinion, a disgusting human being. I wish he’d be fired but I’m sure that he won’t get anything more than a slap on the wrist.