Work Stress!!!! How do you handle it? (vent)

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

First I hope your hubby recovers well.  That was an awful accident.  🙁


I completely understand work stress.  This year has been brutal for me and it continues.  I am EXHAUSTED and the rest of this year isn’t going to get any better as we have one team member going out on maternity leave.  I am in accounting and my company has grown exceptionally fast.  The company is behind on putting in the infrastructure to handle the growth.  Like you I am overwhelmed and burnt out.  Today I almost broke down crying.   I dread going to work every day now.  The only thing that keeps me going is my team.  We get along well and have worked together for many years not only at this current place but in two other companies as well.   

I am due to go on vacation with the FH the first week of September which I booked back in June but now it looks like the FH has a conflict and the trip may not happen.  Even thinking about it as I type makes me want to cry.  

I am coping with it all but I am not sure how to be honest.  I think it is a matter of leaving the job at the job as much as I can when I leave and coming home and doing something for me as much as I can.  What I don’t want it to do is to take a physical toll on me but slowly and surely I am beginning to feel sluggish and depressed.  I feel like a mess.  Boo!!

Sorry I couldn’t help with any tips as I am searching for tips too.  I guess I am venting right with you.

Post # 4
716 posts
Busy bee

Hmm, yea, P&L responsibility is very stressful.

My only coping advice would be to maintain perspective – you have worked very hard to get where you are, you have a rewarding non-profit career, you are married, I’m sure you have family and friends…the job is only one component of your life and one of many potential jobs for you out there.  Also, there are any number of reasons that have nothing to do with you that can explain why this has been a slow fundraising year.  My advice would be to continue to keep your energy focused on assessing what’s going on and coming up with creative ideas to crank up the fundraising engine vs. continuing to dwell on what goals / targets haven’t been met.

Post # 5
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I hate my job.  I just try my best to compartmentalize and forget about it when I am at home.  Easier said than done.

Hope your honey recovers quickly.

Post # 6
37 posts
  • Wedding: Lombardi's On the bay

First off I am so sorry that your job is making you crazy.  Secondly, I hope your hubby gets better soon. :)<br /><br />I can completely understand work stress.  I work as an executive assistant at an accounting firm so between each of the tax seasons (three major ones and then less important once throughout the year) I am ready to drink myself to death.  Usually I come in at about 730 in the morning and stay until about 8 sometimes; no lunch break.  It gets so busy that there are times that going to the bathroom needs to be scheduled. Plus there are times that Saturdays are a requirement.<br /><br />What I usually try to do is make it a point to plan something i enjoy every day.  Whether that be reading, having a nice night in with my fiance, or watching a cheesy movie; you need to take a moment everyday to just kind of center. 

Good luck! 

Post # 8
94 posts
Worker bee

I am sorry to hear you are going thorugh such a rough time. Being a caregiver is incredibly taxing under the best of circumstances. Having to help your husband instead of him helping you out during this time certainly makes stress worse.

I am currently under stress from my job where I was essentially promoted to a new position, but to do the job successfully I’m having to learn a whole new set of skills. I start the day trying to be confident and come home stressed out and discouraged over my performance.

The best advice I can give you is that now more than ever you need to take care of yourself and take time for you. That might be as simlple as a quick coffee break in the middle of an incredibly stressful day, treating yourself to your favorite meal, or taking a long hot bath. You may be their leader, but you can’t carry the weight of your entire team indefinitely.

I’m not sure if you struggle with this or not (I know I judge myself harshly by my performance) but remember to forgive yourself for not being perfect. I used to avoid this because I was worried I was using it as a cop-out. You’re at no risk of making yourself lazy – your past experience has shown that you are a hard worker, and sometimes despite our best efforts we can’t make things work out the way we’d like. Make sure to separate your ‘work value’ from your ‘real value’. Budgets and numbers are not a true reflection of you, and as rough as it gets, this too will eventually pass.

Post # 9
3985 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

annonbee857:  Work stress can suck it. I had moments of stress throughout undergrad and graduate, but it’s nothing compared to the stress of work sometimes. I’m a teacher and last year (especially the first semester) was horrible. I hated going to work and was constantly sick due to the stress. When that happens I go into compartmentalization mode, usually in regard to time. my mantra last school year was “I can do anything for a year” and “I only have this student for 4 more months…I can deal.” My best advice: 1) remind yourself why you chose this career and what you love 2) give yourself time off-make a pact not to do or think about work in the evenings (if possible) or at all over the weekend and…sometimes you just gotta get those emotions out. I hate crying, but it was my release a handful of times. Once I cry (because I bottle up my frustration a lot) I become calmer. 

Oh! Alone time with DH helps me. He’s super calm and some times I just need to lay with him and chill. Good luck and I’m sorry. I know how much this sucks. 

Post # 11
3985 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

annonbee857:  I totally understand you. I’m a teacher so I equate my success to that of my students. While it’s not fair to put that all on me because there are so many uncontrollable factors, you’re right-I really struggle separating that aspect. Just keep your head up the best you can. Things work out the way they’re supposed to.

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