work vent – advice?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

He sounds incredibly immature and childish based on his actions. I’d go up to him and say, “I’m sorry if I’ve done something to offend or upset you. I wish you’d tell me what it is so we can work past it.” If he continues to ignore you then just let it be. I see no sense in trying to drag an answer out of someone. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sugarcube: I agree with the previous poster. I would ask him nicely when the other cubemates aren’t around, and if he doesn’t give you a straight answer, wash your hands of him. If he’s not your manager and doesn’t work in your department, it’s not worth your time. Certainly not worth stressing over in the evening after work!

Easier said than done, I know (believe me, I’ve been there!), but be cordial, but not overly friendly, toward him. He sounds like a giant jerk. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would just confront him head on, but privately – when no one else is in the cube. Just say, “Why are you ignoring me? What did I do or say to hurt or offend you? I want to know, bc I certainly didn’t mean to.” And if you don’t get an answer that way, just move on and know that you haven’t really lost anyone important in your life, he’s clearly an asshat. 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I know it’s hard, but I’d try to let it go.  It’s time to face that some people just won’t like you and there’s nothing you can do but be professional and let it go.

I’ve been in your shoes, and it sucks.  I started working at my Fortune 100 company at 19…very fortuate to have landed that position.  I got promoted quickly, at 23, and well, not everyone liked me.  I remember one moment where I was talking to a co worker closer to my age, and a 60+ year old woman walked by me and shook her head.  I was freaking out!  What did I do?  I pulled my other co worker aside and asked and she just said ‘Not everyone likes your happy personality.  You can’t worry about that, just keep working’.

The situation got better after she retired.  Sad but true.  I’m 30 now and love my job..but, yeah, it was rough there for a while.  

Keep your head up!

Post # 10
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703 posts
Busy bee

@sugarcube:  I have a bob too! We worked together for 2 years sat beside each other, went to the cinema together! And one day about 4 months ago he started ignoring me! Flat out ignoring!!! He also does it to most of the office and only speaks to 2 ppl now! One of my team mates arrived at his desk today to ask him a work question. He got up from his seat while she was mid sentence and turned and walked away from her. I gave up trying if he wants to act nuts then let him on! I have enough stress to worry about other than his psycho mood swings!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Maybe he thinks you ratted him out for something he got in trouble for?

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@sugarcube:  I really wouldn’t easy your time worrying about him! I actually genuinely did nothing wrong to my bob! lol! I remember last yesheer stopped talking to one of the girls for 6 months because when he asked for Sellotape she threw it in the air to him! If your bob is like my bob he wants the attention of the drama too! So don’t bother asking him that’s wrong!

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