Post # 1
My wedding is in a few months, and the HR manager and my boss keep telling me thata I should invite them, honestly, I don’t want to, if I invite them I am going to have to invite my work colleagues as well, and it just seems like a lot of people that I’m not that close to invited to a very intimate event, that’s the way I see it.
My problem is how awkward it would be after the wedding because I do plan on inviting a few people from here, but everybody is expecting to go, even though I have never invited anyone yet. They already know it’s going to be a not so small wedding.
What should I do? Suggestions? Have you been through this?
Post # 3
@saralovesrob: I would avoid it by not inviting anyone from work unless you hang out with them outside of work — and don’t just talk about work.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
The only people from work that we are inviting are people that we see socially for non work events. We both have good friends at work that we wanted to include so we have about 14 work guests.
Post # 5
I also drew the line at people I see socially outside of work (and eliminated people I only see through other people, for example both invited to the same coworker’s Super Bowl party). That meant that at the time our guest list was drawn up, my boss wasn’t invited. But then my boss changed, and my new one was already on the guest list. So I did end up inviting my boss, but it didn’t start out that way.
Post # 6
I invited my boss because I love her and wished we spent time together outside of work. And she even told me not to bother inviting her husband whom I barely know because she just wanted to party with the girls anyways. Other than that I only extended invites to colleagues I’m friends with outside of work. Even if it wasn’t about cost, we also just want a more intimate setting. I don’t want to be saying my vows in front of people that I don’t feel a close connection with. I just try not to talk about it at work and hope that they all understand that it’s nothing personal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - le parker meridien
such a difficult issue. i’m struggling on this and have kept a pool of work ppl as 2nd tier invitees we’ll send invites to if we get enough declines
Post # 7
That is incredibly rude for an HR manager to say!!
Post # 8
Inviting work people is tough for me too! I work in a team of a manager and 5 other people other than myself. There are about 80 people on staff all together. Right now I’m planning on 3 of my team members (plus spouses) as I interact with them the most outside of work itself. But them I wonder if I should invite the other team members.