Work when your child(ren) are younger; stay home when they're older?

posted 2 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you consider working while your kids are young and cut back when they are older?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    52 %
    No : (7 votes)
    28 %
    Depends : (5 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1993

    SunnierDaysAhead:  Never heard of this either.  Personally, I wouldn’t do it.  I’d probably get bored at one point in time. 

    Post # 3
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Personally, I feel like It’s important to be with your kids when they are little. It helps set them up developmentally. We are planning for me to be a stay at home mom until our youngest is in kindergarten,  and depending on finances,  I may only work part time anyways.

    Post # 4
    1674 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    SunnierDaysAhead:  An older woman suggested this to me a few years ago. She had returned from being a SAHM since her kids were going off to college. But she only became a SAHM once her kids were out of day care. She said that is when they need you at home the most. I think I agree.


    Post # 5
    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    SunnierDaysAhead:  I’ve never heard of this, and personally wouldn’t do it…. unless early retirement was an option, but I wouldn’t cut back in the middle of my career.

    I plan to be part time when we have kids, my FI wants me to not work at all, but we’ll see where we are financially. His mom stayed home when he was a kid (she also had 4!) and my dad worked from home growing up. It is nice to have someone at home, and to me it’s more important to be there when they’re younger for developmental reasons.

    Post # 6
    6660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I did this. I worked full time while my kids were young- especially the older one. I quit my job when they were 10 and 2. It has been almost a year and it was such a good decision. I think my kids need me more now than when it was all about them needing a bottle and a clean diaper. life only gets more complicated when they get older. Next year they will be starting middle school and preschool and I feel like that will be such a busy time.

    Post # 7
    6664 posts
    Bee Keeper

    This is quite common for all the reasons your co-workers have mentioned.  I know many families who have done this. TBH I think the time at home can be just as valuable if not more at that age, most especially when there are issues. Plus, some families are in a better financial position by then and can afford it.  

    Post # 8
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Mr. Lk and I have managed our work schedules to allow us to be available to DS both before and after school. But, yes, it just gets busier as they get older. DS has play practice, choir practice, mock trial team practice, Dr. Who club, writers club, and book club. We are running him to/from something every single day of the week. It is exhausting. But neither of us would be happy to give up our career. So Mr. LK works the early shift (leaves the house at 5:45am) and gets off of work at 3pm to do the after school errands. I work the later shift so that I can be available in the morning before the bus arrives for anything DS may need and do all of the animal chores. It works for us.

    Post # 9
    4581 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    This is what my mom did, and it allowed my sister and I to be involved in a lot more activities (and have rides to those activities) compared to friends who had both parents working. At least it was nice during the summer months.

    But, I know this isn’t exactly deasible in todays society and 2 incomes are better than one – and if we just had to live off of FI’s income, we would be living paycheck to paycheck and that’s not something that I know either of us wants to do.

    I don’t know how the school year would go, but I could see it being a struggle in the summer months. However, most programs these days are all held at night for that very reason. When I was a kid, things were in the morning or during the day.

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