Post # 1
I’ve been recently looking for a better paying job (for a while actually) I saw an ad that DIDN’T specify which company it was but mentioned it was close to where I live (yay!) and that it paid fairly well. It was right up my ally. I sent in my resume yesterday.
So today I receive a call from my SO’s company….I thought it was for him but turns out it was that company I applied to and they want to schedule an interview…
So I told my FI about it and applogized saying I didn’t realize it was his company. He said he didn’t care and that he could help me get the job but I mentioned I wasn’t really sure he would be ok with that and that we should first talk about it.
The position wouldn’t have anything to do with HIS position so I wouldn’t even really see him since he is on the road most of the time.
So my question to you bees out there are 1) what do you think I should do? and 2) have you ever worked at the same CO as your spouse before and how did that work out?
Post # 3
I did for 2 years! We loved it! We even worked in the same department. He got a new job and now I am lonely. Lol. I do miss him at work, but I guess he had to do what he had to do to make more money.
Post # 4
I don’t see why not, if it is better pay and you really won’t see him. As long as the company doesn’t have any policies about co workers dating or married to each other. I say go for it
Post # 5
I’m working with my FI now. We’ve been working together for the past year or so, maybe more.
We both work as truck drivers. It’s not a desk job, so I think that makes the situation different. I can make out with him behind equipment and no one will care, probably just tease. I can play around with him, help him with his work, he can help me with mine etc.
In my situation, it’s great! I love working with him. I don’t see him all the time, but I see him often enough. If it’s a regular job though, where you have to dress nice and things like that…I dunno if I’d go for it. I would have trouble keeping that professional distance from him and I’d be worried that I’d have problems because people may think I was hired because he’s there or something.
I don’t know if this applies here or not…But I now recall the saying “don’t poop where you eat.” I think it depends on what the job is like.
Post # 6
We actually work together, and his boss, our boss, likes it that we work as a team.
Post # 7
I work with my FI right now and have worked with him for the past 3 1/2 years. It’s a really stressful job and we used to get really stressed out and fight about it, but he left over the summer to do an internship and I realized how much I missed seeing him. It really is nice to work with him though. We really don’t get to see each other that often since he works 2 jobs and goes to school and I work and go to school so its nice to see him even if we are at work. It doesn’t cause any problems at work either he worked there already and he got me a job there with him so everyone knew we were a couple and no one has a problem with us at all. I say go for it.
Post # 8
My FI and I work together at the same restaurant. A big plus is that I get to see him a little more throughout the day. The only downside is that we sometimes take work stress home with us. We’re getting much better about not talking about work when we are home though.
Post # 9
If you guys are both easygoing, it should work!
FI and I met each other at work. We worked closely together because we worked on the same episodes.
So we’d spend our days at work together and then our nights together. It was 24/7 of him. It was awesomeeee. We never fought or got sick of each other and if you and your guy think you can do that, should be good. I sure miss it!
Post # 10
I worked with the guy I’m married to, but that was before we even started dating 🙂 I have worked with people I’ve been involved with before, and I can say that in the beginning of a relationship, it can be a bit distracting (or a lot). There’s probably some flirting (or a lot) or some personal emails flying back and forth (or a lot) and maybe the idea of getting busy in the janitor’s closet might cross you mind (or you actually do it… a lot) 😀
But, later down the road, once you’re calmed down into a long term relationship, it’s awesome! You can commute to work together, you’ll finally understand all the work stories you tell eachother, and YOU’LL be his work wife instead of the girl in the cubicle next to him 🙂
Post # 11
FI and I worked together for a couple of years before we started dating. It was awesome, actually. We worked in different departments, but we took breaks and lunches together. What sucked was when the company implemented a rule that management (me) couldn’t date anyone in the store, while we’d been dating for a while. My manager was like, “Well, I’m not going to make you break up, but…you guys need to cool it.” I LOL’d hard because we never even touched at work, much less needed to be told to “cool it.”
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for your input. He is in a trade and I’m in admin so we wouldn’t be working with each other that much and like I said he is on the road doing installations and I would be dealing with customers.
My only concern was perhaps seeing each other too much? But if we aren’t really working together than I don’t think it would be an issue. I just don’t want him pulling away from me because we see each other more often…
We have been together for close to 7 years so I doubt we’ll be having sex in the closet lol
Post # 13
@canyouhearmenow13: haha… well maybe you’ll experience a whole new honeymoon period? 😉
Seriously though, for me the biggest plus will be having the same co-workers. I just hate when you’re talking to your SO about someone at work and they’re like “who’s that again?” or trying to explain a process, or some company politics and they have no idea… having that in common is awesome.
Post # 14
@canyouhearmenow13: it worked out great for us. i bar tend at a gentlemen’s club and they hired my FH to do the door. and if that ain’t a test i don’t know what is lol we worked great together some of the dancers tried to flirt with him but he would be firm with them and tell me all about it so i could give them dirty glasses lol. i dont understand women that want what they cant have. and if they do get it dont they think it can be taken away from them too one day.
silly girls lol
Post # 15
@MissNoodles: lol maybe we will, I just forsee trying to differentiate myself from him since everyone already knows/loves him there so I’d have to try to be more than “his fiance”
BUT i think it would be awesome because its literally 5 mins from where we live and we could commute together, if not thats fine too I just would love to work near where I live since I commute 2 hrs everyday to work.
@HisNightOwl2014: lol aaw that would be hard for me but thats good your FI has firm boundaries.
I actually had a side question:
Since this happened by chance, should I mention when/if I call back that he is my SO and make sure they don’t have a policy against that?
Post # 16
@canyouhearmenow13: i think you should you don’t need to jeopardize both of your jobs over working together.