(Closed) Working moms, how do you do it? Seriously.

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Honey bee

subscribing. I have no idea how my mom did it with 3 on her own.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

you do get used to it and you do feel exhausted all the time! hahaha

I have 3 kids who all participate in a sport. This spring was crazy! But I have learned to go with the flow on some things. That was a big adjustment for me because I like order and routine. You find your own routine once you have kids. Some things that were once priorities move to the back burner.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Would love to see these responses.  I don’t have children yet but I plan to be a working mom.  My question is the opposite – SAHMs, how do YOU do it!  As of right now, I can’t imagine being a SAHM. I don’t have the patience for it whatsoever.  It takes a very special type of person to be a stay at home parent!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Commenting to follow. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever have kids because I don’t know how I will handle it all! Once I get home from work I don’t want to do anything! I just want to relax. Props to all you working moms out there!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You just do it because there is no other option. And hearing “I love you Mom” more than makes up for any tiredness.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lovekiss:  I don’t have kids, but I agree with this. You don’t have another option other than “just do it.” You get used to it, you get into a routine, and you make it work. I have a friend who is a single mom with 5 kids (three are hers, two she took in and took over guardianship for). She says every day that it is hard work, but she does it because the kids need her to.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@MrsPanda99:  I had the best of both worlds, I stayed home with my daughter and then worked part time as a nanny and I brought her with me to work. some days it was really hard because I felt like I had to be “on” all of the time. then I would get home from work and still have to make dinner, clean ect ect. when you have a kid you just get used to having to do those things, you can’t just say screw it and go to bed without eating dinner because they still need to eat! I think the fact that you really don’t have an option helped me a lot, but some days I would need to take a 5 minute break to cry in the bathroom because I was just so tired! now that she’s almost 4 things are a lot easier, if I’m late with dinner I can just give her a snack until dinner is ready and she’s fine. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Do any of you work for yourself with kids? I’m a freelance writer and photographer, and I’m not sure how I’m going to make it work at the workload I have right now. My husband also works from home, so we’ll be able to share duties, but I’m still figuring it out. I’ve got 6 months! eek.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You learn to let go of all the little things that don’t really matter.  Would I love to feed my kids all natural, perfectly healthy stuff every dinner?  Yes.  But sometimes a box of rice-a-roni is easier.  Is the house a little messier than I would like?  Sure.  It’s really a pick your battles type of mentality.  If laundry can wait a few more days but the lawn can’t, then I get the lawn done.

I’ve been a single mom for 3 years and yes it is hard!  But once you fall into a routine then it is pretty easy to handle it all.  But it took me awhile to find that routine that worked for our schedules.

And most importantly…kids are in bed by 8:45.  I don’t care if they actually go to sleep or if they read or play quietly, but I’ve always said I am done being MOM at 9pm.  You absolutely must take time for yourself and your FI/Husband. 

I also make full use of my lunch hour at work – exercise, run an errand, get my nails done, etc.

And automate as much stuff as possible – I use auto bill payment so I don’t have to spend time doing bills, all the school info I get via email so I can read at work and stay on top of things, I have an electronic calendar of all the kids events so I don’t forget anything, etc.

And don’t be afraid to “outsource” tasks – hire a housekeeper if you can afford it, pay someone to do your lawn if that consumes too much time, do takeout dinners sometimes, have groceries delivered, etc.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

@MrsPanda99:  If you have a supportive partner it makes all the difference in the world. My FI is amazing with my daughter and is so helpful when I’m sick or exhausted. I’m also lucky that my sister lives right across the street and I can send my daughter over there if I’m having one of those days where i just need a bath and a glass (or bottle!) of wine. also realizing that your child isn’t going to turn into a vegtable if you stick them in front of the tv for 30 minutes so you can get some stuff done around the house helps!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Saying I’m always tired is an understatement, but when it comes to DD, I always find the energy to do things without second thought. I never take that fact I’m tired in consideration. DD always comes first even if she just wants to sit and play… laundry can wait, cleaning can wait, little things with DD trump pretty much everything.

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