(Closed) Working on my vows….

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my gosh, that’s so hard! This is why I don’t think I can do that. I mean I would love to be able to do my own vows, but I would never be able to decide what to write!!! Good luck!!

Post # 4
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Newbee

What’s the rush?  This is a hugely important part of the entire day!  If you are worried about memorizing the vows, your officiant can give you a cheat sheet.  One thing you might consider, celebrants trained through the celebrant foundation and institute often use a narrative of the bride and groom’s love story, as an early part of the ceremony.  Perhaps you could have a similarly fashioned narrative that would hit some of high points that you’d prefer not to include in the ceremony.

Best,

Sarah

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Oh no, good luck!! This is exactly why we aren’t writing ours. 😉

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We wrote ours a few months ago because our pastor gave it to us as homework for our pre-marital.  Just keep trying!!!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Jamaica Bride – Start brainstorming and write something, and then edit it down a bit.  Two minutes of talking can fit a good page of writing in it, so you have a lot of space to go.  If it gets too mushy, or you have to cut it, consider writing it in a card to give him before the ceremony as well.  Think of special reasons that you love each other, and any special promises that you may want to make and build on in your relationship together.  And, if you need help, reach out to close friends or your bridal party to read them and offer suggestions – sometimes, reading the same information over and over, you can get a bit stuck, and it can help to have a fresh look at them with someone else.

But most of all, don’t worry!  They’re going to be beautiful and special, no matter what.  And that’s what’s most important.

 

PS: I wrote that before reading the whole thread, and saw that you had a draft up there already – I love them!  I think they’re sweet, heartfelt, simple, and perfect.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

great job!! i think that perhaps you should think about the things that you love the most about him and list a few of them.  your vows are very poignant and to the point, but i think you may want them to be a bit longer?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JamaicaBride, even if your best friend can’t be there, she can still help you with your vows before.  Another suggestion, if you’re worried about them not matching up for length or content, is to find a neutral third person who can take a look at both sets of vows before hand.  I often do this for my couples, I’m not sure if it’s something your officiant could help you out with.  Maybe a friend?

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