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I used to, then I got over it. If he does something that makes you self conscious, tell him that. I am sure he will be happy to be encouraging in anyway that you require.
have you tried going to the gym??? or working out in a nother room? im sorry your going through this!
I'm kinda the same way, but more because I like using that time as my alone time and I want to actually be alone doing that. But he's pretty good at staying in another room while I do it. I don't care, but I've always liked working out alone.
I was that way in my old apartment, especially with the Jillian Michaels video. We had hard wood floors and every time i hit the ground after a jumping jack I felt like it was so loud it was embarrassing. Even if he was in another room I wouldn't do it. Now I can work out in the basement and am okay doing it while he's in the house, but still don't really like him seeing me sucking at the push ups.
@lefeymw: he knows it bothers me. I don't think he'll do it unless he just forgets... but I guess I'm still scared :) my self-esteem is not great, I'm afraid!
@MrsStrawberry24: I can't work out in another room, and I really prefer Jillian Michaels to working out on my own! I hate working out and she's pretty motivating, lol, otherwise I'd just give up!
@MrsProf: I think him staying in his room is a good idea. I also prefer that to be alone time for me...
I'm the same way (and it's my Jillian videos, too). I've told Mr.ND that he needs to let me have my time alone in the larger room of the house to work out. Either play video games or watch a movie, go run errands, whatever it is.
I don't like being watched when I'm working out (working out together is ok) and Mr.ND likes to give helpful (read: unsolicited) tips while I'm working out. Sorry dude, 3 strikes and you're out :-)
@Natalieh86: LOL I'm lucky we have rug on our floors, otherwise my neighbors would hate me for the jumping jacks!!! And yes I definitely suck at the push ups but I've gotten much better with time!
@NDBee: Same for me. I just feel self-conscious and I HATE it when he gives tips. He has reason to, but I prefer he tells me after I'm done working out! :)
@squeak: Exactly. It's not that his tips are necessarily wrong, just annoying because I didn't ask for them. I always tell him that if I wanted a trainer, I'd pay one, because I could come home and b*@%# about what a jerk they were for pushing me. If he tried to train me, he'd be sleeping on the couch while I b*@%# to Ben and Jerry's :-)
@NDBee: Haha SO TRUE! Guilty of having 2 pints in my freezer myself ;) Balancing teaching/training/partnering in something with a relationship can be very hard indeed, I'd rather he just get the 'finished product' of me looking trim with no unwanted complaints, jokes, or tips!
I hate going on the treadmill when my FI is home, however he is not athletic or concerned about working out so I'm not really sure why. I just don't like the idea of having someone around when I'm focused on feeling the burn.
That being said I have absolutely no problem going outside and running, with complete strangers watching me. Bizarre, right?
I used to too, but i got over it too. I dont care if he corrects my form, its only annoying SOME times lol!
@Treejewel19: I actually don't run outside because I hate having people watch me while I run or work out. I used to love going to the gym, but now it's too far away and I'm not motivated enough...
I talked to him and he agreed to stay in a separate room, mostly!
I too feel this way. He has never said anything negative, only positive support but I am just painfully awkward and shy so I think thats why I am like this.
I understand! I am self couscious with my work out too. My workout IS my alone time...I get on the treadmill for about 4 -5 miles and turn the tv on super loud (usually get sucked into a lifetime movie or music videos), and ten do weights, stretching ect... but when I'm not alone, I just feel kinda..meh. I still workout, but it's definately not the same :(
I usually work out alone too... so when he's at home I feel wierd working out. It really has nothing with me being self consious or him watching me, I feel like I should work out on my alone time and spend time with him when he is home...
I used to make my FI sit in the office while I worked out with the Wii -- it wasn't an awful thing for him 'cause he could play music or go online, but I felt soo self concious with him even in the same room.
DH thinks it's really cute when I do a workout video - absolutely NO IDEA why. I don't like working out in front of him but I will sometimes if I need to. It's usually a poor workout though as I always end up laughing so I tend to do my workouts when he's at work. I don't mind working out with him at a gym though - it's just the home workouts that make me self-conscious for some reason. Maybe it's because I feel stronger and more coordinated at the gym, who knows?
We've always worked out together, in fact he was the first person to get me to join a gym. We go to the gym together and sometimes we'll work out together and other times we do our own thing. At this point in our relationship, I don't think either of us has any insecurities with one another. We've even done p90x at home together... I guess I've just gotten used to people seeing me workout. I do a lot of running on the beach and I've taken a lot of fitness classes at the gym. I don't mind working out with him at the gym, but when I run, it is definitely my alone time. I'm not self conscious though... The way I see it, everyone has to workout to stay in shape. If anything, I feel more motivated if I know people are watching because when you half-ass a workout it looks retarded. :)
I work out with my SO all the time (in fact we're going to in about half an hour...), it's great motivation for the both of us. He's the only reason I work out, actually. Maybe it wouldn't be so bothersome if you guys work out together?
otherwise, I don't see a problem with asking him to not bother/watch you while you work out. Anyone watching EXCEPT my SO would bother me, since I'm otherwise very self conscious too. When I lived at home I had to make sure my parents were out or sleeping or something to go on the treadmill LoL
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Hi bees,
Do you ever feel self-conscious about working out when your SO is at home? My SO takes great care of himself, and he works out while I'm at home sometimes without any problems, but I'm a bit self-conscious (he knows a lot more and I'm just worried that he'll laugh at how fast I run out of breath or how hard some exercises are by the end - he's done that before, jokingly, but it still hurts). I really love the Jillian Michaels workouts, but so far have only done them when he wasn't at home. Well, due to his job conditions he's at home A LOT lately when I'm at home as well, and I really want to get my workouts in! I guess I just want other people's shared experiences to make me feel more confident, though I might still ask him to shut his door while I work out in the living room ;)