Post # 1
Ok so here is the situation: I had an interview last week to work somewhere with a man that has an interesting reputation in our field. I’m going to be vague on the details here on purpose. He is married with young children but has the reputation of chasing young women, of which I am the “type.” He has approached my friend at a bar twice in the last week or so, not realizing they had already met…twice. It is hard for women in my field to get a good rep in the boys club so I do not want to start out on the wrong foot. That being said, if you were the type he went after, would you still work there? Or would you pass it up because you wouldn’t want people to think something was going on. I am afraid that people will gossip, as they do, and make up things that are not really happening…
Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
Post # 3
I would defintiely look elsewhere… not because of gossip but just because I prefer not to be involved or associated with someone/business that has that little of integrity. It’s just not a good enviroment to be or grow in, IMO.
Post # 4
Meh… I wouldn’t let it bother me. Let haters hate lol 😉
EDIT: How badly do you need this job? I was thinking this is something that you NEED. If it isn’t, I would keep looking.
Post # 5
@runsyellowlites: and @firsttimemom: This is exactly why I’m struggling!!! lol…I don’t want people to think I condone the behavior but I also know people can separate their personal and professional lives…The thing is, I know I can handle myself if I got uncomfortable, I’m just worried what happens when I go look for the next job.
Post # 6
I think i would take the job…But i have been looking for a job for over a year and have been having a hard time finding anything…
But if he did try something you could always do sexual harrasment some people get pretty good settlements lol…
Post # 7
People at work will gossip no matter what. If you want this job and you treat him appropriately at work and only converse or work with him as needed then you will probably be OK. You will have to approach your interaction with him with extreme caution, stick to email and phone when you can, be sure to not stand near him at work functions etc so you dont give the gossipers ammunition.
Now this is assuming you really want this job and it would be good for you and your career.
Post # 8
Reputation is VERY important and our “name” is worth securing. I personally would really stay away from a business that openly (people know about) have a moral or integrity issue(s). Those things do follow you & just like it’s not what you know but who you know for getting places.. it works the same way with to whom you’re associated with.
Like I said, I myself would always steer away from a place I knew lacked moral character and look for some place that does.