Workplace abuse: Should I stay or should I go

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: Should I stay or should I go?
    Get out NOW! : (22 votes)
    39 %
    Grin and bear it until you find something else. : (34 votes)
    60 %
    Stick with the job indefinitely. : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’d start looking for something else, pronto. I think you’ve only seen the beginning of the torture your boss can dish out and it’s unlikely the situation will improve.

    If you can’t kind something in the next 60 days, I’d spend another 30 days looking for a job as well as volunteer opportunities . One or the other will pan out and you’ll be occupied during the days. If you end up volunteering instead of working, you can keep looking for work until you find a good fit. You’re extremely lucky that you don’t have to endure this job just to make ends meet.

    Post # 3
    Member
    4216 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Not worth it. Get out. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’d start looking for something else. I wouldnt quit until you find another job, though.

    Can you complain to one of her higher-ups? Send an anonymous complaint?

    Post # 7
    Member
    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    chickspartan:  Oh gotcha.

    I definitely missed the part about your job not being necessary to survive- so I would like to amend my previous response:

    QUIT!!!!!

    And make sure to send her a long, detailed, and blunt email about how awful she is as an employer. If you dont need to work here to survive, you shouldnt have to endure a job that makes you sob and a boss that makes you feel like shit.

    Good luck!

    Post # 9
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would start looking elsewhere but never quit a solid job without a new one lined up I always say!

    Post # 10
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I disagree with PP. Yes, you might not need a job to survive, but depending on your industry, people talk. And sending your boss a nasty email quiting, or leaving after a disagreement isn’t going to reflect well on you, even if you were in the right.

    This just happened…give it a few days to let it breathe and see how things are when you go back in. 

    If it took you so long to find this job, who knows how long it might take this time around.

    Post # 11
    Member
    357 posts
    Helper bee

    chickspartan:  start looking for something else without quitting, unless you really get to the point you can’t take it. Meanwhile, when you start looking for jobs, you start emotionally detaching yourself from this one and it might make you feel a bit better. Good luck!

    On a side note, I didnt know BCC was not entirely hidden?

    Post # 12
    Member
    357 posts
    Helper bee

    sara_tiara:  this. Never burn your bridges. As much as you would like to get the last word, don’t do it. It may come back and bite you. Word travels far. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    1619 posts
    Bumble bee

    Unless everyone else knows this woman and how difficult she is to work with/for, they may side eye a resume where you were out of work for awhile and then only stayed here a short time. 

    Personally I’d try to stick this one out as you’re looking hard for the next job.  Fortunately if it’s just too much, your FI’s income does give you options.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would not stay and I would look for new work before quitting.  Potential employers tend to hold currently-employed people with higher regard than those unemployed and looking.  Also, I WOULD NOT leave your boss a nasty e-mail or letter.  Not only is that “burning bridges,” but it’s also hard evidence that she could give to anyone should your work references be checked.  I am so sorry you are going through this, and I wish you much luck for a better job!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1785 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    chickspartan:  thankfully it sounds like your co-workers probably feel the same way at least. If I were you I would keep my head down and just try to do as much work with as little drama as possible while looking for another job. It isn’t easy to go completely without work, but even if you can find something part time to tie you over it will be better than working there. 

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