World turned upside down with two months left till wedding!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh my goodness! that is so terrible! It is so so amazing how well you’re adjusting to this terrible situation, thank goodness your little sisters have someone like you to support them. Even though your mother has left you, just remember YOU made the right decisions in supporting your sisters and turning your father in.

Post # 4
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

*Hugs* yikes – what a turn of events!! I’m sorry you’re going through this. It will get better. It sounds like you’ve got a really healthy perspective on all this. I wish you the best of luck and I am sure your wedding will still be amazing 🙂

Post # 5
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1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow, stay strong girl, looks like a lot happened and you are doing so much for your sisters and you’re really looking out for them. I love that you have this wonderful perspective that you’re still marrying the love of your life – that is the most important thing in the world! 

 

I hope things look up for you and we’re here if you ever want to vent! Sending positive vibes your way!

Post # 6
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@miss_anon:  I’m so sorry you and your family is going through all of this… I can’t imagine what you must be thinking and feeling. What you are already doing is great! I would just continue focusing on my sisters and how I could help them. Getting them the therapy they need and pushing for the guardianship, especially since your mother left. 

As far as the wedding, you’re allowed to feel resentful and upset and you’re allowed to feel guilty about it too. Bottom line, you’re allowed to feel everything that you’re feeling right now. You are also allowed to have a shower and you are allowed to feel happy. It’s a happy and sad time for you. But you’re right at the end of it all, you’ll be marrying the love of your life. 

*hugs* 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Many kudos to you for taking your sisters. As a mom with grown kids, I can’t imagine what the Hell your mother is thinking.  Her actions are inexcusable.

I am so sorry you have had to give up so much.  Do you think maybe you and your girlfriends might be able to hop out to Vegas in a few months for a girls weekend?  If I were in their shoes I’d do that in a heartbeat.

I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 8
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am so sorry that this has happened to you, and most importantly your sister.  I can tell that she means the world to you, and I cannot even imagine how much of a shocker and emotional rollercoaster this must be for you! I am SO sorry, and wish there was something that we bee’s could do to help! 

I feel that at this time, the best thing you could do for your FI is apologizing to him and tell him how you are feeling and that you are not meaning to take your stress out on him, but at times like these it is human nature to act they way you are acting towards those who are closest to you.  I’m sure that he understands that this is not his fault, and not your fault, it is just your way of dealing with the stress.  Don’t beat yourself up too much, as I’m sure he understands!!! 

I am so sorry that you’ve had to cancel your bach party, but I wonder if you still can have one in town, and have your FI take care of your sisters, I’m sure he wouldn’t mind! Plus, with all of this going on, you need a day for YOU too.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@miss_anon:  I don’t even know what to say. I am very sorry for what you are going through and I hope that you can reschedule your fun events for after the wedding. It’s not ideal, but it will still allow you to have some much needed time with your friends.

You sound like you have a very clear head and a lot of perspective. You have everything in order and are doing everything right. I hope that your wedding is a wonderful and joyous event and that you are able to enjoy yourself.

Post # 10
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@miss_anon:  I’m so sorry for all the things going on in your life right now. I know you cancelled everything, but is there any way that maybe you and some girlfriends (and your sisters) can do something together? Spa day, movies, something like that?

Again, I’m so sorry, but you sound incredibly strong. Good luck.

Post # 11
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I am so sorry you are going through this. I cannot even imagine… However I am very glad that your sisters have you in their lives and that you have your fiance. I pray that your wedding day will still be filled with joy for you.

Post # 12
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1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@miss_anon:  Contact a local organization that specializes in child abuse. They can get you extra resources, support, someone to talk to, etc. Praying for your strength. You are a great big sister. 

Post # 13
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4639 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am so sorry for you. What an awful situation, all I can offer up is thank god your mother was level headed enough to leave with your sisters, for however brief it was. If she didn’t this secret could’ve been kept from your for longer and your sister could’ve endured more pain and suffering. She is now safe and can focus on recovering from what she’s been through.

You’re doing everything you can and more, and you sound like a very strong person. Best of luck! I hope in 2 months time, both you and your sisters can enjoy your wedding.

Post # 14
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s horrible! Thank GOD your sisters are safe with you now, and I think it’s FINE to feel jealous of girls who don’t have to deal with all of that!

Post # 15
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am so sorry for what you are dealing with. Situations like this are so terrible (I was abused by a grandparent). But honestly, I just want to say that you are an amazing person and so is your FI for taking your sisters in. They are beyond blessed to have you in their lives! I think maybe just reaching out to your FI and telling him that you are under a lot of duress and express how much his pateince and support mean to you during this time. 

I understand being frustrated that you don’t get to have the full wedding/bridal experience wtih your shower and bachelorette party. I am so sorry that you will miss out on the ideal wedding experience.

I think in 2 months time, you will have your amazing husband and be able to celebrate with your sisters. Maybe you can have a girls day out or something? Maybe a spa day (your sisters could perhaps come to something like this?). I think you can still have a day or lunch or something. You deserve it. 

I am praying for you and your sisters, the healing process isn’t easy but I know it’s possible.  

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

All I can say is that I’m very sorry…it’s an unimaginable situation to find yourself in. Your post suggests that you are a strong woman – both in what you can shoulder but also in character. Your sisters are lucky to have a role model like you in their life; someone to turn to for comfort, for safety and for consoling. Best of luck to you, your soon-to-be-husband and your family. You are an incredible lady and I hope that your wedding day brings you both peace and joy! 

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