(Closed) Worried about bachelorette party, help!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
4512 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think Maid/Matron of Honor has got to come down. Money tensions at a bachelorette do not a good time make! 

Ditch the chauffered car, dinners out, etc, and ask her to make ot much more low key — something everyone can afford. And if Maid/Matron of Honor really wants to have these fancy elements, then she needs to do it as a treat for eveyone else. Without grumbling. I respect your 2 BMs for sticking to their budgets.

Post # 4
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@stillme:  this

There is one other option- you could invite a few more girls to help break up the costs a little. Or you can chip in a little. 

Post # 5
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Maid/Matron of Honor needs to come down to earth. I’m sure the other BMs feel like total crap about not having the funds. No one’s good time should come at the expense of someone else’s feelings. Maybe there can be a meet in the middle? I’m sorry you are dealing with this, it sounds like a sticky situation. 

Post # 6
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can understand MOH’s point of view but yeah, if the party needs to become more low key, YOU have to be the one who is firm with her about it.  It sounds like the party will cause a lot less drama if it fits in more with J and S’s budget. Maybe you and your Maid/Matron of Honor can hit the town later one on one to have a special night.

Post # 7
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah I feel like your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to find a way to compromise with the other BMs without stressing you out over this. She really has no right to plan all these things and then get mad because the others BMs can not afford it.

Post # 10
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your Maid/Matron of Honor is being kind of snobby.  No one is “punishing” her for being successful.  That’s ridiculous.  Not everyone has lots of money to spend, especially students, and your Maid/Matron of Honor should not penalize the rest of the bridesmaids for having taken different paths in life.  And since you don’t want any of the fancy stuff, tell her it’s a no go.

Post # 11
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Same thing happened with my girls. Some wanted to do a weekend gettaway for me, others (even though they COULD afford it) flat out refused to chip in for anything. I can see were your Maid/Matron of Honor is coming from because it is SUPER frustrating when you are willing to do so much for the bride and no one else can or will help. My poor Maid/Matron of Honor got so frustrated with the other girls that I ended up taking charge and canceling the whole thing. If all the girls can’t get on the same page then I will step in and tell them to forget it all. It’s not worth the drama.

If I were you I would tell your Maid/Matron of Honor to take it down a notch. Having a chauffered car is nice, don’t get me wrong, but it’s not a necessity to have fun. Are the girls willing to put any money at all towards it? Maybe you could all go out one night and just relax and eat in the rest of the weekend…..?

Post # 12
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, unfortunately you can’t squeeze water from a stone.  It’s awesome that your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to plan so many awesome things, but if the other girls don’t have the money, they just don’t.  Unless you or her wanted to cover the other girls’ costs, you have to tone it down.


Post # 14
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you just have fun hanging out t the beach? Tell Maid/Matron of Honor you guys could maybe afford to go out for drinks one night, and relax and have girl time the rest of it. An entire weekend is a long time and a lot of money could be spent.


Post # 15
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

sounds like you dont care too much if they are there or not as you said ‘I don’t have a problem partying with just my MOH’.

so why dont you do that and then do something seperate and inexp with the other 2 girls if you have time/can be bothered. 

your moh should have probably checked their budgets first before planning all these expensive/fun things..

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