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    MsAnnaLytical    March 13, 2010   Orlando, FL--finally with my FI!

    My reception is going to be at a pretty small clubhouse, which is perfect for my small guest list (40-50). All our guests are close family and friends, the vast majority of whom are married and significantly older (40s and 50s). We want to have big band music with an iPod dj. I have a few questions about this set up!

    #1- Do I REALLY need a dance floor? There's a stone patio outside which would be big enough for people to dance...and renting a dance floor is an expense for a portion of the reception that neither me or FI are thrilled about. We both have two left feet.

    #2- What should we do to get people to dance? Is there some tried-and-true method to encouraging people to, you know, have a good time? I'm afraid that everyone is going to sit there and be bored. I'm pretty soft-spoken and don't really have that "Let's go!" kind of personality!

     
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    bvig    September 2009   wedding in NJ

    If you've got an area big enough to dance it should be fine.  If it's stone will people's heels get caught - but they can always take off their shoes. 

    Are you guys planning on doing a first dance?  Neither of us really wanted to dance too long in front of people so halfway through we had the DJ ask all the couples to join us.  Then we had a really upbeat song immediately afterwards and had solicited some of the more outgoing people to dance to make sure people would be willing.  We also had a cocktail hour and dinner beforehand so people had had drinks in them.  In general that got those who wanted to dance dancing and those who aren't dancers either laughed and watched or went to sitting areas or milled about. 

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I don't think you need to rent a dance floor.  If people want to dance, they'll do it anywhere!  I think the best way to get others to dance is to play good music and if you guys, the bride and groom, are dancing others will gravitate to you.  The guests wanna be where you are so if you're gettin down, they're with ya!

     
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    sunshinebride    July 30, 2010   California

    rely on a really good dj/mc or live band.  they should know how to get the party started!  i think if you're worrying about people not dancing, it's not a bad idea to throw in a dance floor.  but if you have a perfectly good alternative, you may not want to waste the money.  seriously, good dj=good party

     
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    joey    August 1, 2009   Seattle

    I don't think you need a dance floor but if you are doing a Ipod, then I'd suggest designating someone to be your ipod dj.  When it looks like the music isn't getting people out there, you need someone to kick it up a little and be willing to search for another song on your playlist that will get people moving.  I also think that having both the bride and groom dance helps get people out there.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    Oh my gosh, I was SO worried about this before our wedding. I'm not much of a dancer, either, and I was terrified about our first dance, and if people would dance at all.

    At our wedding, the first dance was easy peasy, and not at all as bad as I thought it would be. It seemed to go on a little longer than usual, but that was because people were staring at us :)

    During the first hour or so of dancing after the reception, no was was dancing. Maybe one or two people. It was awful, and I started to panic, but didn't want to force it. Then Proud Mary came on, and I grabbed my mom, aunt, sister and cousins to the dance floor, and we did the Tina Turner dance to the best of our ability. Kind of a family joke :) I'm surprised I did it! The mood struck, and it was a small wedding also, and I just kind of got swept up in the moment and kept dancing all night. As soon as we were on the dance floor, more people joined in, and before you knew it, everyone was dancing.

    So, as much as I hate to say it, what gets people dancing at a wedding? The bride and groom on the dance floor :) But asking a few family members to join you will certainly get you warmed up. For the most part, I wasn't even dancing so much as rocking out to my fav tunes :)

    We also did the iPod wedding (but for the whole night).

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    yes if there are cracks in the stone that people's heels can get caught in, maybe instead of a dance floor, you could spend 50 bucks at Old Navy and buy a bunch of different flip flop sizes.

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    Well I'm gonna go with what works for me on this one - alcohol. Surprised

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    The only wedding I've been to that had a dance floor and dancing music but NO dancing was one where the bride & groom weren't dancers. They did a first dance (looking terrified) and the bridal party joined about 2/3 through, parents joined etc, but after a few songs the B & G left and the dance floor emptied pretty quick. So at least one of you needs to be out there most of the time (at my wedding it's going to be me) and if you've got 1 or 2 groups of friends who are keen dancers make sure they know you're counting on them!

    Oh and I think if you've got a stone patio that would make a lovely dance floor (assuming you'll be doing your first dance out there so people will know that's what it's for) - provided it's not going to trip people up.

     

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