- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m halfway through my year-of-engagement, and although most big-picture plans are complete and many little-picture plans are underway, I’m feeling stressed about meeting everyone’s needs. Any zen brides out there have some words of wisdom?
Here are some specifics to my situation: My fiance and I are planning, and paying for, most everything ourselves. We live on the west coast, but are getting married on the east coast because our families are there (friends are scattered). Having just us two cooks in the kitchen has made logistcs smooth… but it also has me worried about pleasing all friends and family. I should mention that I have an extensive customer service work background, and that planning the wedding feels in so many ways like a customer service job – fun and exciting, but definately concerned with the needs of those particpating over my own.
I am either worried that people feel left out of the process, or worried that the decisions we are making are going to put people out.
Further complicating our wedding is the happy fact that most of our friends, and two family members, are also getting married within months of us. 7 weddings total! Our wedding party has been asking about bachelor/bachelorette parties (we had floated the idea of a ‘jack and jill party’ which feels the most like ‘us’), but between all of our loved ones’ celebrations, I feel incredibly selfish imposing any further travel on anyone. I personally feel no need for a pre-wedding celebration… I will be grateful for those who come to our wedding which will be plenty of paryt for me, but I fear that our bridesmaids/groomsmen will be bummed if we declare ‘no bachelor/bachelorette’.
When I think of the wedding day itself, I start to worry that people will be unhappy with any/all aspects…the food, music, location, hotel situation, etc… I worry that the bridesmaids don’t like the dresses, or that our families will be dissapointed in our ceremony choices. I am not yet at the point where I can envision “The happiest day of my life”, but rather “a pretty stressful day playing hostess!” We have hired a day-of-coordinator to alleviate some of this, but my worries are still getting the better of me.
If any Bees can relate, or better yet, if any Bees went through this but managed to have a worry-free day, I would love to hear about it!!