(Closed) Worried about finally being together full time again

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Not sure what you’re worrying about specifically? Most couples are together the majority of the time, but when they need a break they go do their own thing.

ETA: I kind of mis-read your original post. Try not to worry too much about the future (even though it’s hard not to). Pretty soon you’ll wonder how you ever lived apart for so long!

Post # 4
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2265 posts
Buzzing bee

I totally understand!! I think its always a worry with LDRs that even though you know you love each other, its like “but will he like being around me all the time?”

You just have to remember that this going to be an adjustment for him too and so maybe you guys should sit down and talk about it. I know that reassurance from us that everything will be okay will only go so far, but hopefully he can talk you out of your worries. 

Post # 5
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yes it is tough to adjust to being together at first.  It’s something that people who aren’t in a LDR don’t really understand.  With time, it will get easier to be together, you will develop a routine together.  Are you planning on living together right away or have seperate places?  If you have seperate places, it will be pretty similar to what you have now except that you see eachother more often.

Post # 6
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m not necessarily worried about it.. but I have thought about it from time to time. Now, it’s easy for me to know that I’ll be back home in a few days and can do things “my way”: aka, have a clean house, go to sleep when I want to, go on WB without him asking me questions, etc. But when we get married there is no “I’m going home” escape… because we are home. Haha. I think it will be fine once we begin a routine and figure out how to have alone time when we want it. 🙂

Post # 8
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hear you. I was there myself this past August. My boyfriend moved back up from Florida to New York after a bit more than 2 years apart. Suddenly he was 15 minutes away and I’m spending 2-3 nights a week over his house. 

I was super excited and still nervous as hell. 

To be honest, being we have so many hobbies and friends in common its been great. We have a great time hanging out together, like we first did as friends – and still managed a good time as a couple

The odd adjustment was we saw each other so rarely we often went out – fancy dinners, special activites etc. Now we’ve had to adjust to like just hanging around a house on a Saturday with maybe $20-40 to spend, but it’s definitely not a Florida theme park. 

Getting used to ‘just chilling’ together took a while, but being cosy lounging around in pjs on a Saturday is awesome. 

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