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It won't be great but two hours is not that bad. You can still see each other every weekend if you wanted. Plus with a new job you'll be plenty busy. You don't know anything until you attempt it so there is no telling how you'd handle it. I did an LDR my first year in college and was just like you. So in love and so certain we could make it work. I quickly realized the relationship was doomed though b/c after about 3 weeks I didn't miss him and I started to be annoyed by his phone calls. We had been attached at each others hips for a year and then poof! Not saying thats what will happen but just that you don't know how you personally will react until you are in the situation.
When DH and I met, he traveled every week for work. So I'd only get to see him Friday - Sunday anyway. We got into a nice little routine. I'd hang out with my friends during the week, run errands, etc. Then on the weekends, DH and I would hang out. We'd talk every night while he was out of town. It was just normal to us. When he stopped traveling and was around all the time, it was weird for a while.
You'll be able to see each other every weekend, so you can easily make it work. Just keep communicating to each other.
It's not as bad as it sounds. My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years now. For the first year I was on the West Coast and he was on the East Coast. We kept it casual b/c clearly it is tough to date someone on opposite coasts. After the first year I realized he was someone special and I wanted to make a go of it, so I moved back home. We became inseparable. This made it difficult when he received a job offer 2 hours away (another few months and he can work from home 3 days a week, and be in the office 2 days a week). It’s been about 14 months of long distance. We only see each other on weekends. Originally we planned on meeting for dinner once a week, but our work schedules are both crazy and that has not happened. It’s tough but we love each other and we know it’s not permanent. We’ve actually grown to enjoy the time apart and cherish the time together. The old adage is true- Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
My FI and I live 150 miles apart (about 2.5 hour drive) and we see eachother only 1 weekend a month. It is hard to be apart, we lived in the same town for 18 months but then I got a job that I had to move for until June when we get married. During the week we use Skype to talk, and to see eachother. We Skype every night at 8:30pm, for a hour. It makes it easier because you see eachother and you know at 8:30 that is your time to talk to him, it helps me get through each and every day.
It will make you closer in your relationship I believe, it has helped us talk about a lot of things, and realize many things. We are more excited than ever to be getting married in June, and we know June 18th will be the day we will be together, no more distance... but just to start our life, where ever he gets a job after graduation :)
I recommend Skype though :) Good Luck!
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A little background information... I met my SO through a mutual friend last summer (about 8 months ago) after we both got out of long-term relationships. Neither of us were looking for another relationship, but we really hit it off. We started "officially" dating 6 months ago, and everything has been so wonderful! I'm in my last year of law school, and he just started, so he'll have 2 more years left after I graduate. I'm 24, and he's 29. We both live in Tallahassee.
About 3 weeks after we started dated, I got a job offer from a federal district court judge in Panama City to be his law clerk for 2 years. Any lawyer bees out there will know that this isn't really an offer you can turn down because the position is realllllly hard to get. And 3 weeks into a relationship, I wasn't really ready to change any plans I had already made for myself career-wise.
Well Panama City is about an hour and 45 minutes away from Tallahassee, and I move in July.
I feel bad complaining/worrying about this because I know some bees are in transatlantic LDRs, but it's really stressing me out. We spend EVERY night together right now and spend as much time with each other as we can. I miss him during the day when I'm at work. I can't imagine not being with him that much.
We both know that this is something special, and I'm fairly confident we both see marriage as a definite possiblity in the future. Last weekend he said, "I think you're it for me." ::heart melts:: And there are other things too... he said we should start saving for a trip to Brazil for the World Cup in 2014. I was watching Bride Wars and made a comment that I would never wear my mom's dress because it was trendy back in the 70s (definitely not now!), and he said, "You can just wear my mom's." (Silly boy) And we were talking about what he wanted to do after law school, and he said "Get a good job and buy you a big ring." We've met each other's families and friends and all that stuff too.
Needless to say, it seems like we both see marriage in our future, but I afraid of how the long distance is going to affect our relationship. Things are so great right now, and he has every quality that I want (or didn't know that I wanted!) in another person. There seriously isn't anything about him that I want to change. I just know that I'm going to miss him so much during the week (the plan is to see each other every weekend since the drive isn't too bad). Luckily, the LDR will only be for 2 years because my job ends in 2013, and that's when he graduates, so we'll both be relocating at the same time.
So some questions I'm curious about from other LDR bees: How was the transition from seeing each other all the time to periodically? In what ways did the LDR affect your relationship? How do you cope with the "missing him" feeling everyday? I've never been in a LDR, and I'm not really sure what to expect.
Thanks for reading my wicked long vent!