(Closed) Worried about having to talk to FMIL at Wedding (long)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You need to find a way to have a civil interaction with her. FSIL and I hate each other (I’m a judgy bitch, she’s a liar, etc) but we can at least acknowledge each other – no one expects us to have a conversation, give a hug, etc. and we wouldn’t want to have a “fake” interaction like that anyway. 

Post # 4
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

There will be SO many people to talk to at you reception, I promise you won’t really have to do more than exchange a couple sentences with her. Don’t let her take away from the joy!

Post # 6
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3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Gah. I think you really do need to work it out with her before the wedding/rehearsal dinner. Those days are YOUR times, and the last thing you want is awkwardness or meanness to overshadow your joy at marrying your FI. 

I’m NOT a good one to talk about being the bigger person in these instances (super stubborn), but maybe your FI could work to set up a meeting where he indicates that if she does not agree to meet with you alone (BTW why is that so important to you? Not that it shouldn’t be, just curious) on neutral grounds (coffee shop half way in between?), then you are both uncomfortable with her being present at your wedding. That might force resolution to this issue.

Sounds like there is a chance to salvage this relationship, or at least make it a little better. And ideally that’s what would happen. There are far too many stories of FIL relationships that will never get better.  

Post # 7
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

About 2 months ago both FMIL and FFIL both drove to our city to meet with my FI. I refused to meet with them because she was still refusing to meet with me without both her husband and my FI present

maybe its just me but i wouldnt meet her without my FI (husband) present.  who knows what rubbish she will make up if its just the 2 of you, a group environment would be my preference

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