Post # 1
So this weekend we are going to visit DH’s best friend and his wife to celebrate the best friends B-Day. I’m dreading it and normally I love these friends! However , I’m pregnant (6 weeks by the weekend) so I am exhausted, crampy, dizzy and throw up without warning- not to mention I’m keeping a huge secret!! I have lots of concerns about the weekend…first of all I am afraid DH will get drunk and start talking to my stomach lol. Also, they are going to wonder why I am not drinking and I’m worried about actually being able to stay awake during the party at their house. Unfortunately they live in a one bedroom condo so I don’t have a room I can go to to fall asleep or even a bathroom away from everyone to go throw up in. I would prefer to just stay home and let DH go alone but he doesn’t want to do that. Not to mention this couple has been trying to get pregnant and I’m not sure where they are at in the process. Any tips for getting through?
Post # 3
is the party on friday or saturday night? i ask because i was in a similiar situation, and told my friends i didn’t want to drink because i felt hung over from the night before. that also could be an excuse for an upset stomach/nausea. it actually worked really well; no one tries to force drinks on someone who says they’re hungover from partying too hard the night before 🙂 if that’s not an option, can you just say that you have to be the designated driver and that’s why you’re not drinking? as far as the nausea/vomiting, not sure what to advise unless they live in a building with a bathroom in the lobby. good luck!
Post # 4
Tell them you’re getting over the flu! No one is going to get within ten feet of you, let alone make you drink, if they think you’re sick or recuperating.
Post # 5
@mintmercury: Those are great tips unfortunately…this couple lives 3 hours away from us so we are driving down Friday and having dinner w them Friday night then the party is Saturday night. We are staying at their house so can’t use the DD excuse either. 🙁
Post # 6
Mix yourself fake drinks. Red solo cups are great for this. Everyone assumes your drinking and can’t tell what your drinking. My favorite is sprite and “vodka”.
Post # 7
I was going to say “Stay home. DH can tell them you’re not feeling well, which is 100% true.” but you said DH doesn’t want to do that. Why not?
Honestly I don’t see how you can possibly keep it a secret if you stay there. I was staying with my SIL and her family when I first began getting morning sickness, and she saw me continously vomiting so she had a pretty good idea what it was 🙂 (And in your case, a 1 b/r apartment, there’s no real privacy). But she never told anyone before we made it public.
So I think your only two options are (1) stay home, (2) swear them to secrecy. Present those options to your husband. EDIT: or (3) stay in a hotel, but that might just make the couple suspicious anyway
Post # 8
I don’t see why Katies suggestion of saying you’re sick wont work. You could even combine it with “fake” drinking. Say you’re not feeling really well, pretend to try & “rally” by mixing up some fake drinks, and then cut out early to another part of the house to sleep. It’ll seem like you tried to party & you’ll have a good reason to be pukey, too (“I knew I was getting a stomach bug, I shouldn’t have drank I feel awful!”)
as for your husband getting drunk & spilling the beans, I would tell my DH that if he didn’t think he could control himself he wasn’t allowed to get more than just buzzed or he’d be in Big Trouble.
Post # 9
@paula1248: Trust me I would prefer to stay home! The issue is that DH has been away a lot for work and doesn’t want to leave me on the weekend. Plus everybody would think it was really weird since they are my friends too and that would invite 100 more questions. We may just drive down Saturday AM and leave Sunday AM so we are only there one night instead of two.
Post # 10
You’re on antibiotics and can’t drink.
Post # 11
@Ballet513: If I were you I would just not go! You obviously do not feel like going, and you are going to find it stressful there- trying not to vomit and deal with people asking if you are pregnant because you are not drinking. That does not make you a bad person at all. I cant imagine you would put pressure on your DH to go anywhere if he was vomiting for whatever other reason! Stay put, put your feet up and try to relax 🙂
Post # 12
@Ballet513: Go with the “pretend you’re sick” card. It works well – make it really realistic by emptying a pack of ticktacks into a pill bottle and bring it out at the meal and take one before your meal if you think they’re getting suss about you really being ill or not
Post # 13
I agree you should pretend you have the stomach flu. You are already nauseous, you are exhausted, you are dizzy. Who wouldn’t buy that you are sick? You ARE sick! Pretending you are not would be increadibly difficult.
@Cariad: The tic tac in a pill bottle is a great idea! You could even use your prenatals for a more authentic pill look. Unless of course you are using the chewy gummi kind.