Post # 1
So as the big day fast approaches I’m having such anxiety about having a bunch of pictures of the day and never wanting to have anyone look at them because of how I look in pictures. In the Fall the finace and I went to Baltimore for an impromptu photo session by my sister and her BF. Baltimore is where we began dating and it was our first time staying away together. It’s such a happy place for us, so we figured we’d get some shots in the Inner Harbor. So my issue is that I’m a size 24 girl and am 5’7″ he’s 5’7″ and a size medium in mens. He works out, so at least he has some bulk from that, but every picture we took I look huge next to him. I don’t want a book of photos from the day of me towering over the photo. Anyone have a similar issue with their man? I’ve been searching through photos for something like this situation just so I could see some real life couples. If anyone has any could you please share. The one’s I especially HATE were the ones at the end of the dock from behind. I’m a freakin house! I’ve never liked my photo taken. I’m a scrapbooker, so I’m always behind the camera taking the pictures. That’s where I like it the best, but I know on my wedding day I will HAVE to be in pictures. I’m hoping the dress and tux help me look smaller and him look bigger…haha. Thanks Bees for your help.
Post # 3
I have a similar fear! The advice I’ve been given is to be open and share your concerns with your photographer. Let them know you would like their recos and direction on best poses. That is what I am going to do. I am 5’4 and size 18-20. Never been good at posed photos. I am not losing the weight like I hoped, 2 months out, and starting to stress big time. Which doesn’t help.
Just wanted to let you know that are NOT alone in how you are feeling and pass along advice I’ve been given.
Post # 4
I understand how you feel. Like you I am not a fan of having my photo taken and I’m the one who’s usually snapping the pics. I am 5’8 and a size 22. My FI is 6’0 and wears a medium. Yeah, he’s pretty skinny. I am trying to keep in mind that what will show the most in photos is how happy and in love we are. If I can keep that mindset when I see the photos after the wedding, then I won’t pick myself apart in them. The saddest part about this is when I see other women the same size as myself, I think “she looks great”. We are our own worst enemy.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies! I do appreciate the support and know this is a happy time and other people won’t notice the imperfections. I’m totally going to bust out some push ups or something for my jiggly arms! That’s the part I’m soooo concerned about because my dress is off the shoulder. We are beautiful and our men LOVE us for who we are!!
Post # 6
I agree to talk to your photographer. They are professionals and should be able to place you correctly to make sure you are happy with the results. Perhaps you can ask to see photos they’ve taken of other plus size brides as examples?
And honestly, what you said is right. We are beautiful and our men love us for who we are. There is nothing better than that! Good luck!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I agree with the suggestion to talk with your photographer. He/she can make the best of the situation if he/she knows what your concerns are. And I would note that a wedding dress has much better construction than most everyday clothes, and is often more flattering because it is made to nip/tuck/conceal/flatter. And my bolero was my bff. I hate my arms, and the bolero concealed a multitude of sins. 🙂
Post # 8
im terrified tooi hatee being in photo now..!!i wish i got married 30kg ago and when i was younger,,instead i get a younger husband!:)..
Post # 9
I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m on the heavier side (I like to think curvier side) and my fiance is super trim. We’re also the same height so in any kind of heel I’m taller than him. That being said, I know I’m beautiful and will be even more so on my wedding day. Try to look at yourself through others eyes. You even said that you think other brides your size are beautiful – try to think through those eyes. Also, talk to your fiance. I guarantee he thinks you’re beautiful and he’s really the important one – right? So try to see yourself through his eyes. In the end, it all comes down to loving yourself and going easy on yourself. Nobody, not even a size 2, is completely happy with their body. Find the things you like an focus on that. Deep breaths. It’ll all be fine. Beautiful even.
Post # 10
I have these feelings all the time. I’m about a size 16, even after losing 20 pounds, and I barely see the changes in myself. My FI is a skinny guy, good looking, and I feel like everyone will think I look funny next to him. I’ve been putting myself through hell in order to look better. I’ve been dieting and stressing about food for months, I went out and got invisalign braces, bought new skincare stuff and makeup, and am spending a fortune on dress alterations to make sure it fits perfectly.
And yet I still have meltdowns that I’ll hate our pictures. All of this stresses me out so much, our wedding just can’t get here fast enough for me.
This picture was taken last summer where we’ll have our ceremony and I just HATE it. I feel like I look gigantic next to my FI and I’m worried I hate all our ceremony pics. To be fair, it was 20 pounds ago and that is not the best outfit or angle. But still, ugh.
Post # 11
Ugh I feel the same way 🙁
I swear, I see pics of ladies on here and I think you all look beautiful!!! Then I see my pics and absolutely cringe. I’m really worried that I’ll hate how I look. If anyone gets photographer’s tips on how to take flattering angled pics please share.
@Future MrsB: You look great! I mean that honestly.
Post # 12
@sehrler: Aww, thank you. I just feel gigantic in that pic, lol.
Post # 13
I feel the exact same way. I’ve always been curvier and I’ve come to accept that but my biggest concern is my face. I hate how chubby my face is and I’m worried about the dreaded double chin. I always hate how my face looks in pictures and I’m so worried I’m going to hate my wedding pictures. I’ve been constantly worried about. I’ve also been worried about guests posting pics they took to Facebook and hating how I look in then. I’ll be embarrassed if people post bad pics of me at my wedding to Facebook. It’s been such a constant stress and it seems like no one understands. Everyone keeps telling they’ll turn out fine but I just feel like no one gets it. I don’t want to be ashamed of my pictures.
Post # 15
Ahh! This is really the one anxiety I have about our wedding. I’m a super plus size, or as my FI (very lovingly) calls me “Chubby Extreme” I even googled “photographing fat people” haha! What I learned was, don’t let anyone stand behind you. Try to pose with objects in front of you. Avoid side pictures. And if the photographer can be above you a bit it’s better. It’s their job to make you look wonderful!
ALSO, I’ve looked all over the internet at wedding photos with plus size women. Most of the time I think they look fabulous. I hold on to the hope that I will look fabulous to others too. Plus, we’ll FEEL beautiful. That helps too!
Post # 16
@MarryingAmonkey: I’ve googled it too… I had a huge meltdown one night before our engagment pictures. My photographer is also a plus size girl, so she understands. As others have said talk to her about your concerns. T
here were only 2 or 3 of my e-pics that I HATED. Ugh, I looked like 11 mos preggers. I’m shuddering just thinking about them. There is a photographer out of San Antonio I think that specializes in plus size brides… I’d LOVE to have her do my wedding… but I’m thinking that might be a budget buster for us.