Post # 1
I am a wreck, my DH has been at his job for almost a year. He thought taking this job was a good career move but the first week in he knew and I knew that him taking the job was a really bad idea. The company is very shady, and so his boss who is on a total power trip, one min she is sweet as pie to him and the next min she is nasty as all can be that it amazes me she even has a job. He knew he had to stick it out for at least a year and that he wouldn’t be able to get a new job if he didn’t. He has been looking now but no luck, but the last few months things have gotten worse and worse. His boss always threatens him and blames him for things that she did wrong or dropped the ball on. He has proof of it all and emails and such, but his boss I think because she works in construction with all men she feels like she has something super to prove and she is never wrong while everyone else is.
My DH is in charge of the construction projects on site while she sits in the big office and really does I am not sure what. So today they were demo’ing a kitchen and HER contract for all the materials never showered up. ( she only gives bids out to her friends) and this person who was supposed to show up but didn’t was one of her friends. Well she blames my DH and tells him she is going to fire him, she has said this a few times before but it’s getting more and more and she doesn’t let him leave work until she feels that he can leave, she treats him like trash. He is in a high level position with 2 masters degrees and she treats him like he is uneducated.
I am really upset, I am 3 months along, and we can’t afford for him to get fired and lose his job, and he works in a field that has really slowed down so the chances of him finding something if he gets fired is slim to none.
Sorry for my wild vent I just needed to vent and put out my fears, I know he is probably worried himself and I don’t want to add to it with my fears.
Post # 3
Ugh I’m so sorry. Is there someone above this woman he can talk to and present the emails, etc to them? An HR department he can make a complaint to? He shouldn’t have to put up with that. Maybe he should start putting out resumes and try to secure another position and quit this job. Anything has to be better than working for this woman!!
Post # 4
@bakerella: totally agree, there’s got to be someone above this woman that he can go to. No one should be allowed to treat someone like that!!! I hate higher up people on a power trip
Post # 5
The problem it is that it’s a super small company. They do have 1 person in HR and then their is the owner of the company, but the company is beyond shady that it seems that the higher up people are well hooked up. AND my DH boss and the owner have something going on if you know what I mean. She really is not qualified in th least to do her job, she doesn’t even know what she is talking about half the time BUT she is well connected. My DH has gone to the HR lady but she does nothing because she too is best buds with the owner. The first week of my DH being there, it was very obvious that the owner ( who is a total jerk himself) hand picks his higher ups for a reason, does a lot of shady stuff behind the scenes. One of the biggest issues is that EVERYTHING has to get approved by my DH boss, anything to do with money because she does something to the books or she gets hooked up by her friends and she works out deals and pockets cash but because of this her friends are not reliable and then she blames my DH and he calls her out on it but then it sets her off even more.
My DH has been looking but he needs to be mor active and really get himself out there more, we both can’t live like this in this fear and turmoil that one day he just isn’t going to have a job. I know that is going to happen I feel it coming really quick.
Post # 6
It honestly doesn’t sound like she’s going to fire him, you know why? Because she hasn’t already… you know why? Because he’s good at what he does. In a market, where people would be begging for that job, she won’t take advantage. Because in her mind your DH makes her look better. Sounds like he does his job, is well educated and unfortuately has no other choice but to take her sh**. I’m so sorry for being blunt, but I’m in the same industry and your DH and I understand the dynamics of it right now. I highly doubt she would fire him… why would she? She’s honestly got it good. Does that make any sense?
Post # 7
I’m just going to put this out there, what if he stood up to her? What if next time she talked down to him or was a huge be-otch, he told her he was sick of her crap and to start acting like an adult? She’d probably threaten to fire him yet again, but still not do it because she’d be up a creek without him. Some people thrive off being the one in power, but when challenged will back down because they realize they’re not going to win.