- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So I’m having an evening wedding about an hour away from my home town. The reception is set to end at 10, and I have put hotel blocks on my wedding website and will be putting an accommodations insert into my invitations.
However, I wasn’t really able to get a great deal on hotels, and my main hotel block has rooms for $145 dollars per night. The only hotels I could’ve gotten for cheaper had terrible reviews online (and the hotels I did get blocks with had a vast majority of positive reviews – no bedbugs).
As it gets about time to send out invitations, I’m really regretting my decision to have the wedding outside of my hometown. It’s only an hour away, but my mom has convinced me that most of our relatives who live nearby are going to not come or are going to leave really early during the reception. I’m also regretting my decision to have an evening wedding (necessary because of the venue) because now some of our friends who would’ve driven home after (living 2-4 hours away) will have to get a hotel when they would not have had to if it had been early afternoon.
Aside from that, so many issues have come up with this venue that I just wasn’t expecting. Rentals are going to be expensive because they don’t have very much on site. Getting the reception space set up with our flip time is going to be a nightmare. There’s not a great spot to have the ceremony if the weather is bad. Even if the weather is good, the ceremony space will probably be cramped.
Then, I’ve just gotten the feeling that our wedding doesn’t make sense. We’re serving barbeque (although from a very well-known barbeque restaurant) in a museum. We really love barbeque and it’s inexpensive compared to other catering options. But I just feel like everything is so thrown together and out of place and everybody will be scoffing at our taste.
This is mostly a vent, but I’m just feel kind of exhausted and over the whole thing. I’ve been trying to do things as cheaply as possible but our budget has become twice what I’m happy spending. Being in my first year of a PhD program, I’m just feeling overwhelmed and wishing I had planned a more traditional reception in one of the local country clubs that would’ve taken care of all of the logistics for us.
If anybody has any suggestions or similar experiences, I’d appreciate hearing it. Mostly thanks for listening. As far as my fiance’s concerned, an hour is a negligable amount to travel, his entire family has to travel anyway, and who the hell doesn’t love barbeque and museums?
P.S. A big driving factor of my current stress is that my fiance got laid off about three weeks ago. We are pretty frugal so we live mostly on my grad stipend alone, but his income certainly helped add to the wedding savings (currently at about 8k) and served as a buffer in case anything came up. So on top of the logistics and being busy, I’m also feeling pretty financially vulnerable.