Post # 1
We fell in love with this lakeside venue… It is also a 10 bedroom, 10 bathroom house that we were thinking the bridal party could stay at with us. However, all the other guests would have to drive. The drive would be about 2 hours for our guests. Is that too much? Would you RSVP “no” because of the location? We are having a small wedding (75 guests or less depending on the RSVPs) so the guests we are inviting are close to us and not just acquaintances or anything… But will they find it trade that we weren’t considerate of them when choosing our wedding location? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
I didn’t vote because it depends on afew factors, such as how close I am to the couple and if I could get a hotel within a ten minute cab ride. I would hate to have to dd two hours to the nearest city late at night.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Oh man, I hear ya. Our out of state guests have to fly to the nearest airport and then drive between 2 and 6 hours (depending on whether they go to a big or small airport). BUT, if they want to be there, they will. I’ve flown, driven, and taken the train all over the damn country for my friends’ weddings!
Post # 5
I’m a little confused – your guests have to drive to get to the wedding and then have to drive home or are there hotels near by?
If there are hotels and guests can stay overnight I would drive upwards of 8 hours to go to a close-friends wedding.
Post # 6
I can’t vote because it depends on who it is. But my max for someone I am not close with would be 2 hours, but for someone I am close with it would be across the country=)
Post # 7
@alotlikelove: it sounds lovely. are there accommodations available nearby for your other wedding guests? is the wedding on a saturday? these would be a major factors for most.
Post # 8
At 2 hours, I think you might get a few who won’t choose to attend because of the distance, but there are also some pros – people who want to make it a little getaway weekend can, you’re less likely to have no-shows because most people will need to make advance reservations if they are staying, and at 2 hours, it really is close enough that if someone WANTED to, they could drive there and back in the day.
Our situation is a little different, in that one side lives at the north end of the state, one lives at the south end, and we live smack in the middle. We are actually picking a fourth, neutral location that is 2.5 hours from one area and 3 hours from another area. EVERYONE will have to drive. But we figured that was better than picking a far north or far south location and the other side having to drive 5+ hours each way.
People will do what they are going to do. If that is the wedding that will make you happy, go for it. You can also put some feelers out to your guest list – “If we had the wedding in X, would you still be able to make it or would that be a hardship?”
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Oh and if there are no other accomodations nearby and everyone else would have the do the 2-hour drive after the reception, that could change things. Personally, we almost always bring a tent if it’s an outdoor wedding so we can just crash out there (if allowed), so it wouldn’t change things for me. But most people aren’t tent-crashing hippies 😉
Post # 10
All of our guests travelled between 30 minutes and 4 hours each way to attend our wedding. We only invited family and very close friends. But there were also several hotels within walking distance of the venue. If there were no hotel options and we weren’t invited to stay on the property, then I would travel less or maybe leave a little earlier.
Post # 11
If they are close to you, they will be there. Keeping it small in your case is definitely the right choice. I live in NJ. My FI’s best friend used to live here, but moved to Utah with his GF. They got engaged and when they were planning their wedding, they were trying to decide on where to have it since all of their family was in NJ. They ended up having a smaller wedding in Utah and all the people that mattered to them made the trip for the wedding. A couple of months after that his family held their own small party for the people who couldn’t make it out to Utah. It all worked out for them, and it will definitely work out for you. Don’t give up on your dream venue because it’s “too far”.
Post # 12
Are there places to stay by the venue? Asking people to drive 4 hours round trip in a day for your wedding, especially if it’s an evening wedding (driving home in the middle of the night) is probably a bit much. If it was a cool location, we’d just stay the night.
Post # 13
There aren’t a lot of hotels to choose from.. And the best hotel from what I searched online is about 18 miles away from the venue… is that really bad?
Post # 14
To me 2 hours is nothing, I would drive that far for a wedding. I would want to stay in a hotel close by though because I wouldn’t drive 2 hrs to get back home after a wedding, especially one that takes place at night. The last wedding I went to I drove 10 hrs to be there. I think if people really want to be at your wedding they will make sure they are there.
Post # 15
@alotlikelove: Ug. I’d be annoyed as I went. One of us would have to DD and that makes a difference. I’d go, but I would be happier if you had a shuttle to the hotel or if it was an earlier wedding (where I would be driving back before I’m exhausted.
Post # 16
Not having an option for folks who want to have a few drinks but don’t want to drive would make me enjoy the reception a lot less, and probably leave earlier. I’m not saying “if I can’t get blind drunk, I’m not going.” But considering that the legal limit in most American states equals about two drinks in an hour, and that Europe is even more strict, it’s just too risky and dangerous. And if you’re used to celebrating with a few cocktails, then it makes for a less enjoyable time.