- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I met my best friend through DH. She is 4 years older than me, like DH. She was dating DH’s best friend and they all used to go out partying together (I was only 16 so I couldn’t go). When I tured 18 I finally met her, and we just clicked. That was 6 years ago and she is like my sister.
She is very introverted and a homebody and unless I reach out to her, I don’t hear from her/see her. I have accepted that is how it is. She is like that with all our friends, and only really see’s her family. This wasn’t really an issue when she was dating DH’s best friend, because the boys would organise to get together and she would come.
Last year, DH’s best friend passed away from an overdose, and she moved in with her grandparents. She lives over an hour away from us, so it isn’t easy just to pop in. We spoke/saw each other more as she was grieving, but as she started to move on it went back to how it was before.
I messaged her yesterday and sensed there was something she wasn’t telling me, and I figured she had started seeing someone. She said I was right, she is dating someone DH’s best friend used to work with. My DH knows him, he is 10 years older than her, a millionaire and has a science degree (she is studying science at university). I am thrilled for her, and from what they have both told me he sounds lovely.. but, I am thinking about myself and worried I am going to lose her.
She has a pattern of immersing herself in her partners life – their family, their friends. This new guy has a big social circle, and I am worried that she is going to completely ditch us and just hang out with all of his friend. She had a best friend before me, and once we met she completely ditched that girl.. am I just a convienent friend because I was dating her BF’s best mate?
Am I being irrational? Has anyone been ditched in a situation like this? Our social circle is small and tight knit and losing DH’s best friend last year was awful.. I don’t want to lose her too.