Post # 1
Ok so I have been married before (very young and dumb) so I have had a big white traditional wedding – despite this not being my dream day.
My dream (since a little girl) is to have a short dress, my very closest family, a nice meal (where people choose what they want rather than being told what they’re having) and a few drinks.
My day would be less than 20 guests.
Here are my concerns:
1. people will moan about lack of evening entertainment – DJ etc (a big worry)
2. people will think we are cheap – actually im not too bothered by this
3. certain people will want us to have a big showy event as they missed this when their daughter eloped (MIL)
Thats basically it – we have a child now and I see no point in spending so much money to please others
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Do it! It sounds great. I would think that your very closest family would be able to talk and hang out and have a great time together without the need for external entertainment. You could always have a great iPod playlist playing if people do want to dance. No point in trying to please the MIL, and it’s very true that with a kid, you’ve got more important priorities than blowing a bunch of money on a party. It’s your day, do what you want!
Post # 4
You need to do what makes you comfortable, ultimately that is most important. Other people may have an opinion or wish list for you, but the only one that really matters is what is on you and your FIs list.
Post # 5
I think that sounds perfect!! We are having a small wedding as well, mostly family and very close friends. You’ve done the other and it wasn’t what you wanted! This time, make it about you and your FI… that’s the way it should be 🙂
If anyone were to make a comment (and, unfortunately, you may get a few), just explain to them how you feel exactly like you just explained to us.
Post # 6
@weenie: Unfortunately, it seems that there is always someone who will be critical of something. Since it’s impossible to please everyone, I wouldn’t be too upset if some of your friends and family do not share your vision.
I think the type of day you envision sounds lovely. 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I agree with PPs…do what you and FI want to do!
Post # 8
I really don’t think anyone else gets a say in YOUR wedding. If this will make you happy, then it sounds wonderdul. Its definitly not uncommon to have a small wedding! Plus, like you said, there are other things to spend money on.Good luck 🙂
Post # 9
It’s your day, celebrating your relationship. It should be what you and your FI want. Not what everyone else wants. If you give in to what other’s want you will probably regret it. I say trust your gut and everything will be perfect for you and your FI.
Post # 10
As long as your happy, that’s all that matters!
Post # 11
A gorgeous country pub/resturant has been recently renovated and they have included a private dining room with a long table seating 18 people. As soon as I saw it I had a lump in my throat – it was perfect (and free to hire lol)
I want scallops and fillet steak and creme brulee and REAL champange – I wont get any of this if I go BIG
I’m plan on filling thr room with candles and petals and twinkly lights etc
I hope I get my day at last
Post # 12
MILs are just like that. Mine tried to move my venue several times. You just gotta stand your ground. Besides, it’s not your fault her daughter eloped. She should have exercised control in that situation, since her daughter was the bride, instead of trying to live vicariously through someone else’s daughter. Besides, she isn’t offfering to pay, is she?
You have a kid, and the kid should be your biggest responsibility, especially since it sounds like you had your “princess day” and you aren’t too keen on another one. People should understand. Besides, it sounds like fun to me.
Post # 13
@weenie: That sounds amazing and really fits everything you wanted 🙂 I hope you post pic, sounds like it will be lovely. Screw entertainment, give me creme brulee!
Post # 14
@weenie: I say do what you want, but take the time to explain why you are doing it to all parties involved. Talk to your FMIL and every guest to say “I want to make sure you know that our wedding will be a little untraditional. Instead of having a fancy recpetion, it means much more for us to treat you to a nice dinner at a restauarant. We will be forgoing the set menu, cake, and awkward dancing, which really isn’t me, and instead will be giving our guests the option to order off of the entire menu and have a night of conversation and laughter.”
Post # 15
@weenie: that sounds freaking magical – DO IT!
Post # 16
@weenie: You will never satisfy everyone so you might as well satisfy yourself. Your wedding sounds like it will be lovely!