Post # 1
So here’s the deal, I’m not very domestic nor do I have a flair for arts and crafts or even know what looks good. I have no concept of space and flow or an eye for design. That said, our venue is very DIY (barn) and I’m worried that the things I do will look cheesy or cheap. I google image different things and see these perfect, grandiose pictures of decor and florals, and I know I really can’t afford that.
I know I’m being superficial, but I want my wedding to LOOK good. No doubt it will be an amazing time with the smoked BBQ buffet, awesome DJ, open bar and gourmet cupcakes but I’m worried I won’t do anything “right”, even down to how I look. For example, I feel like whenever I’m ready to go out somewhere nice I leave the house feeling great. Then I get to wherever and see other women and think, “Oh…” I’m like that with a lot of things. I thought I did a pretty good job decorating our apartment, then we went to another couple’s place once and I was totally deflated and embarassed.
Did anyone else feel this way before their reception?? It’s still 7 months away but I’m so worried about it.
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Ugh, I am you!!!!!!! I have no interest in decorating. I know what I like, and I know my house looks like crap, but I just do NOT feel like “doing it up.”
I am not decorating my venue b/c it doesn’t *really* need it… but also b/c I can’t be bothered. Part of me doesn’t care, and the other part thinks I am a mad woman and I will totally regret it later. OR that I will have a mental breakdown a week before the wedding and lose my mind trying to figure out decorations at the last minute.
You should enlist the help of whichever of your friends likes this sort of thing!!! Don’t try to do it alone.
Post # 3
prahajess: The good news is, we have a day of coordinator that works with our caterer so I’ll definitely be getting her input on things.
I AM THE WORST BRIDE EVER.
Post # 4
So I’m not planning a wedding, so I dont know how you feel but reading this it seems as if it may be an esteem issue and not a decorator DIY issue. Being someone who struggled with self esteem issues for a while, I came to realize that I am not everyone else, and how I look, style myself, my apt and other aspect of my life are an indictation of myself and not anyone else. So although I may marvel at how put together a person/place is, at the end of the day we dont know what demons are haunting them because we only see the surface.
That aside, there is a bee on here who had a very goregeous but simple diy wedding that I was completely blown away by. It wasnt my style but it was perfect for her and that showed. I will look for the link and post it but whatever you decide to do at you wedding, as long as you make it about you and your FI, the love you both share will overshadow the little things you are concerned about!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
My advice would be to go for high impact simple projects, like string lights and draping, vs low impact complicated crafty stuff, like intricate name tags and napkin rings. That will give you the most bang for your buck and leave you with fewer opportunities to mess up.
For example, we did a variation of the dollar tree glass diy (but found the small vases at michaels so they would match) and printed menus for our tables with a small flower arrangement- really cheap, but high impact, instead of making tons of paper flowers or painting a bunch of stuff.
Post # 6
I worry about this too!! I have 322348093580 pieces of wedding related stuff in our guest bedroom and just have no idea how the room will look completely put together. Sure, I can do a centerpiece mockup at home, but maybe it will look bad in the space. It’s so irrational.
Post # 7
I am in the same boat lady!! I keep thinking that it won’t look “pretty” and it won’t look as nice as some of the beautiful weddings we see here on the Bee. I try to keep telling myself “at the end of the day you are going to be married to the man you love and that is all that will matter”. But I am still stressed it won’t look nice all put together. I think we have all felt this way at one point or another.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Ah this is all ME! I’m a DIY bride on a budget and I don’t know where to begin. lets trade tips and secrets to make our big day as smooth as possible.
Post # 9
This is the “dance floor” area. We aren’t using it as a ceremony space since we’re gettng married in our church, but thankfully that drapery and chandeliers are there all year long!
Post # 10
Totally with you. I work with a group of home designers and I’m so worried they’ll judge my low-budget, non-designed, DIY decor.
GUH. Trying to get over it, they’re my friends… positive thoughts, etc.
Post # 11
BurlapnLace: Your post made me think of this post on A Practical Wedding: http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/04/wedding-inspiration-boards/. Basically, it says that your wedding isn’t going to look like an inspiration board/wedding blog post, other weddings don’t either, and it doesn’t make them any less enjoyable.
Post # 12
I’m so worried about this!!! Basically the only worry I have about my wedding is that people will make fun of my decorations. I’m not crafty either. I worry that my DIY projects are going to end up looking like they were made by a small child.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
BurlapnLace: Your reception space is really nice. I say keep your decorations simple and in keeping with the venue. I’d do more fairy lights and have a lot of candles around the place in glass jars. Make it all soft light around the place.
Also, with that big chalkboard, it would be really cool if you could get an artist to come and draw something on it for you, like they sometimes have in coffee shops, but wedding themed.
Post # 14
MeiFrancis: your tables looked really nice.
Post # 15
Yes I know EXACTLY how you feel. I had a meltdown about this tonight actually. I am a terrible bride.