Post # 1
Hi Bees. I’ve been hanging around the hive for a few months, but haven’t done much posting. I feel like I need to get some some opinions on this though, because I am really stressing out about it.
My fi and I are having a private ceremony and reception on 9-2-11. It will just be parents, grandparents, and siblings. 15 of us all together.
The next day, 9-3-11, we are having a huge outdoor celebration for extended family and friends. There will be about 90 guests. Several of these guests are traveling from many states away to celebrate with us, and I am worried the bbq will be boring.
The celebration is scheduled for 4:30pm-7:30pm. We will be having a catered cookout: serving brats, cheeseburgers, pasta salad, potato salad, baked beans, fruit salad, and cupcakes. My fi is making an ipod playlist so there will be music. We are having horseshoes, bocce ball, and cornhole set up. There will be beer, champagne, pop, lemonade, and water provided.
I guess I just worry that people will think: “we traveled all this way for THIS?!” and I worry they’ll be bored. My fi and I are very laid back people, we don’t do well being the center of attention- so this casual cookout is very us. Not to mention, this celebration is really all we can afford at this time.
Has anyone done something similar to this before, and if so, how did your guests like it? Would you be bored at this type of gathering? Any ideas of other things we could add to make it more fun?
Post # 3
I think this seems like a great time!
But, have you spread the word that it will be a cookout? Just because I think many people may think to dress up in suits and heels.
Post # 4
I think that would be fine! It’s just like an outdoor backyard reception. One girl just did this on Four Weddings and she ended up winning! It’s just a relaxed time to get together with people you care about and celebrate your marriage! Plus, I’m sure people will be fine with driving because they will see people they haven’t seen in a while. Sounds a-ok to me, I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 5
I am sure that people will be fine with your cookout. If your invitations spelled out what to expect, and they are coming, it means they want to celebrate with you!
Post # 6
@sophie85: It actually sounds like a lot more fun than several weddings I have been too!
But I agree with the PP, you should spread the word that its a cookout, so your guests wear casual attire.
Post # 7
@tranquility: Hi there. Good question! 🙂 Yes, we definitely have been spreading the word that it is casual. Also, when the invites went out they said ” we would love for you to join us for a casual, outdoor celebration of our brand new life as husband and wife.”
Post # 8
Agree with @tranquility:, just make sure people know not to get to snazzy (if you would rather have them more comfy).
Post # 9
They are coming because they love you guys and want to recognize you marriage, not to be wowed with intricacy!
I mean you did choose to not include everyone on your big day but limit it to close family etc, so Im sure they are not expecting the typical wedding. If they no its a Barbeque type of affair, you should have no worries!! Enjoy the day 🙂
Post # 10
It sounds like a fun afternoon of seeing family and friends. I agree with PP’s, as long as they know it’s a BBQ and chill, it sounds fine.
Post # 11
Thank you so much for your honest opinions, bees. I am starting to feel better already.
Post # 12
It’s going to be fantastic! You’ve already notified your guests that it’s going to be a casual, backyard gathering…everyone will know exactly what to expect. Once everyone is there, you will have a great time 🙂
Post # 13
I voted that I would expect more only because it seems a bit short. 3 hours doesn’t seem like a long enough time to celebrate and party with guests!
Post # 14
Sounds like a GREAT wedding. I would LOVE that type of celebration! Even though we are going for a more formal wedding, I love hearing about other brides going the BBQ route. I think it’s so much fun and what a great way to celebrate.
Post # 15
3 hours seems a little short.
But I would love a bbq celebration! I think it sounds great. What about rum and cokes or margaritas for guests that don’t like beer?
Post # 16
@Aure: Good point! I guess I should explain that we didn’t actually put an “end time” on the invite! Just that it would start at 4:30pm- so if it goes later than 7:30pm that is just fine with me! 🙂