Worried that I'll be too emotional at my wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I absolutely will not write my own vows. I know I would never get through saying them, I would just cry and cry and look like a fool. Sure its sweet at first, but after 5 minutes its like come on, get it together. No. And I’m not even a super emotional person!

I have heard some girls say that they were 100% certain they would cry and be a wreck, but then they didn’t shed a tear. You never know.

Post # 4
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@NickysGirl14:  I was worried just like you were. Anything wedding related made me tear up in the months leading up to the wedding, yet on the wedding day I totally held it together.

I made a post about it here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-didnt-shed-a-single-tear#axzz2eo0xocwx


Even if you do cry a little, nothing wrong with that! It is an emotional day! Just have some tissue handy or have your groom store some for you and try and get the tissue right in your tear duct so it doesn’t spill out of your eye onto your makeup!

Post # 5
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@NickysGirl14:  I was so worried about this exact same thing but I ended up not crying at all 🙂  I was super nervous getting ready to walk in the church with my dad and worried I was gonna cry.  As we were wallking to get to the back of the church to come in I got tripped up and me and him started laughing after i say “wow I almost busted my shit” – it was just what I needed to calm my nerves. 

Then at the vows I was super nervous worried I was gonna cry but all I did was look at him and no one else and was good.  I also did this wierd crazy smile like “EEEEEE” thing i do when i’m excited and that seemed to help.

With the dances at that point I was just so relieved for the ceremony to be over and party to begin we just kinda talked and it was nice.

Post # 6
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NickysGirl14:  My husband and I both sobbed through our vows. It was joyful, truthful and REAL! Being able to express ourselves fully made our ceremony so meaningful to us and to our guests. My absolute favorite photos are those from the ceremony because I can see very clearly how deeply we feel for one another and how special our wedding day was. 

I did practice my vows a few times so in case I needed to stop (which I did), I knew the order. We also included a few funnier promises so we could crack a smile and giggle a bit too. We both stopped several times, took deep breaths, held hands, smiled at one another, and we got through it!

For me, it was also important to eat, drink water, and get a good night’s rest the night before. Hunger, thirst and a lack of sleep would have turned me into a complete, emotional disaster. I slept great and had a good breakfast and lunch on my wedding day and ate a few appetizers before the ceremony (NO alcohol until later!). While I was emotional, I was present for every minute and that was AWESOME.

Please don’t fear emotion on your wedding day. 


Post # 7
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@NickysGirl14:  I was the exact same way! I cry at commercials, I cry at certain songs, I cried when picking out music for the ceremony and our dance song, I got choked up thinking about him waiting for me at the top of the aisle, I wanted to answer “I do” for our vows because I didn’t think I would be able to speak, etc. I thought for sure I was going to be a mess! I didn’t shed a single tear on my wedding day. I got choked up a few times but was able to hold it back. I was just so excited and so happy to be marrying him I didn’t even think about it. You will be fine. If you do cry, let it go! It’s a happy, joyous and emotional time and you should try to fight it.

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@NickysGirl14:  I cried at the rehearsal, but was FINE all day! So you might surprise yourself!

Post # 9
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@NickysGirl14:  +1 ME TOO! I’m nervous about being totally out of control emotional. Sometimes when I’m driving in my car I just THINK about a detail of the wedding (vows, first dance) and I get teary. It’s making me anxious. You’re not alone. I’m looking forward to hearing what other emotional brides have to say 🙂

Post # 10
22 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am totally with you on this one! I cry easily, but I never really considered myself overly emotional. I mentioned to my fiance that we should think about writing our own vows, and his response was that he is worried I won’t be able to get through mine (and will bawl the entire time during his), and he doesn’t want to put me in that position. When I started thinkng about it, I realized he is totally right! Its incredibly difficult for me to watch a chick flick, attend a wedding, or talk about us, without the tears.

I’m begging, hoping, praying that at my wedding I will be able to remain composed like other Bees. But just in case, I’m planning to practice my vows over and over until I’m blue in the face. I’m also watching TONS of wedding movies, trying to desensitize myself to the whole thing!

Post # 11
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’ll be fine!!! My husband cried during our ceremony and it was sweet! Don’t stress about it. Just focus on your guy and you’ll be great!

Post # 12
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m getting surgery to cut the tear ducts. haha sorry that was a joke. but I’m going to CRY.


I think not a first look but a prayer both blindfolded will help calm me.


Post # 13
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

more than cry I am going to UGLY cry. /shrug./ It’s been a long engagement and lots has happened and I bought out vintage hankies on ebay and we’ll deal. That’s what I am saying with 2 months 10 days to go. 

Post # 14
2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was so worried that I would lose it during our wedding. I’m highly emotional and will sob during emotional shows and commercials. Oy. Luckily, I managed to hold it together on our wedding day.

We didn’t write our own vows, but it was still really emotional. DH’s voice caught a little as he was saying his, and that almost pushed me over the edge because he is NOT the crying type at all. In fact, my voice failed me and tears almost spilled in the middle of my vows. Our officiant made me giggle instead by letting me know that it was my right as the bride to take a cry break. (I make that sound so flippant, but it wasn’t at all. He rocked our wedding by making it so highly personal and the right combination of serious and relaxed.) Also, this isn’t romantic or anything, but a voice in my head said, “You spent over an hour getting your makeup done this morning. You woke up before the sun to make that happen. You are NOT going to ruin it now by crying!!!” That worked, haha.

Post # 15
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was worried about the same thing! I am very sentimental in general, and leading up to the wedding, I cried every time I even heard one of our processional songs.

But like many PPs have said, you might be surprised by how you respond on the day. Or, you might be quite emotional like you expect, and that is okay too!

On my wedding day, I was very calm all morning, though I did get quite nervous in the minutes before the ceremony. As I was walking down the aisle, I was a bit teary-eyed but just very happy. During our vows, my husband and I were just smiling at each other like crazy. And while I think I teared up a few times and my voice might have become a bit shaky, I was so caught up in the moment that I just didn’t care. The most emotional that I got was during our thank-you speech at the reception when I was thanking my family. So I just said “I’m a crier!” and kept it short and sweet, haha. 

The day goes by so quickly, so my advice would be to just experience whatever it is that you are feeling at the time and try to stay in the moment (rather than worrying about it). You will likely be so happy to be married that whatever happens will all be part of the experience! 

Post # 16
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I cried at my bridal shower because the flowers were pretty. So yeah I’m a little worried about how I will choke out my vows.

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