worried that I'm registering for too much

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sweet5k:  I think having a large registry is ok. Personally, when I am a guest at other people’s weddings and looking for a gift from their registry, it’s nice to have a variety of options depending on my budget and how close I am to the couple. Pretty sure no one is going to add up the cost of all the items to see how much $$ you registered for. And, I think at some places, the couple has the option to buy the items at a discount after the wedding if they aren’t bought from the registry. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are over-registering so we can get the discount later 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@flapperphilosopher:  I’m sure your fine. I felt the same way when I registered. I felt as though I had regeistered for too much, and some of the things were too expensive. However, my bridal shower was two weeks ago, and I received aa good amount of the items. Honestly, people are going to buy you whatever they want. So don’t worry.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You should see my registry… 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should be registering for about twice the items as people you have invited (or as couples assuming most are coupled).  So if you have about 200 guests, that’s approx. 100 gift giving units, which means you should have about 200 items on your registry 🙂

I think you should put 2 or 3 $200-400 items in case people like to chip in for something big.  It would be nice if you added a few extra items in the $50-$150 range too.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not one of your guests is going to add up the total cost of the Registry.

Most people would be surprised if they added up the value of everything they owned.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I think your list looks totally fine! I have been to several weddings with my SO and we have generally given a gift of around $100 each time depending on the registry and how close we are with the couple, so I don’t think having a few high-end gifts is a problem at all. I think it’s common for guests bringing children to spend a little more as well, to acknowledge the cost of having a child-inclusive wedding 🙂

It’s also very considerate that you have lots of lower priced items on there for those who maybe travelling far or in a tight financial situation at the moment. One recently married friend put NOTHING below $50 on her registry and about 70% of it was $100-$500! They were not even “upper class” style people… they just wanted really extravagant stuff as long as they weren’t paying.

If I were you, I would actually add more to the registry considering how many guests you have, as you have fewer gifts than guests (although that may not be an issue if it’s acceptable for guests to give cash in your area – it is in mine, but I know that varies by location.)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@sweet5k:  I think that was quite considerate of you to put plenty of options in each price range for people, and a smart decision to do it sooner than later. Nothing irks me more than when I try to buy a present for a bridal shower/wedding and then it becomes some sort of secret of where she’s registered, or that I find out the bride doesn’t have one. 

Honestly, you may want to add just a few more options of the $100+ items. My family is not well-to-do, but she received every ‘top shelf’ item she registered for. Some guests like to ‘pay for their plate.’ It shocked her.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

@Schatzie821:  I just posted, but I agree with this! It’s likely a group of guests would want to chip in on something big and memorable, or an older/financially secure relative who prefers to spend a little more in the name of a new marriage 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would actually consider putting both the individual pieces/place settings and the sets on there. Its definitely cheaper to register for the sets, but if someone can afford a place setting instead, I don’t think its a big deal to return the individual setting(s) for a set (especially if its the same item–its not like you registered for glassware when you really wanted a beanbag chair or something, although others might disagree)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

As a guest, I prefer when there’s a large registry!  I like browsing and choosing something that reminds me of the couple and is not only something they’ll love, but something that sort of fits my relationship with them.  Plus, a lot of places give you a discount on buying the things you didn’t get from your registry, so it’s a win-win!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Looks good. Especially if they want to use it for Christmas also. I found registering one of the most stressful parts of getting married and our registry really evolved as time went by. So don’t worry about it. Your registry looks sensitive and like there are lots of presents to choose from. 

To give you an idea, my layout was similar to yours, but totaled up to about $3500 for ~110 gifts. We invited 200 but only had 120 come. It will surprise you who gives how much and who even gives things! So just make a registry that’s comfortable for you. And one thing I didn’t know – you can add things to the registry for that registry discount/completion stuff AFTER the wedding (at least at BB&B). So yeah . .I totally bought my mom a knife for Christmas via the registry I had so we’ll also get a free knife :-p. So my registry is evolving even after the wedding. And we took advantage of the “registry completion event” at BB&B and got 20% off whatever we wanted in the store at the time, which was great because we’d just moved.

So I’d just say – make sure your registry is prioritized. If you really really want the flatware and don’t care about the throw pillows (and throw pillows go out of season during the lifetime of a registry anyway), just make it small with the flatware and no pillows to begin with. If things start going away suddenly, then you can throw on the secondary stuff later. But make sure there’s at least enough on there for every “social unit” that is coming to be able to choose something.

I actually had everything on there to give people choices in the beginning. Then I started getting worried we weren’t going to get our flatware, so I scaled back to make it clear what I wanted. Then stuff started getting discontinued. And of course, my strategy didn’t convince anyone to buy the flatware, but at least I got some cash to put towards it :-p.

Also remember people usually only buy you a gift for the shower and give you cash for the wedding. So the whole “three times as many gifts as guests” is kind of overkill for a lot of us. Only you know your social circle and what you need. 

Sorry for the long answer :-p

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