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I think that sounds absolutely lovely. You are SO smart not to go into debt over one day. Open Bar would DEFINITELY get you remembered around these neck of the woods (cash bar is the norm) and a caricature artist is SO cool!!
Also I should add that it's not the things people will remember...they're going to remember hte feelings - the love between you and your FI, the happiness of the day, and your smiling faces.
I think every girl on a budget needs to give up a bit of her lifelong wedding dream. While I'm getting some of what I've always dreamed of, I've had to give up a lot too. I still have moments where I'm like "(@@(*$*(!!!!" especially while doing DIY projects that don't turn out...but at the end of the day, it's just ONE day. The main part is that you are marrying your FI with your family and friends cheering you on :)
"They look like a 6th grade project..." I have thought the same thing about some of my own DIY projects. Somehow they look so much better when other people do them!
The memorable thing about your wedding will be YOU! The love between you and your fiancee is what will bring tears to your guests eyes. No one cares about the cake as much as you do. Caricatures and an open bar kick ass. And you don't need decorations for a garden-- it has natural beauty! It will be special.
Your wedding sounds lovely. I'm a budget bride as well and decided to take advantage of the natural beauty of my venue. Instead of the destination wedding I've always wanted, we're getting married @ a local park w/ the ocean as our background. We will have a 50ppl which will be a majority of of our family who would've never been able to attend my DW. So, yes I didn't get my DW but I'm marrying my Love.
You wedding day will be special and all what's important: Love!!!!
Think back to all the weddings you've been to. Do you remember any decor details? I can't. My memories are focused on the fun of being with friends and family.
And I would totally remember a garden wedding with an open bar and a caricature artist.
When I first started planning, I envisioned a blog-worthy confection of personal details, original decor, and all sorts of DIY projects. I quickly gave up on that. I'm not good at that stuff, and I certainly cannot afford to hire someone to do it for me. My guests will have fun without all that stuff, and yours will too!
Aw hun, don't fret, sounds like a fabulous party! Don't worry about having what I call a "stylemepretty" wedding. A wedding is party celebrating you and your fiance and that's why your guests are coming but an open bar and caricature artist will most certainly be appreciated ;)
I agree with everyone else--your wedding sounds lovely! Most people don't decorate their outdoor spaces, anyway. We're getting married outside, and other than a few lighted topiaries our venue provides (and I wish they didn't, lol), we're aren't have a single decoration out there.
The caricature artist sounds like a blast! My company just had one at a work party a week ago, and people are still talking about it! Your centerpieces sound great, too. They're more modern and minimalistic than a huge overflowing vase of flowers, but that's a popular look right now (and for good reason!).
Chin up, girl, you don't have a thing to worry about!
Weddingbee is the greatest gift to brides, and perhaps the greatest downfall. We spend hours upon hours perusing weddings, and every little idea sticks in our minds. We don't remember that these ideas aren't at every wedding. And for many of your guests, this will be the only wedding they go to this year, or even in the next five.
Your wedding will be special. It has it's own special touches that everyone will remember, even if you feel like they're old hat because of the bee.
Have you ever watched an episode of Rich bride Poor bride? (video's available on slice.ca if you haven't) ...
I find the couples they interview that have been married for, like, 50 years try to remember details about their wedding really grounding. A lot of them are like .. well, I THINK? we had a cake with flowers on it? Maybe?
And you look at how long they've been married and suddenly, what the damn cake looked like doesn't seem so important anymore.
I agree with everyone else, this sounds like an wesome wedding. I'm thinking back to all the wedding's ive been to and i can't really remember much about decor at all. Though for one wedding in particular all I remember is the bride being a bit whiney and b*tchy. But as for the centerpieces and ceremony decor? I don't remember anything about any of them. I was just happy to get to see family that I hadn't seen in years and celebrate their special day. Thats what it's really about after all.
You are having an open bar AND caricature artist?!?!? That's awesome!!! Guests will definitely remember your wedding and think of it as special. I'm really not sure what else you could have done really. It sounds great, I kind of wish I was going. :P
Sweetie, your wedding sounds beautiful. It doesn't need to have the expensive frills and trimmings - the best weddings I've ever been to have been the best because of the love in the room, not the decorations.
My cousin's wedding goes down in the books as one of the best, because we were all there and we all had a blast dancing and spending time with the people we loved. Another cousin had a wedding with fireworks and thousand dollar centrepieces and it was as dull as watching grass grow.
@futuremjm: Aw your wedding sounds so cute! I definitely understand what it feels like to think you are "letting go" of your "dream" wedding... but in the end, know that the ONLY reason you are there is to marry the man of your dreams. I hope you feel better hun. And do you have pics of your chair signs? Maybe I can offer some help/advice? (I'm a graphic design artist) :)
It sounds just great!!! Stop worrying and ENJOY your day. You will have more memories doing it yourself than if someone else did it all. So stop being hard on yourself.
I really think you shouldn't worry - it will be memorable to you and to those who care about you!!
But as a tip for any signs/labels - i have printed these out myself - anything i tried to do before by hand looked awful, but as soon as it's printed it looks so much better!
And i did some basic designs for signs & labels in Powerpoint!
If it's any consolation (which I sadly doubt it will be), your list here...
"We're having an open bar, hor's douvers, dj, sit down lunch, outdoor garden ceremony (no decorations), and are going to have a caricature artist on the deck for a few hours during the reception as the favor"
And your beautiful centerpieces and other touches are MUCH more fabulous than I could dream for my wedding :) Things like an open bar and sit down meal are very unlikely to be on my list, but I don't think that means a wedding won't be special.
I agree with the other girls here... LOTS of things make a wedding special and the LEAST of these are the things like decor and fancy trimmings. I'm sure you'll have all of the important special touches in spades :D
When you look at the individual parts of the wedding it may seem blah to you... But once you see how everything pulls together its going to be beautiful!!! Dont be so down.. and your wedding will be special enought.. Its your special day!! Your getting married :)
There are so many great ideas in that! I LOVE the idea for favors! And things liek decorations for for ceremony... no one will notice (especially if its ina garden). I have the same fear ALL THE TIME, and just tell myself I'm being a crazy nervous bride. WHy not post some pics of your DIY projects on WB to get input fromo your fellow bees. It may help reassure you. And who CARES about a gorgeous cake, I think mine will look just mediocre, and most people don't even notice. I think an open bar, good music, and your dress are the 3 things that most ppl pay attention to.
You are marrying your best friend, your partner in life...what could be more special than that? From the sounds of it your wedding will be lovely, so relax and enjoy.
I gotta say, the LEAST memorable weddings for me are the ones with all the seamlessly classy, perfectly coordinated, preprinted details...yours sounds personalized, beautiful, and like a total blast! Moreover, you've put your $$$ into the things that matter for your guests--you guys, food, drink, a fun time (caricature artist--awesome!) Decor is cool but PPs are right, it's not the thing that really sticks out in guests' memories. Besides, your centerpieces don't sound lame at all--mine were fishbowls with white flowers twirled around inside, toile table runners, and cheap clear plastic frames with pics of animals in them for the table number. (It looked better than it sounds.) Yours sound great!
Aw, your wedding sound LOVELY! Nothing that you described sounds boring. 2-3 vases with a picture sounds like more than enough to fill a centerpiece area & a pure white cake decorated with flowers isn't "blah" - it's classic! (maybe I'm biased because our cake was a small white cake with a couple flowers on top)
Like others said, guests don't remember or even really care about little details (yes, I think the cake style & centerpieces are little details). They'll remember enjoying a wonderful lunch outside surrounded by the love that you and your fiance shared with them.
Although, yes, I think all brides feel like their wedding is "enough" at some point during planning. It's a product of the media exposure of what a "dream" wedding should be and the fact that almost no women is going to create that fantasy (with or without oodles of money). I feel like it's the same as the typical image of the "dream" women. Nearly all of us don't (and never will) look like women in the media and we know that's okay, but the feeling of being not good enough sneaks up now and then.
Bottom line, your wedding sounds ah-mah-zing! All your guests will love it and you will love it, because it's your wedding. Also, I'm all for seeing pictures of that caricature artist's drawings, because that is COOL!
This is the reason I stopped watching all those wedding shows. $40,000 for a damn dress. That is more than I make in a year!
Your wedding sounds awesome. Open bar, caricature artist?! I am DIYing everything! While at times I feel totally less than "6th grade", this YOUR wedding and you put all your time and energy into it to make it so. That is the power of DIY! I am getting married in a garden. They rock because there is no need for decorations. Score on saving money! That right there should make you feel regal. I have been to so many weddings and do not remember all the details. I am sure they do not either.
You are marrying your bestie. Plus you can always have the wedding of your dreams in a few years should you choose to renew your vows. Keep your head up girl. I am sure no one will notice what you may think are flaws. Just love your man as he loves you!
I agree with everyone else, and I hope you are reassured by everyone's comments! Your details and your wedding plans sound WONDERFUL, and I hope you know that we all mean that. It sounds like you've been able to add some really nice things to your day, even if it's not the extravaganza that will make it 'memorable' for everyone.
Us brides all have moments where we're unsure of what we're doing. But remember, the day should be memorable to you and to everyone there because they're witnessing a couple who love each other and want to commit themselves to each other. Seriously. You simply need to let go of those expectations you think other people will have for your wedding, and you should take pride in the wedding you've created - albeit a tad different than the one you dreamt about.
Doing so will allow you to enjoy your day and if you have that mindset, you'll truly believe your wedding will be perfect. And it will be.
I think your wedding is going to be special. I haven't heard a caricature artist for a wedding. That is awesome. Plus your have a open bar. Your doing better then me.
Just remember no matter what you have as long as you love it then don't worry about everyone else. If they dont like it then they don't need to come.
Enjoy your day with what you could afford and just let the love flow!
First I will say that as long as YOU love your wedding than it is special. This is about your and your FI and no one else.
Second, some of the most amazing and beautiful weddings I have been too were budget weddings, intimate and DIY. Some of the tackiest weddings (ie: my cousin's wedding in Fresno last year) were expensive and over the top. Money doesn't really make the wedding special (perhaps easier? but not special). It's what you do with the budget you have making special/personal touches to reflect you and your man.
I would love to see photos of your theme and what you have done so far. Your cake with fresh flowers sounds beautiful, that is what I am doing too. Perhaps with photos and a theme us Bees can give suggestions that are mindful of a budget?
@futuremjm: Don't feel bummed out, I purchased some of my wedding items from Dollar tree (example shepard hooks, cylinders, and pedestal candle holders) yes girl wedding commodities that are big top money here.
For your cake trust me half of those guest just take a small bite than throw it away I heard it has to do with their dentures
and cavities, and old age. What I am doing is purchasing faux round styrofoam placing fondant on it (since it will be outside) and making the top tier and the third tier real. I am getting the 1/2 sheets from Food 4 Less. I am saving $100 on that cake.
Open Bar who does that nowadays (only if you are like me coming from a Mexican family where the drinks are unlimited). Even the brides that spend lavishly have closed bar or make their guest pay!
Remember it is the times like these that you will remember and laugh 5,10,15,50 years from now.
It sounds pretty special to me! Remember, people are always going to compare weddings - and what is special to one, may not be to another. Remember the day is about you guys and honestly? Speaking from a bride whose wedding day passed in a blur, even YOU are going to be too loved up to remember all the little details, let alone everyone else. *hugs*
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Hi Bees,
I've been working on some DIY projects today and am felling pretty bummed. My wedding is VERY soon, and I just feel like it's not going to be special enough. We have a pretty tight budget and have done a good job of staying in that budget (yay us), but I have definitely had to let go of my "dream" wedding.
I worked on the centerpieces today, and they're pretty. Dollar Tree 10" cylinder vases with purple and bright blue preserved orchids floating over white stones. They look nice. There will be 2-3 per table with a picture of us and a number formatted beside the picture (the table number). And that's it. That's all for centerpieces.
I was also working on signs for the backs of the MOB, FOB, etc. chairs for the ceremony and just gave up. They look like a 6th grade project, and I can't afford to have them printed.
Even our cake is blah. We can't afford a big wedding cake (believe me, I called every bakery in town), so we ended up going with a white two tier round cake from a local bakery and will put fresh flowers on the cake the day of the wedding. We will cut that cake and people with nut allergies can eat it, everyone else will get the country club cake that comes with lunch.
We're having an open bar, hor's douvers, dj, sit down lunch, outdoor garden ceremony (no decorations), and are going to have a caricature artist on the deck for a few hours during the reception as the favor...and I just feel like it's not special enough. Stupid money!
I just feel dejected. I'm so worried that people will come and think there is nothing memorable about our wedding. Does anyone else feel this way??