Post # 1
I’ve been working on some DIY projects today and am felling pretty bummed. My wedding is VERY soon, and I just feel like it’s not going to be special enough. We have a pretty tight budget and have done a good job of staying in that budget (yay us), but I have definitely had to let go of my “dream” wedding.
I worked on the centerpieces today, and they’re pretty. Dollar Tree 10″ cylinder vases with purple and bright blue preserved orchids floating over white stones. They look nice. There will be 2-3 per table with a picture of us and a number formatted beside the picture (the table number). And that’s it. That’s all for centerpieces.
I was also working on signs for the backs of the MOB, FOB, etc. chairs for the ceremony and just gave up. They look like a 6th grade project, and I can’t afford to have them printed.
Even our cake is blah. We can’t afford a big wedding cake (believe me, I called every bakery in town), so we ended up going with a white two tier round cake from a local bakery and will put fresh flowers on the cake the day of the wedding. We will cut that cake and people with nut allergies can eat it, everyone else will get the country club cake that comes with lunch.
We’re having an open bar, hor’s douvers, dj, sit down lunch, outdoor garden ceremony (no decorations), and are going to have a caricature artist on the deck for a few hours during the reception as the favor…and I just feel like it’s not special enough. Stupid money!
I just feel dejected. I’m so worried that people will come and think there is nothing memorable about our wedding. Does anyone else feel this way??
Post # 3
I think that sounds absolutely lovely. You are SO smart not to go into debt over one day. Open Bar would DEFINITELY get you remembered around these neck of the woods (cash bar is the norm) and a caricature artist is SO cool!!
Also I should add that it’s not the things people will remember…they’re going to remember hte feelings – the love between you and your FI, the happiness of the day, and your smiling faces.
I think every girl on a budget needs to give up a bit of her lifelong wedding dream. While I’m getting some of what I’ve always dreamed of, I’ve had to give up a lot too. I still have moments where I’m like “(@@(*$*(!!!!” especially while doing DIY projects that don’t turn out…but at the end of the day, it’s just ONE day. The main part is that you are marrying your FI with your family and friends cheering you on 🙂
Post # 4
“They look like a 6th grade project…” I have thought the same thing about some of my own DIY projects. Somehow they look so much better when other people do them!
The memorable thing about your wedding will be YOU! The love between you and your fiancee is what will bring tears to your guests eyes. No one cares about the cake as much as you do. Caricatures and an open bar kick ass. And you don’t need decorations for a garden– it has natural beauty! It will be special.
Post # 5
Your wedding sounds lovely. I’m a budget bride as well and decided to take advantage of the natural beauty of my venue. Instead of the destination wedding I’ve always wanted, we’re getting married @ a local park w/ the ocean as our background. We will have a 50ppl which will be a majority of of our family who would’ve never been able to attend my DW. So, yes I didn’t get my DW but I’m marrying my Love.
You wedding day will be special and all what’s important: Love!!!!
Post # 6
Think back to all the weddings you’ve been to. Do you remember any decor details? I can’t. My memories are focused on the fun of being with friends and family.
And I would totally remember a garden wedding with an open bar and a caricature artist.
When I first started planning, I envisioned a blog-worthy confection of personal details, original decor, and all sorts of DIY projects. I quickly gave up on that. I’m not good at that stuff, and I certainly cannot afford to hire someone to do it for me. My guests will have fun without all that stuff, and yours will too!
Post # 7
Aw hun, don’t fret, sounds like a fabulous party! Don’t worry about having what I call a “stylemepretty” wedding. A wedding is party celebrating you and your fiance and that’s why your guests are coming but an open bar and caricature artist will most certainly be appreciated 😉
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else–your wedding sounds lovely! Most people don’t decorate their outdoor spaces, anyway. We’re getting married outside, and other than a few lighted topiaries our venue provides (and I wish they didn’t, lol), we’re aren’t have a single decoration out there.
The caricature artist sounds like a blast! My company just had one at a work party a week ago, and people are still talking about it! Your centerpieces sound great, too. They’re more modern and minimalistic than a huge overflowing vase of flowers, but that’s a popular look right now (and for good reason!).
Chin up, girl, you don’t have a thing to worry about!
Post # 9
Weddingbee is the greatest gift to brides, and perhaps the greatest downfall. We spend hours upon hours perusing weddings, and every little idea sticks in our minds. We don’t remember that these ideas aren’t at every wedding. And for many of your guests, this will be the only wedding they go to this year, or even in the next five.
Your wedding will be special. It has it’s own special touches that everyone will remember, even if you feel like they’re old hat because of the bee.
Post # 10
Have you ever watched an episode of Rich bride Poor bride? (video’s available on slice.ca if you haven’t) …
I find the couples they interview that have been married for, like, 50 years try to remember details about their wedding really grounding. A lot of them are like .. well, I THINK? we had a cake with flowers on it? Maybe?
And you look at how long they’ve been married and suddenly, what the damn cake looked like doesn’t seem so important anymore.
Post # 11
I agree with everyone else, this sounds like an wesome wedding. I’m thinking back to all the wedding’s ive been to and i can’t really remember much about decor at all. Though for one wedding in particular all I remember is the bride being a bit whiney and b*tchy. But as for the centerpieces and ceremony decor? I don’t remember anything about any of them. I was just happy to get to see family that I hadn’t seen in years and celebrate their special day. Thats what it’s really about after all.
Post # 12
You are having an open bar AND caricature artist?!?!? That’s awesome!!! Guests will definitely remember your wedding and think of it as special. I’m really not sure what else you could have done really. It sounds great, I kind of wish I was going. 😛
Post # 13
Sweetie, your wedding sounds beautiful. It doesn’t need to have the expensive frills and trimmings – the best weddings I’ve ever been to have been the best because of the love in the room, not the decorations.
My cousin’s wedding goes down in the books as one of the best, because we were all there and we all had a blast dancing and spending time with the people we loved. Another cousin had a wedding with fireworks and thousand dollar centrepieces and it was as dull as watching grass grow.
Post # 14
@futuremjm: Aw your wedding sounds so cute! I definitely understand what it feels like to think you are “letting go” of your “dream” wedding… but in the end, know that the ONLY reason you are there is to marry the man of your dreams. I hope you feel better hun. And do you have pics of your chair signs? Maybe I can offer some help/advice? (I’m a graphic design artist) 🙂
Post # 15
It sounds just great!!! Stop worrying and ENJOY your day. You will have more memories doing it yourself than if someone else did it all. So stop being hard on yourself.
Post # 16
I really think you shouldn’t worry – it will be memorable to you and to those who care about you!!
But as a tip for any signs/labels – i have printed these out myself – anything i tried to do before by hand looked awful, but as soon as it’s printed it looks so much better!
And i did some basic designs for signs & labels in Powerpoint!