Worried that we didn't BD enough :(

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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3010 posts
Sugar bee

@IUrebekah3RT:  I don’t know your fertility history but you seem super intense about this. Have you been trying for a long time? I say if you’re in your first few months stop stressing over it. have sex when you want to, not because you’re looking for a baby. If after a few months the natural way doesn’t work then maybe step it up. But man, this intense. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@IUrebekah3RT:  I think you should treat your ttc anyway you want. I was like you too. I got sick around my o date, so I don’t know when I truly ovulated (was only temping), but we only got one bd in the fw. I’m currently 21 weeks along. 

Post # 5
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3119 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It only takes once! But I agree that you should do what you can to stop putting so much pressure on yourself. I know it can be stressful no matter what, but see if you can try to stop taking it so, so seriously. Are you temping/charting?

Post # 7
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@IUrebekah3RT:  I only BD once last cycle. We wernt trying due to m/c 4 weeks ago but we did get intimate on the friday night before i ovulated (wasnt sure when i was going to ovulate but i felt it the next night) and boom 9dpo BFP … dont lose hope it only takes 1 sperm to do the job 😉

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@IUrebekah3RT:  try not to stress- it only takes one time! Good you BD before ovulation- fx this is your bfp month!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@IUrebekah3RT:  +1 only takes once! And hours before ovulation is as good as it can be.  I too got really sick shortly after I o’d, but I found out that if it’s a positive, your body will be overproducing mucus and it could lead to to sinus pressure/infections. 

 

Post # 11
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We only BD’d twice, the night I got the +ve OPK and the night after…and BAM – BFP!!! Just shows you.  THere’s no point in doing it if your not in the mood.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@IUrebekah3RT:  There are plenty of ladies on here who can tell you about how it only takes once.  For me, it’s helpful to think about the numbers – if your husband has healthy/normal sperm count, there are at least 40 million sperm (probably more) being released each time you BD – that’s more than 40 million little swimmers racing for your egg!  Yeah, more is always great, but BD the day before O is great timing, because you know there were swimmers ready and waiting when your egg was released!  At this point, you just need to wait and see – try not to worry!

Post # 13
Hostess
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the other ladies, I think you got great advice. The only thing I would chime in with is that you might not want to wait until you get a +OPK to BD. The FW is actually longer in most cases, so if you’re waiting until you see a positive, you’re almost done with the FW. If you’re really worried about getting multiple chances, I’d suggest BDing every day or every other starting a few days before. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@IUrebekah3RT:  it only takes one time! 😉 Just give it a few months and let it happen. You only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant if you BD when you’re ovulating. If it hasn’t happened after 6 months or so then ramp up the efforts a bit.

we arent the most active either and we had unprotected sex once when I though tree was a chance i might be fertile and we got pregnant. I believe I O’d 12-24 hours after we had sex. It could happen this month you just never know. Good luck!! You will get your BFP soon!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with the ladies who said it only takes once! My  husband only BD’d 2 days before I ovulated….I was so upset and we had a big talk about what we would do differently next cycle.  Well, it wasn’t neccessary because I got a BFP and I’m now 14 weeks along! Looking back, I kind of wish I hadn’t been such a lunatic about it all…because my body knew what to do.  Now that I know that, I’ll chill out next time we TTC! Good luck, I hope you get your BFP soon!

Post # 16
Hostess
8725 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ll echo some PPs and say it only takes one time! FX it’s a lucky BD!

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