Post # 1
Hi bees. I feel like I’ve been posting daily (which I have) but I dont have anyone else to talk to besides DH – and lets be honest, most husbands dont understand how fertility works lol. We arent telling family or friends we are ttc because we (mostly I) dont want all of the “omg, are you pregnant yet” questions. SO anyways. We started using clear blue ovulation tests this month. We got our first + OPK on 11/21 (CD 16) and we BD that night. I’m 99% sure I ovulated at work around 10am 11/22 due to some symptoms I was showing. I did a quick wondfo LH test last night & it was negative. I have been battling a wicked cold (oh the joys of working in a pediatric hospital) so we did not BD last night as I was exhausted and coughing up a lung. I know we should have BD but I also knew it was approx 12 hours post ovulation so I wasnt sure if it was worth it? Anyways, long story short, we only BD the one time this cycle, about 12 hours before ovulation. Is this enough? I think next month I will start with the clear blue advanced digital so I am more aware of a longer FW.
Thanks for letting me voice my concerns. It’s greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
@IUrebekah3RT: I don’t know your fertility history but you seem super intense about this. Have you been trying for a long time? I say if you’re in your first few months stop stressing over it. have sex when you want to, not because you’re looking for a baby. If after a few months the natural way doesn’t work then maybe step it up. But man, this intense.
Post # 4
@IUrebekah3RT: I think you should treat your ttc anyway you want. I was like you too. I got sick around my o date, so I don’t know when I truly ovulated (was only temping), but we only got one bd in the fw. I’m currently 21 weeks along.
Post # 5
It only takes once! But I agree that you should do what you can to stop putting so much pressure on yourself. I know it can be stressful no matter what, but see if you can try to stop taking it so, so seriously. Are you temping/charting?
Post # 6
@awakemysoul: Thank you. I wont get into the details of DH and I’s sex life but we arent the type to go at it like rabbits every day. We both have low sex drives and that is okay with us. If we left it to “whenever we felt like it”, we would never get pregnant bc the chances of us “feeling like it” specifically during my FW is slim to none. lol. We are only on our second month of trying but I have a long history of irregular periods (which have just recently became somewhat normal bc of the clean eating lifestyle I began about one year ago) which is why I started using OPK already. Anyways, thank you for your reassurance. I get sick a few times every winter because of my work environment so of course I would have to be sick THIS week. lol. Good luck with your little one. Excited for you & hopefully I am on the right track as well!! Again, thanks 🙂
Post # 7
@IUrebekah3RT: I only BD once last cycle. We wernt trying due to m/c 4 weeks ago but we did get intimate on the friday night before i ovulated (wasnt sure when i was going to ovulate but i felt it the next night) and boom 9dpo BFP … dont lose hope it only takes 1 sperm to do the job 😉
Post # 8
@IUrebekah3RT: I hear ya, we are not rabbits either.
Post # 9
@IUrebekah3RT: try not to stress- it only takes one time! Good you BD before ovulation- fx this is your bfp month!!
Post # 10
@IUrebekah3RT: +1 only takes once! And hours before ovulation is as good as it can be. I too got really sick shortly after I o’d, but I found out that if it’s a positive, your body will be overproducing mucus and it could lead to to sinus pressure/infections.
Post # 11
We only BD’d twice, the night I got the +ve OPK and the night after…and BAM – BFP!!! Just shows you. THere’s no point in doing it if your not in the mood.
Post # 12
@IUrebekah3RT: There are plenty of ladies on here who can tell you about how it only takes once. For me, it’s helpful to think about the numbers – if your husband has healthy/normal sperm count, there are at least 40 million sperm (probably more) being released each time you BD – that’s more than 40 million little swimmers racing for your egg! Yeah, more is always great, but BD the day before O is great timing, because you know there were swimmers ready and waiting when your egg was released! At this point, you just need to wait and see – try not to worry!
Post # 13
I agree with the other ladies, I think you got great advice. The only thing I would chime in with is that you might not want to wait until you get a +OPK to BD. The FW is actually longer in most cases, so if you’re waiting until you see a positive, you’re almost done with the FW. If you’re really worried about getting multiple chances, I’d suggest BDing every day or every other starting a few days before. Good luck!
Post # 14
@IUrebekah3RT: it only takes one time! 😉 Just give it a few months and let it happen. You only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant if you BD when you’re ovulating. If it hasn’t happened after 6 months or so then ramp up the efforts a bit.
we arent the most active either and we had unprotected sex once when I though tree was a chance i might be fertile and we got pregnant. I believe I O’d 12-24 hours after we had sex. It could happen this month you just never know. Good luck!! You will get your BFP soon!
Post # 15
I agree with the ladies who said it only takes once! My husband only BD’d 2 days before I ovulated….I was so upset and we had a big talk about what we would do differently next cycle. Well, it wasn’t neccessary because I got a BFP and I’m now 14 weeks along! Looking back, I kind of wish I hadn’t been such a lunatic about it all…because my body knew what to do. Now that I know that, I’ll chill out next time we TTC! Good luck, I hope you get your BFP soon!
Post # 16
I’ll echo some PPs and say it only takes one time! FX it’s a lucky BD!