Worried we're going to make a mistake with the ring – help?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Which option would you choose?
    Diamond Center : (40 votes)
    62 %
    Moissanite Center : (13 votes)
    20 %
    No ring - wait until you graduate : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Moissanite Center and upgrade later : (9 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    1787 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That is a really tough decision.  On the bright side, no matter what choice you make, it won’t be a mistake because either one would be crazy beautiful.  Have you seen either stone in real life?

    Post # 4
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    i would go diamond, because you wouldn’t have to replace it down the line.

    do you own a home or have renter’s insurance? if you have homeowners insurance, you can get a rider on it for your engagement ring. if you have renter’s insurance, i think you can do the same.

    you could also do this- buy the moissanite you want, then see if you like it. i think that moissaniteco has a return policy that you can return the loose stone for a refund. if you like it? great. if you don’t? so be it. have you seen one in person? have you seen the diamond in person?

    Post # 5
    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @peonyinlove:  With that much money in tuition fees, Moissy seems like financially the right thing to do for now.  Do you have a pic of your setting?

    Also, add a poll. 

    Post # 6
    3836 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’d go with the diamond, provided you have a GIA certificate.  I’m biased – I have an Old Mine Cut and simply adore it.  

    Post # 8
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @peonyinlove:  for me, i guess it depends on the price difference.  if it’s $20k, that’s a big difference.  if it’s not that much, i’d go with the diamond now.  what size centre stone are you thinking of?

    imo, if you are not going to love your moissy (not tell people), don’t get one.  you should be proud of what you have.

    Post # 10
    1779 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1997

    @peonyinlove:  you get engaged once in your lifetime, and you’ll be wearing the ring he proposes to you with, for a life time. Sometimes it’s ok to NOT be “practical”…

    You don’t sound like you would be happy with a simulant and your SO definitely sounds like he is isn’t. Would not want the secrecy and “whole mess” as you described it, possibly detracting from my joy.

    Insurance is cheap.

    Best wishes.

    Post # 11
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @peonyinlove:  that being said, i think you should get the diamond. 

    ps.  thank you for your lovely comment.   i actually grew my hair out a bit for the wedding, it’s usually a shorter pixie.

    Post # 13
    5445 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think the only way for you to decide is to see moissanite in person. I read so many glowing reviews of it here and elsewhere and I ordered one and was super disappointed with it, and so returned it. Most people are so emphatic in saying it’s so similar to diamond that it’s impossible to tell apart, and I found that to be totally untrue with the multiple stones I’ve seen. I think you either like it or you don’t.

    I personally would choose diamond because I don’t care for the hollowness moissanite has in certain lighting, or the yellow/green tinge. But it really is personal preference and if you like it, it can be a great choice. It sounds like you’re iffy, and you don’t want to get something for your engagement ring that you don’t feel comfortable with. 

    Post # 14
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am a fan of the stone proposed with being the “forever” stone even if the setting is later altered somewhat.  I’m also not a big fan of moissanite personally although it is a great option if both people are comfortable with it (doesn’t sound like that is the case).  Can you get him to give you a ballpark on the difference between the two? Unless the diamond is more than 1500 more, it would be an easy choice for me.  

    Have you mentioned to your families that you’re getting engaged?  I’m guessing no one in the family has a stone they would want you to have? 

    Post # 16
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @colorofmyheart:  This is also what I would ask the OP: Have you ever held/experienced one (a moissy) for a few days to make sure you like it? I heard that ppl fall in love with them even more when they have them in person, so maybe your SO will love it too!

    @peonyinlove:  Assuming that if you choose a moissy 1st, you an always reset it later on into an alternate setting and put a diamond into the 1st setting. This way you can eventually have 2 wedding sets, and you still can use the moissy for a stunning piece of jewelry! (I like that idea myself! LOL!)

    Also, someone mentioned “secrecy” in not mentioning that the moissanite is actually moissanite. Is this how you feel? Do you feel as though you would have to hide the fact that it is not a diamond? (Answering this question would also help me to give a better opinion. )

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