- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
EDIT: wow, can’t believe i forgot the disclaimer! this is NOT a moissy v diamond thread – they are both beautiful so please don’t put one down over the other, this is simply asking for help in my current situation.
Hi Bees. I’m pretty overwhelmed at the moment and need somewhere to work through this, i’d love some constructive advice if anyone has some to give.
Here’s the deal: My SO is close to buying my engagement ring – the setting has been chosen, it’s a very thin diamond cushion halo for a round stone. But we’re not sure what the center stone should be! The setting can come with a FB moissanite OEC – which is beautiful, but we’re not super comfortable with moissy. I am more than him, but still not 100%.
Alternatively, we found an antique diamond that is beautiful, great specs, good price etc.
So now we’re both torn: which to choose? here are the pros/cons as we see them.
moissanite: pro: beautiful, less expensive, wouldn’t need to insure the ring, could replace it with a diamond in a few years (my SO would want that he thinks) con: SO especially is not ‘sold’ on it, wouldn’t want to tell everyone (we have some people who would definitely be rude about it – so just want to avoid that whole mess) if we’re just going to buy a diamond in 3 years, maybe we should just buy it now?
diamond: pro: equally beautiful, love the idea of an antique stone, wouldn’t need to worry about the whole ‘is it real?’ ridiculousness, wouldn’t need to replace it later con: quite a bit more expensive, would need to insure the ring at that price point which is extra $
we are grad students – and just got our tution bills for the upcoming year which totals 20,000 each. eek. he contributes to his tuition with his parents – i do not, so he feels the need to discuss this expense with them, since obviously that is money that COULD go to tuition. we’re both just so torn and not really sure what to choose.
i’m sure this will get asked: yes, i have told him i do not need a ring – he’s not happy with that idea. yes, we’ve discussed a different setting, but we both LOVE that one, so he doesn’t want to give that up, and it’s very reasonable (having a jeweler make it).
so bees – anyone been in my position? what did you do? what would you choose?