Post # 1
I wasn’t quite sure where to put this. From the looks of things, the mister will pop the question sometime soon (I may be wrong, but it’s looking that way) which is ACE, really exciting and I can’t wait and all the rest of it.
The whole reason I joined WB was to get ideas for our wedding, so I can have ideas that we could discuss so when it came to planning properly we weren’t so overwhelmed. Truth is now I have NO idea what I want.
I don’t know if I want a big or small wedding (bigger is easier as we have a lot of out of town friends who we are still close to, but smaller is nicer as it’s just us and our family); I have no idea what colours to use, it’s looking like we’re just going to have a best man and a Maid/Matron of Honor, no bridesmaids or groomsmen, not sure whether to include my godkids or not (when we’re not really wanting children at the wedding, godchildren are currently 10 and 8 and are brother and sister). I don’t know WHERE to have our reception (BF will be moving away from home to live with me and doesn’t know the area, so it’s hard to pick his brains). I haven’t the first clue of where to start, and this is with looking around with no ring!
All I know is I want to marry him and share it with my family and friends (in a dress that isn’t strapless).
Did anyone else out there not have a clue what they wanted? Please tell me I’m not the only one! I know it’s daft worrying so early on, but I’ll need to decide at some point :S
P.S. I’m aware there are a few ‘I’s’ in this post, he hasn’t a clue either, I’ve asked him!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I really didn’t have any idea what I wanted when I first started looking either. Since he hasn’t actually proposed yet, you have time to look around and get tons of inspiration before you actually need to be making any decisions – which is exactly what I did! I stalked wedding blogs like crazy and just looked around…by the time he proposed I had some pretty solid ideas about what I want.
I think the key is to not stress out about it – like I said, he hasn’t proposed yet so you have plenty of time! Just look around and see what you like, and soon enough you’ll begin to form more solid ideas of exactly what you want.
Post # 4
I’m in a totally similar situation!! My friend tells me that my bf has chosen a ring so it could be tomorrow or next week or next month! When I found out he was shopping about a month ago I joined WB and started a word file with links to ideas I liked… but I have no solid ideas about anything! I haven’t been able to talk to my bf about much of this stuff bc I’m not supposed to know he’s shopped! I’m hoping that he’ll have some solid ideas, but he’s made many comments about brides running the show wedding-wise and he’ll just go along with whatever I want.
I can’t decide how much I want to spend on the wedding– do I want to embrace my one and only day? Or do I want to save for my future and go super low stress/casual? I can’t decide if I want to make my wedding super small (like 30) or more medium (75-100). I can’t decide if I want to get married in a church or the botanical gardens or outside or in mexico. I can’t decide what season I want to get married in.
Just about the only thing I know is that I want a lace dress, and I want to marry my bf.
But, I’m not really stressing. I feel like when the ring comes and its time for decisions to be made, we’ll make them. 🙂
Post # 5
I was a blank slate when I first started looking around too. My biggest concern was that utterly overwhelmed feeling, and having no idea how I was going to put it all together or whether or not I would even like having a wedding. All the weddings I’ve been to were the super traditional type and that didn’t ring true for me. Thank goodness this site and others have shown me that I can follow my gut and craft an event that is right for me and my SO!
Unfortunately, it’s hard to get any sort of concrete idea in mind when my boyfriend and I agree that those discussions should be saved for after a proposal, haha. The most invaluable information I’ve learned is:
1. The amount of work a wedding is.
2. The costs associated with the different parts of a wedding, and how to manage them.
3. What wedding elements I would be happy to keep and what I would happily skip.
And all that is info I can bring to the table when the proposal finally happens. 🙂 It’s never a waste of time to research, even if it confuses you for the time being.
Post # 6
don’t worry, it all comes together. I had some ideas but those ideas all changed when we got engaged and the things I had no clue about are starting to come together. Don’t push it, you’ll get inspired and slowly but surely you’ll have a wedding!
Post # 7
Thanks guys. Everyone else just seems so clued up and I’m getting lost for trying to find my way!
Post # 8
I really didn’t know either but once I started looking around I could tell what I liked and didn’t and everything seemed to fall into place! Good luck, and enjoy it!