(Closed) Worrying About What Other People Think

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have found that people, even close family and friends people, can be jerks when you start talking about your wedding. I haven’t been able to figure out why… sometimes I think they’re slightly jealous, and sometimes they honestly feel you should be planning -their- ideal, dream wedding for some reason. But when it comes down to it, the people who will attend your wedding are there for you because they care about you and want to celebrate a big step in your life! They will just be so happy for you and your husband that the little details shouldn’t matter. If they do get uppity about the little details, then they don’t deserve to be there sharing your joy. 😛

Myself, I have been trying to contain my bursting excitement in planning around those who I know will offer unhelpful opinions. It’s so hard!! But it shields me from those silly people. If they press, I tell them it will be a surprise. I just share extra much with my mother, FI and MoH to make up for it, I guess! Don’t let other people’s strange ideas about your wedding get you down. When it comes down to it, it will be a day for celebrating and coming together. Do your own thing and make it yours. 

I wish you good luck and send you my sympathy. Best wishes. 🙂

Post # 4
Member
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just dont share details with people and you’ll be fine!

Seriously, you’ll never please everyone.  And every person you talk to will have an opinion about something.  It just not worth it.  Keep it to yourself and you’ll have a great event.

Don’t even worry about them.

Post # 5
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3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I worry too much about what other people think too… and my wedding was no different!  I think you have to find balance with it.  Don’t plan an outdoor wedding in June if you live where it hits the 100s… and don’t worry so much that you keep changing your date and lose sight of what you want (yeah, that was me).  You are inviting guests and need to keep their comfort in mind, but beyond that, they are there to witness your vows and the party doesn’t have to be Martha Stewart perfect. 

I tried to listen to so many opinions that I ended-up overlooking the neccessary ingredients, like a clear schedule, a shot list for the photographer (this helps keep everything flowing, so you aren’t chasing down Unlce So and So, with everyone getting impatient), designating someone to start the toasts… logistics are more important, IMO, than theme or decorations.  If your guests feel comfortable and aren’t standing around wondering what the heck happens next, whether it’s dinner and dance, or just cake and champagne, they’ll be able to enjoy it along with you and your FI. Be sure you do your best to personally greet everyone, if possible.

Your vows really are the only reason everyone is there, the rest is icing on the cake, to use a horrible pun.  🙂

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