Post # 1
Ok, so obviously, your wedding day is supposed to be all about you and your husband or significant other.
But now that me and my fiance have set a date and are starting to share some preliminary plans with people, I’m petrified that everyone is going to think our wedding will be horrible — ugly, stupid, cheap, corney, stuffy, gaudy, too early, too late, too cold, too hot, blah, blah, BLAH.
I mean we’re just having casual conversations with people about some ideas we’ve tossed around. And people roll their eyes or laugh and then say, “oh are you serious?”
or just give me a fake smile or say nothing or start picking apart a plan because of all the things that could go wrong or how many people WON’T like something.
I know you’re never going to please everybody and that’s not the goal of the day but … I don’t want people bored or miserable or starving or something on my wedding day. I want them to have fun … I just worry that our ideas won’t “jive” with most traditional wedding stuff …
I worry about what other people think WAY too much on a daily basis so … I guess this is just one of my “issues” I have to tackle.
But did anyone else have anxiety over this and how did you handle it?
I almost feel like people are going to be giving out scores when they leave our wedding and our marriage will depend on their opinions or something. LOL i know that’s ridiculous but ….people act that way! Like if you serve their least favorite food at your wedding, the marriage is doomed for failure. Ugh. How did things get to be so blown out of proportion????
Post # 3
I have found that people, even close family and friends people, can be jerks when you start talking about your wedding. I haven’t been able to figure out why… sometimes I think they’re slightly jealous, and sometimes they honestly feel you should be planning -their- ideal, dream wedding for some reason. But when it comes down to it, the people who will attend your wedding are there for you because they care about you and want to celebrate a big step in your life! They will just be so happy for you and your husband that the little details shouldn’t matter. If they do get uppity about the little details, then they don’t deserve to be there sharing your joy. 😛
Myself, I have been trying to contain my bursting excitement in planning around those who I know will offer unhelpful opinions. It’s so hard!! But it shields me from those silly people. If they press, I tell them it will be a surprise. I just share extra much with my mother, FI and MoH to make up for it, I guess! Don’t let other people’s strange ideas about your wedding get you down. When it comes down to it, it will be a day for celebrating and coming together. Do your own thing and make it yours.
I wish you good luck and send you my sympathy. Best wishes. 🙂
Post # 4
Just dont share details with people and you’ll be fine!
Seriously, you’ll never please everyone. And every person you talk to will have an opinion about something. It just not worth it. Keep it to yourself and you’ll have a great event.
Don’t even worry about them.
Post # 5
I worry too much about what other people think too… and my wedding was no different! I think you have to find balance with it. Don’t plan an outdoor wedding in June if you live where it hits the 100s… and don’t worry so much that you keep changing your date and lose sight of what you want (yeah, that was me). You are inviting guests and need to keep their comfort in mind, but beyond that, they are there to witness your vows and the party doesn’t have to be Martha Stewart perfect.
I tried to listen to so many opinions that I ended-up overlooking the neccessary ingredients, like a clear schedule, a shot list for the photographer (this helps keep everything flowing, so you aren’t chasing down Unlce So and So, with everyone getting impatient), designating someone to start the toasts… logistics are more important, IMO, than theme or decorations. If your guests feel comfortable and aren’t standing around wondering what the heck happens next, whether it’s dinner and dance, or just cake and champagne, they’ll be able to enjoy it along with you and your FI. Be sure you do your best to personally greet everyone, if possible.
Your vows really are the only reason everyone is there, the rest is icing on the cake, to use a horrible pun. 🙂