- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’m posting this under a different login because some of my bridal party checks the hive occasionally, and I don’t want them to know how upset I am.
Let me start by saying that I understand that my bridal party didn’t OWE me a shower. However, there’s somewhat of a tradition that they throw a bridal shower (at least in my neck of the woods).
Anyway…I mysteriously got sick two days before my bridal shower, so they had to change it just a bit. However, what the planned was just not at all me. First, my MOM paid for EVERYTHING. I haven’t been a high-maintenance bride at all. I had my girls choose dresses off the rack so that they wouldn’t need alterations. I paid for their dresses and shoes up front, and just asked that they reimburse me (which only one of them has so far, even though it’s been SIX MONTHS since I shelled out the money). I should add that we’re paying for the wedding ourselves, so we can’t really afford to have their dresses and shoes accruing interest on our credit card.
My mom got two hotel rooms for the shower. When we arrived at the hotel, NONE of my bridesmaids were there yet. So I helped set up my own shower decorations, even though I’d just gotten out of the hospital. My bridesmaids arrived about an hour and a half later. Only my MOH brought me a card. None of them brought food, one of them brought three bottles of sparkling cider (which I hate, I might add).
Now, another friend that I didn’t include in my bridal party (because we weren’t as close when I chose my bridal party) brought three kinds of food, a huge bottle of top shelf vodka, some homemade sangria, and helped set up decorations.
When my girls deigned to show up, one of them had the sheer nerve to complain about how difficult I’d made the planning of the shower because of getting sick and planning a few out-of-town trips. I mean, the GALL of me to have my body conk out. She had to send out an extra email telling people about the changes. Meanwhile, my MOM did all of the legwork, and bore the financial burden, of really making the shower special for me.
Then, to make matters so very much worse, the ones who came to the shower empty-handed also left early the next morning without bothering to help clean up. So I also helped clean up at my bridal shower.
I planned my own bachelorette party, and paid for most of it as well. These aren’t uneducated people who don’t have much money. All but one is employed as a professional, has a graduate degree, is making decent money, and don’t have kids.
I’m so angry…and hurt. I’m trying my best not to get upset about their lackluster showing at my shower. BUT if that BM acts so put-upon about all that she did, I may blow my top. Honestly, I’d have rather they didn’t do anything and that my mom just gave me the money SHE spent towards the wedding. She’s also hurt that they didn’t do more.
Did anyone else have a horrible bridal shower?