(Closed) Worst day in wedding planning so far, feel like I’m going to explode!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OK, girl: take a deep breath!  Breathe in, breathe out!  It’s going to be OK.

You aren’t making bad choices, you are planning a wedding.  That makes all of us a little nuts at times.  If you hate your dress, get a new one.  Will it send you over budget?  Maybe?  Will it make you feel better?  Sounds like definitely!

It’s going to be OK!  Hang in there!

Post # 5
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

First off, I think you have to realize you are not going to have the perfect wedding. No one does – it’s impossible! So I wouldn’t stress over the details so much. And, yeah, we don’t wear jeans to our weddings, but plenty of brides (including me) go to David’s Bridal or another salon, try a few, just pick one, and move on! I don’t know why there’s this stigma associated with an off the rack dress – it’s so much easier to get it without having to worry about alterations or fittings or having it come in late. So you can always just go and get something off the rack if it’s in your budget. Or maybe the one you have is fine – often you just need to adjust your expectations and not imagine some perfect dress out there. Honestly, I bet if you got a white ballgown, you’d be questioning that too – most people are never 100% sure about everything. 

Here’s something to think about: imagine you found the perfect dress. Like absolutely perfect couldn’t be better. And then, as the wedding is starting, someone spills a glass of wine and stains the skirt. Would you let that ruin your wedding? Hopefully not, right? And having a different shape or ivory instead of white is not even as bad as an actual ruined dress. So in the end, what your dress looks like doesn’t hugely matter. 

You are going to look gorgeous and have an amazing wedding day. Don’t stress too much πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you need to decide what you want to do about your dress-either keep it or find another one–and then go with that decision. If you keep putting it off, yes the decision will be made for you, because it’ll eventually be too late, but you’ll continue to feel bad and obsess about it up until the day of the wedding. So I would say, either try to embrace your wedding dress for what it is and how fab it makes you look (because it DOES!!! I’ve stalked your posts for the pictures πŸ™‚ ) or go out and buy another one.

I was in a similar situation–I bought a dress that I was very unsure of, and feel like I kind of settled for. I looked at pictures and liked it less every time. I went to try it on, and similar to you, it’s two sizes too big, so again, I did not like it at all. BUT I made the decision that I am not going to be buying another dress (partly because of money, partly because it would have upset my mom, partly because I didn’t want to let the dress make or break my day). I just put the dress out of my mind, stopped looking at dresses online, and made up my mind that it IS my dress. And I will look fab on my wedding day. And even if I’m not 100% about it, I will have enough people around me telling me I look good that hopefully I believe them πŸ™‚ So honestly, if I were you, I would try to stop looking at other dresses, stop even looking at pictures of your dress, and just wait until you have your alterations done. Maybe when you see it with fresh eyes you’ll feel better about it. Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@meliss: I am a firm believer in the power of flattery πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Alright girl.. if you dont like it scrounge some extra cash and go for something off the rack. It can be done!! Go to Davids Bridal. There has to be something!

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