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I would think so. I know a woman who was a bit heavy the day of her wedding. Ten years later, she lost the weight, and had new wedding photos taken!
I say do it. I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience. Just know that none of that matters at all. What really matters is the fact that you are now married! Congrats! :-)
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Well, at least it'll be a good story to tell later on. Fairytale wedding doesn't equate to fairytale marriage, and vice/versa! I definitely agree that you can get new pics taken whenever you want to! I know several of the bees have done "day after shoots" or similar - Mr. MJ were planning to do it too until we broke down and hired a photog.
Sorry about the craziness!
Don't skip the photos! You'll probably have better photos as you will just be able to have a good time and not be nervous/stressing!
First of all hugss!!! I'm so sorry about your wedding day.
I hope your husband's grandmother is okay now.
I don't think its silly to consider a post wedding shoot with another photographer. I probably would the same thing. You'll get some really cute and personal pictures with you and your husband. And maybe if you can, go back to your wedding location and have some pictures taken there .. it look like the real thing! BTW .. I hope you didn't pay this other photographer and if you did .. get your money back!
I would most definitely hire another photographer, and have another portrait session! That is well within your right, and I don't see why that would be weird!
Get dressed up again and hire a REALLY GOOD photographer for a couple hours. Splurge a little on a high-end one to treat yourself after such an emotionally exhausting wedding day. I simply cannot believe how you were treated on your wedding day. The stroke was just bad luck, but everyone else should have been there for you. I'm so sorry, but please, splurge and get the pictures you DESERVE! If you explain your story to some photogs, they might even give you a discount if you ask.
Did you have a contract with your photog?? If she didn't show up on time, you should try to get your money back.
I'm so sorry your day wasn't "picture perfect", but if you are indeed married to the man of your dreams, well there isn't much more a girl can ask for!
I think "re-taking" some photos is GREAT idea.
Good luck!
I'm so glad you girls think the "re-do" photo shoot is a great idea! All the encouragement has just convinced me to go ahead a go for it!
Thankfully, I was able to get my money back from the original photographer. THANK GOODNESS! I'm glad that wasn't too much of a struggle to get back. Now I'm thinking of using that money towards my new photographer!
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SOOOOOOOOOO SORRY all that happened. That is terrible, but yes atleast you are husband and wife now. But yes do the photos. I think they will turn out way better with no time restraints and such anyways. Plus gives you a reason to dress up again:) Maybe do it on a friday or saturday and then have all your friends meet you for dinner and dancing or something and just have another mini fun reception and get pictures of y'all having a good time:)
Goodness, I'm so sorry for your day turning out like that! It's every bride's nightmare!
Absolutely do the post wedding photo shoot! Hire a great photographer to do the shoot and glam yourself up! Also, maybe even gather a few friends together and re-celebrate your day...go out to dinner in your dress and his tux/suit! It's so much fun getting congratulated by strangers! Then you can have something memorable associated with your wedding.
Whoa, that's insane. I'm so sorry. WTH is up with that photog, I hope you get your deposit money back ASAP. You can definitely plan to do a photo shoot with someone else. Maybe a trash the dress session is in order- it seems as though that may fit with the whole "feel" of the wedding lol! Joking aside, you do deserve better and that really, really sucks. Maybe you guys can plan a kick-ass anniversary party or something down the road. Hang in there!
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I feel your pain, I really do. There were a number of things that went wrong on my day too.. But nothing like yours. That photographer is really unprofessional! And that is terrible that you have no pictures.
Hey, you should email Mrs. Avocado and ask her if she could come to Arizona and take pics for you! Her photography is AMAZING! Texas and Arizona are kind of close, right? JennaCole.com
Best of luck!
northernasbride, I totally didn't think of trashing the dress! Great idea!
mlkeysock- That's such a great idea! Have a mini celebration of our new marriage with some close friends! I would have never thought of that! I might actually just do this one!
Thank you for all the wonderful ideas!
in Europe you almost never take an outdoor session the same day that your wedding is happening.
It is actually a really good idea because you are more relaxed you don't have to worry about timing and you are actually enjoying yourself.
In US I think photographers are so expensive that you always try to fit everything within X amount of hours.
I say go for it, just make sure you pick a way better photographer!
Hey kireos- this definitely sounds like one of those situations of things getting so bad that it almost becomes comical. However, it is a wedding so I'm sure you weren't laughing. Still, if you had to pick a disaster wedding and happy marriage v. a happy wedding and disaster wedding... well I think we all know what we'd pick.
I say YES do whatever you want to do so that you have a momento of the wedding. But maybe even get creative with it, see if there is someone who will paint a portrait or a photographer who will do something really interesting and wacky for you guys, so that it doesn't feel like you're doing a fake wedding photo session but almost livening it up, like "wow our wedding was crazy!" and then later, having quite a story to tell to people who see the pictures. I don't know if you like that, but that is what I'd do with such a situation! Also, do any of your guests have pics? I know they're not professional, but you may want to see what they took!
I'm sorry you went through all of that. I would def. put the word out in your area on this photographer being so unprofessional- it would be a shame if others had to go throug hthis too.
I'm so sorry. I think your idea is a great one to salvage the crap that the photgrapher pulled on you.
You poor darling girl!! HUGS TO YOU!
Our wedding had elements like yours, my FIL was in the hospital and dying the week of our wedding, so we visited him there in the hospital making the whole reception go off very late. He died the following Sat. The best man's mom had a heart attack the morning of our wedding. When they prayed for these two people everyone started crying and running out the doors! My hubby was 20 min. late for the wedding. But eventually everyone had fun and we had a good time. I am so sorry that yours didn't turn out that way! You have my sympathy for all that planning and then the day went so far awry.
You should absolutely do new photographs. That's actually an in thing to do is take a photo session afterwards that is unique to the two of you. There's also a "trash the dress" photo session, which turns out amazingly cool and you get some incredible photos! If you want to do something like that, check out their site at
You will love these amazing photos even if you don't want to trash your dress~
You will get all sorts of fun ideas for incredibly unique photos. If you don't want to do that, just get an amazing photographer. and find a beautiful outdoor locale that you love, a park, a gazebo, a lake ....anything to add nature and beauty to your photos and have a complete photo session with just you and your husband. The two of you are what truly matters after all. You don't need thoe other people!
Oh yeah and ask some of your relatives and friends to send ALL of the photos they took from your wedding. You may get some surprises that are nice photos that you can also blow up! I took my nephew's whole wedding on a digital camera and we got some really beautiful shots! So make sure you put an email out to your guests asking them to do you one small favor and create a disk for you with all the photos they took of your wedding. I am sure they would be happy to do that for you, given all that you endured on that day!
May your love grow and blossom for many years...
Perhaps next year you can have an anniversary party/picnic and even a wedding cake, so you can capture that in photos, that will be the reception you never had. You deserve it!
blessings of joy & bliss,
Tammy
Hive hugs to you biiig time.
I have an idea. How about a VOW renwal next year on your first anniversary? A fabulous vacation renewal with you two and everything JUST as you want it!
I am so sorry all of this happened and maybe in time, this will become a fantastic story of "us", how you two became a family.
I know in my life there are some stories that I now look back at and smile about, but were stressful when they happened too!
I also think your idea of taking pics next month is FANTASTIC! What a good idea. You'll look perfect be relaxed, and already have the man of your dreams as your husband at your side. What could be better?
Have you gone on your honeymoon yet?
Let us know what you're doing! On your side, in your corner!
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I'm so sorry it was such an awful day...I admire your strength at trying to find ways to make it better.
considering that most people nowadays get their photos taken *before* they are married, I don't see why a month after is strange. You could do portraits plus "trash the dress" if you want even. And considering the craziness, you may prefer just having photos of you and your hubby decked out in the gear you got married in...b/c that's the part you want to remember about this day anyway:)
I completely second the photo shoot idea!
I saw a great wedding-in-a-restaurant idea a while back, it was in a magazine. Everyone went to a dinner/dancing club, it was so elegant. The bride wore a beautiful white evening gown and everyone was super dressed up, it was only about 10-15 people. Seems like a great idea for an anniversary party! :)
Check out the Sex and the City episode with Charlotte's second wedding - tons of things go wrong, but she eventually remembers that her first perfect wedding led to a disastrous first marriage, so for her the disasters are only a good omen.
Take some amazing pictures in your dress! And then go out to a fancy dinner with your husband. Tell the restaurant you're celebrating your three-week anniversary!
Wanting to pile on more Hive Hugs and agree that if the end result of such a rough day is a beautiful marriage you still come out on top!!!
Absolutely have your photo session!!!!!! And I agree with Bellenga, a vow renewal, at 5 years even if you can't do next year, will give you the do-over you deserve. And I think it will be even sweeter to celebrate AND reaffirm your marriage.
Please come and share your beautiful photos with us when you have them!!!
xoxo
Lori
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Definitely go for the pictures a month later. It will be so much less stressful and you will look very relaxed and happy in the pictures. I would probably even say that it would be better to have pictures taken before or after the wedding instead of that day. Anything can go wrong so if you aren't worried about the entire day, it won't be that bad.
OMG I am so sorry!! :( How awful on all accounts and I am so sad to hear everyhting that went wrong!
I'll just tell you that the post wedding photo session is something my photographer offeres on purpose because some couples don't want to spend the whole day taking pictures and others like me are scared it's going to pour rain all day and want some with actual sunlight. I am not opposed to the post wedding photo shoot, I say go for it! Have a dinner with your bridal party that night and it'll be like a 2nd wedding!
That is so awful!! I feel for you. Definitely do the post wedding shoot. I am a photographer and they are done all the time, not just when things go wrong on the day but just to go to some weird and wonderful locations. I have seen brides and her groom run into the ocean in their gown and tux and got amazing shots. Think of this as the perfect oppourtunity to get some fun shots, without the stress of everything having to be perfect. Google trash the dress - you dont actually trash it, just have some fun with it and then get it dry cleaned.
I am a photographer in Boston and am planning my own wedding, so can't imagine how I would feel if I was in you rposition. If I lived closer to you I would photograph you guys for free! You need someone to cut you a break! well if you are ever visiting the east coast, email me.
Also the photographer not showing up, boils my blood!!!
I hope you find a way to make good out of a bad situation!
I'm so sorry it turned out the way it did. I know it's not much in the way of comfort, but at least you can take solace in the fact that since you and your husband survived that, you can probably survive anything together :)
Personally, I think doing a post wedding shot is a fantastic idea. Maybe the two of you could even make a special day of it.
Wow...I am so sorry all that happened to you! But the Hive is right - the marriage is the most important part of the wedding and there is no correlation between perfect wedding day and perfect marriage!
I think mlkeysock and bellenga both have ideas. It's time to create new, better memories! :)
Sorry for everything that happened to you! I am glad you are able to recognize the difference between a good marriage and a good wedding.
Definately get the photoshoots...you could have a trash the dress type shoot, with both you and your husband. That way you can get pictures of both of you with amazing backgrounds. I am not sure where in arizona you live, but if you like the landscape there are some amazing places to get great pictures, all within a few hours drive.
*HUGS* So sorry. =( I hope your grandmother-in-law is doing better now.
Definitely demand a refund on the photographer, and of COURSE it's not silly to want to hire another photographer to do up some wedding photos for you. *HUGS*
Absolutely go out and get pictures re-taken!!!!! You might not be able to capture of the moments of the day - but you HAVE to have pics. Choose the prettiest park or place near you and have your husband get back in a tux - it'll SO be worth it.
I agree with everyone saying to ABSOLUTELY get a refund. a FULL refund from that photographer. Wow would I be PISSED!
Hope your grandmother-in-law is doing better!
also - I am SO sorry you had such a horrible experience. :( HUGS!!!!
I think your idea is great and that you should go for it. I would want keepsakes too. ((Hugs!!))
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Wow, I don't even know what to say except I am so sorry to hear what happened at your wedding! :( I would DEFINTELY do a photo-shoot now & then also have a vow renewal on your one-year anniversary!
my heart is breaking for you.
i highly recommend doing an after wedding shoot. call it a newlywed shoot like we did! get all dressed up in your gown. rent a tux. get a bouquet + bout. hair + makeup. the works. and take it all in. you'll have a blast.
Wow, my heart goes out to you... I am so sorry to hear about everything that happened, NO ONE is deserving of that on what should be the best day of their lives. What a shitty photographer... you must get your money back, too...
To answer your question, I don't think it's ridiculous AT ALL to hire another photographer and "stage" after the fact. People have "day after sessions" all the time, and while this won't be the next day you are so deserving to still have your photos taken. Do it ASAP because you will regret it and you will even think more back to what a bad day it was without having any hanging pictures. Maybe it is better that you take them after the fact because, as someone else said, that day is over and the weight should be off you and now you can relax. Go for it!
OH GOSH HUGS i would be crying and ranting too aybe for your 20 or 10 anviersary you can do a redo commintment ceremony.
:HUGS: I am so sorry to hear about what happened. I hope that your husband's grandmother is recovering well. I love the idea of being able to have another photography session. You will be so much more relaxed and you won't have to worry about timing and you can get an amazing photographer!!
I am so happy to hear that you got your money back. That is so unprofessional, and I can't believe that anyone would do that to another human being. Good luck and enjoy your second reception!
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Let's just say, my wedding was not picture perfect....infact, it was horrific! Everything that could have gone wrong...DID! My maid of honor forgot to grab the flowers and bring them to the ceremony site, a family member forgot to pick up the wedding cake, my husband forgot to grab his ring, my husband's grandmother had a stroke at the reception and had to be taken to the ER (so the reception ended early because every one pretty much left once the paramedics arrived) and it just continues on from there! The one that really gets me is that the photographer I hired didn't even bother to show up! I had talked to the photographer two days before the wedding to make sure she had the right time and the right address. She confirmed everything was corrected and that she would be there. However, she never showed and it took 5 people an hour to call around and finally reach her to see what happened. She said she "forgot" and was "terrible sorry". I'm outraged because I have no pictures to remember the day! I can honestly say besides being married to the love of my life, that this is the worst day ever!
Sorry for the ranting, but I do have a question to put out there for all of you. I would really love pictures to hang in my home of our wedding day, but since my photographer didn't bother to show up I have nothing. Would it be okay to hire another photographer and take wedding photos sometime in a month or so? Would that be too silly to even consider? I'm just extremely and emotional exhausted from the wedding but I'm still trying to make it somewhat right.....to make it something I won't regret. I dunno, I'm just a wreck about it all.
All advice is welcome!
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